EVERY person in this game does it for a reason.
Men do it because they can't find what they desire here.
Women do it because they can't find what they desire there.
When either person inserts economics as the PRIMARY reason for choosing a mate it simply becomes a recipe for disaster. One has to be EXTREMELY careful and deliberate when dealing with an economic refugee.
Don't get married for Love and expect Money.
Don't get married for Money and expect Love.
Some of us here are divorced, and even worse with children with whom we have zero (in my case) or limited contact. And that's AFTER a financially and emotionally costly divorce.
I've been fortunate in my life, and I NEVER take it for granted. As anyone else there have been some things that went bump in the middle of the night and things I have done that in retrospect I don't want anyone to know about (nothing major, just embarrassing).
One thing that I will never reconcile, is my inability to maintain a relationship with my daughters. I Know I tried my hardest...compromised...made sacrifices.
All for naught. I think about my girls EVERY DAY. A relationship, hopelessly shattered beyond repair. But at the end of the day, I have to take care of ME.
Asian Women generally have a different attitude about marriage. That's good, overall. But it can also be troublesome. If an Asian Woman becomes "fully" Americanized, there's "gonna" be trouble. Our screwed up society has ZERO empathy for Men, especially after he brought home a poor waif from Asia.
The point I'm trying to make here is that this endeavor we pursue is VERY dangerous. We walk in with our hearts on our sleeves and our guard down. The most basic, DNA-level wants and needs of a Man, and we throw caution to the wind.
There are people here that are married to Asian Women. I wish them all well, and a long and in some cases a "fruitful"
relationship. Just the same there are Men here who will crash and burn in a spectacular fashion.
I find it amazing that someone would marry without careful consideration. But I HAVE seen it done before, and successfully.
Serendipity?
Perhaps so.
But I wouldn't take that bet. All you Men who are considering this adventure:
Read the archives! Pay attention!
Guys on this forum won't knowingly steer you wrong. There's no economic agenda here. But if you think that's all there is to it, I have some stock tips for you.
