Hello

[imalways]

Hi guys.  I'm new around these parts.  I was recently engaged to a girl but it was called off.  Now that she is *ahem* gone, I thought I'd always try to pursue a different kind of girl I was interested in when I was younger - a mentally and physically appealing eastern girl. 

I signed up for DateInAsia.com and my picture was finally approved early this morning and I've already received 20 messages (seems suspiciously too many), not including replies.  I'm trying to look through the site to find things to avoid.  I already enjoy reading your posts

[thekfc]

Hi imalways.
Welcome to PL.

Take the time to read the various posts & don't be afraid to ask questions, we are all here to learn & help each other.

[robert angel]

Welcome Ima,

Yea--you'll always get a bunch of hits when you're new to a site, so be careful. Various other sites will let you create profiles for free and  although you have to pay to corrrespond, but at least you can gauge 'interest' and probably even see some of the same players running their games approaching you.

It's not an absolute black mark, but if they have been on the site for a long period of time, there might be some reasons for them being 'on the shelf' for so long. Then again, maybe a gal was online and involved with one or two guys for a while and they just didn't pan out. It's up to you to guess what the 'real deal' is.

It's real easy to over look things you should notice, signs, red flags, etc,  when a woman is really super pretty.

Some scammers will jump on the new guy every time, playing the law of averages.

I guess some sites tell you who is supposedly new to a site, but I guess people can drop out, post new profiles, etc. If I was looking, I'd probably be more interested in a lady from a not too huge city--maybe even a provincial barangay (village) area, who has at least some college and who's new to the internet match making game and hasn't had ten thousand guys already ask to see her hooters on cam and as such, has a justifiably jaded view of a lot of the guys online. I didn't even have a thousand women ask to see my willy on cam, but guys and gals certainly are different in many ways!

Enjoy the attention, but learn the ropes as you go and feel free to ask q's here and share some of the inevitable, funny on line experiences with us!

good luck!

[Jeff S]

Hi and welcome. Have you picked a country yet, or just casting about to see what's out there?

- Jeff

[piglett]

Good to have ya here Always


piglett

[Capstone]

Welcome Aboard!

Good luck with your search - there are plenty of good women out there. Are you interested in any particular country? Have you ever traveled to any Asian countries?

[imalways]

Hehe, thank you all.  Robert that good information to have .

I didn't really pick a country but I'm cautious about people from from Thailand.  I have been talking to a charming girl from the Philippines.

I never been out of the States myself.

[Dave H]

Hi imalways,

Welcome to P-L! Good Luck!

Dave

[Shadow_mas]

Hi imalways, the first thing you need to do when starting on international dating is have a good look in the mirror.
You have never been out of the States, but are you prepared to travel ? That includes having a passport and not being afraid of some 'alien' habits.
Also you should think on having the time and resources to travel. Its not as easy as it seems on agency sites to find a good wife, you might have to try several times.
Once you found the right woman, the road to living together starts.
There is no need to be rich, but you got to have your financials in good order.

Are you still not scared ? Then you passed the first step.

[Bob_S]

Welcome to the hunt!
    
First off, get a passport ASAP.  You'll need to eventually, so you might as well get that part out of the way.  You WILL need to travel internationally.  If you can't do that, you are pretty much eliminated from the game unless you got the patience to try to find a foreign gal living near you.  But they are being pursued by a million other guys living around you.  Your odds aren't all that good.

20 responses is not uncommon, but you are right to be cautious.  They fall into a few categories:
The Scammer - will find a way to get you to send money for their sick mother, sick grandmother, college tuition, sister's rent, or just to show you her boobs on web cam, etc.  They tip their hand pretty quick.  Leave them for the lonely suckers who are fine with sending cash to a girl they never met for the illusion of having a gf far away.
The Visa Shark - her goal is to get to America (Canada, UK, Australia, etc) any way possible.  Hard to spot because they are as sweet as honey, but there are signs and flags to watch for.  Once they arrive, they will either quickly disappear into their ethnic community or actually marry you to get legal status and then disappear.
The English Leech - Harmless, just wants to practice her English.  A time waster if your goal is to find a wife because she has no intention of marrying a foreigner and leaving her country.  But could become a good friend to know should you ever travel to her country.
The Husband Hunter - legitimately looking for a good (as she defines it) husband.  This is the one you want to get to know to see if you are compatible.

Stick around and learn the rules (guidelines, really ) for a successful quest!

[thekfc]

The English Leech - Harmless, just wants to practice her English.  A time waster if your goal is to find a wife because she has no intention of marrying a foreigner and leaving her country.  But could become a good friend to know should you ever travel to her country.

I had a few of these, I still have about 2 of them who still send me messages. One of them is a great source of "info" for me.

[michaelb]

English leech - I'm with KFC, not only are they good sources of information about the culture and political situation of their home country, they have friends, some of whom may well be in the husband hunter category. 

[z_k_g]

Welcome Aboard Imalways!

I found my sweetie on DateInAsia, look a my posts and you will  gain from my experience.

We are here to help and there are some really great resources that can save you a lot of time and pain!

Oh yeah...Ray may be a bit direct, but he will not lead you the wrong way!

Most importantly, don't wear  your feelings on your shoulder, guys here have been there and done that!  They will give you the honest answer or opinion that you may not like!

Good Luck!

Zulu

[Ethan14]

imalways,

Welcome, there is a lot of great info here. Dateinasia is okay for a free website and I use it myself to chat with Filipina girls. But there are a lot of fakes and scammers on it. If you are more serious about finding a partner I think you should at least check out Filipinaheart.com. There are some scammers on it too but I feel like it might be easier to find a good girl on there. There is a subscription charge but I think it is at least worth checking out. I plan to sign up for it when I am ready to commit to a girl and make a trip over there.

-Ethan

[robert angel]

Ethan,

It's great to see you posting--'back in the mix' again. Even if you're not ready to make the big commitment and flights yet, it's always nice to see you adding your perspective.

[Ethan14]

Thanks Robert. I'm still lurking around, reading pretty much every new post in the Asian sections here. Hopefully I'll have more to add as time goes on!

[robert angel]

Re:

>>Are you still not scared ? Then you passed the first step.<<

Nah---Remember the movie trailer for--I think it was the movie "Aliens':

>>Be scared, be VERY Scared"

Is more applicable to how many of us feel, although usually unnecessarily.

I Remember before I went to the Philippines for the first time. I read all the Govt.--State Dept Advisories against travel in the area--I even had a family member get one from a huge corporation and it wasn't much better---it was over the top cautious.

I thought I might get robbed, kidnapped and beheaded.

As it turned out, violent crime and theft is much more common here in my own city in the USA

[evoltnvii]

i found my girl on filipinaheart.com so i can say from experience there are plenty of good ones there.

just take your time i cant stress that enough time is your friend

good luck and welcome