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[indaycare]

Hi everyone 

The guy that i been talking.. saying his laptop need to be fix for two weeks, since then we still communicate to each other i called him 5 to 6 times a day, he called me once or twice a day, yes i called him more than he does. sometimes i asked why you don't call me? he answered me saying oh.. i was waiting for you to call me     yea my eyes are getting big and rolling at that moment. i was thinking man he earn more than i do.. his just simple stingy i guess lol... i don't know... even do am little  bit disappointed his answered i still keep going talking to him everything was great.

All of the sudden...

weekend before valentines... and the next weekend. i called his cellphone like 150 times, i emailed his face book and aol account no answer. days past by i give up and i decide to delete him from my face book friends list. out of no where yesterday he emailed me in my fb account.

"email saying..

" i had car problems so I had my car towed to the auto dealer...I left my phone in the tow truck all weekend long....I just got my phone back on Monday at around 1030 in the morning....why did u remove me from friend list....."


Okay.... he left his phone in the truck right? how come before he left hes phone somewhere.. he emailed me right away, he went to the apartment office just to email me to let me know... because he knows that if i don't hear from him i'll be worried.

Dang... my instincts giving me bad sign and i'm very sure something happened.

[Gato4Astrid]

Hello Indaycare

I am sorry but I do not believe a word he had said to you.  If he loves you, he would have called you.  I think it is time for you to move on and forget about him.

Even if he had left his phone in the tow truck, why didn't he contact you by e-mail?  Did his dog eat his computer?

By the way, how long have you known him?  If you had known him for a short time, it is not appropriate to keep calling him 5 or 6 times everyday.  It depends on what his schedule is.

I don't speak to my girlfriend 5-6 times a day.  We speak through MSN 1-2 a day everyday but 2 hours. 

[z_k_g]

All of the sudden...

weekend before valentines... and the next weekend. i called his cellphone like 150 times, i emailed his face book and aol account no answer. days past by i give up and i decide to delete him from my face book friends list. out of no where yesterday he emailed me in my fb account.
 
Dang... my instincts giving me bad sign and i'm very sure something happened.

Indaycare,

He's a butterfly, has a girlfriend(s).

End of story.

If you want to continue this relationship, up too you, but now you know!

Zulu

[ignorante]

I would never call a woman more than once a day, and maybe not even that often.   I have no Facebook or other social networking stuff online.

 

Did not hear from him or receive even a token gift on Valentine's Day? 

That would indicate a serious problem to me.

[Bob_S]

Do you want to hear the truth?  Or do you want to hear something to make you feel better. 

[william3rd]

Indaycare,

He's a butterfly, has a girlfriend(s).

End of story.

If you want to continue this relationship, up too you, but now you know!

Zulu

Agreed- he is playing. Probably has some local talent to play with. Or- he is pretty lame, leaving his cell phone in the car and not retrieving it over the weekend. Most likely is he didnt want to answer it due to other "commitments."

Either way- move on.

You can do well for yourself. You present well and should have no problem finding a real guy.

[Ray]

Inday,

Trust your instincts.

If you decide not to dump him now, at least slow down and be VERY wary from now on.

Kuya Ray

[Researcher]

    Nothing on Valentine's Day convinces me this guy is just playing around.



      Researcher

[indaycare]

Do you want to hear the truth?  Or do you want to hear something to make you feel better. 

Hey Bob,
Of course i wanna know the truth.

Inday

[indaycare]

He's a butterfly, has a girlfriend(s).

Hey Zulu,

I was thinking the same...

[piglett]

Inday
slow down girl !!!
you mite just scare off a good one
if a guy has a job & other responsibilities too he mite not be able to call you 10 times a day & he mite make a run for it if you call him 5 times a day(i know in mite have with my now pinay wife)

now as far as this "boy" you have been talking to
even if his laptop was not working & his phone was missing
i bet all of his friends have a computer so he could have email you if he wished to
be kind to yourself & head back to the pond & catch a better fish
the one you have is a "player"
there are plenty of real men out there you just have to find them

good luck
piglett 

[indaycare]

By the way, how long have you known him?  If you had known him for a short time, it is not appropriate to keep calling him 5 or 6 times everyday.  It depends on what his schedule is.

Hey Gato,

i known him for a month now. i know his schedule, i called him the time that i know his having lunch break or something. it's just short calls actually, you know just to say hello, how's your day so far, or just simply saying i miss you.

at first it look like we're both in to it. we talked as often as we could. but when the valentines come he seem like... he got no time for me. and now he started talking to me again.. to be honest the exciting part of me knowing him is totally gone. i was really turn off.

Indaycare

[piglett]

Hey Gato,

i known him for a month now. i know his schedule, i called him the time that i know his having lunch break or something. it's just short calls actually, you know just to say hello, how's your day so far, or just simply saying i miss you.

at first it look like we're both in to it. we talked as often as much we could. but when the valentines come he seem like... he got no time for me. and now he started talking to me again.. to be honest the exciting part of me knowing him is totally gone. i was really turn off.

Indaycare

I' m sorry this guy treated you like this


piglett

[indaycare]

Agreed- he is playing. Probably has some local talent to play with. Or- he is pretty lame, leaving his cell phone in the car and not retrieving it over the weekend. Most likely is he didnt want to answer it due to other "commitments."

Either way- move on.

You can do well for yourself. You present well and should have no problem finding a real guy.

Hey William,

thank you. at this moment what ever he say i always have second thoughts, yes i'm trying to move on....

Indaycare,

[indaycare]

Inday,

Trust your instincts.

If you decide not to dump him now, at least slow down and be VERY wary from now on.

Kuya Ray

I'am kuya Ray

[michaelb]

You've been talking to him for a month, and for at least a week of that month he's been "missing"? Girl, you can do better.

[indaycare]

Did not hear from him or receive even a token gift on Valentine's Day? 

None!

Indaycare,

[robert angel]

Inday,

At best, this guy seems insensitive. I would think he could find a computer or borrow a friends phone somewhere, if you were important enough to him.

It is really hard to know without knowing all the real facts, but I have a hunch that there could be other ladies he's involved with--he might even be married and just trying to make his ego feel good.

You're a pretty lady and intelligent too and you don't deserve doubt and foolishness.

[indaycare]

You're a pretty lady and intelligent too and you don't deserve doubt and foolishness.

weee  Thank you Robert!

Indaycare,

[indaycare]

Inday
slow down girl !!!
you mite just scare off a good one
if a guy has a job & other responsibilities too he mite not be able to call you 10 times a day & he mite make a run for it if you call him 5 times a day(i know in mite have with my now pinay wife)

now as far as this "boy" you have been talking to
even if his laptop was not working & his phone was missing
i bet all of his friends have a computer so he could have email you if he wished to
be kind to yourself & head back to the pond & catch a better fish
the one you have is a "player"
there are plenty of real men out there you just have to find them

good luck
piglett 

Haha... i don't think he run away because i called him 5 to 6 times a day. actually he said i'm very passionate and he's loving it.

Indaycare,

[z_k_g]

Inday
slow down girl !!!
you mite just scare off a good one
if a guy has a job & other responsibilities too he mite not be able to call you 10 times a day & he mite make a run for it if you call him 5 times a day(i know in mite have with my now pinay wife)

Porky,

I think the guy is just playing games.

He is on the other side of the planet, I think its reasonable to call her at least once a day, or email or text.

Zulu

[Researcher]

         I was dating this lady and things were progressing well. We weren't committed  to each other but I was thinking about it. One day I stopped hearing from her. No emails or phone calls, nothing. I waited a couple of weeks and after trying to get in touch with her with no success I moved on. A couple of months after she stopped talking to me I received an email from her. She said that she had to have surgery and was in the hospital. I knew she was having some health issues but she never mentioned the possibility of surgery. She wanted to resume where we had left off but it was too late. I figured she had lost interest so I moved on and started dating the woman who is now my wife. I told her that I had moved on and didn't want to continue the relationship. Needless to say she didn't like that very much.

        I didn't feel bad at all. She had my email and phone number. IMHO, even if you are in the hospital, you can somehow get a message to someone, especially by email.If you can't do it you can have someone do it for you.

        That's that way I feel about your situation Inday. This guy could get a message to you.


      Researcher

[z_k_g]

Inday,

No Valentines?

What's with this guy?

The more I hear, the more I hope you dump this guy, Quickly!

Don't invest anymore emotional time or energy into this relationship or you will end up more hurt than you already are!

Set your standards, communicate those standards, come to an agreement and then observe and verify!

Zulu

[piglett]

Porky,

I think the guy is just playing games.

He is on the other side of the planet, I think its reasonable to call her at least once a day, or email or text.

Zulu

i always emailed or sent a text to Marily every day before & after we married.

as far as him being a game player , i think so too

pork, the other white meat 

[indaycare]

Inday,

No Valentines?

What's with this guy?

The more I hear, the more I hope you dump this guy, Quickly!

Don't invest anymore emotional time or energy into this relationship or you will end up more hurt than you already are!

Set your standards, communicate those standards, come to an agreement and then observe and verify!

Zulu

To be honest his dead to me right now. his talking to me but i wans't paying attention on what hes been saying. no matter how busy i am i find ways to communicate with my partner... that's who i am. i really believe the key of having good relationship is to have a good communication.

this three things very important communication, sex and money.