My Taguig City trip report

[thekfc]

I am here in Metro Manila enjoying myself. I am staying in Taguig City about 1 1/2 blocks from where my lady family lives.

I arrived last Friday. This is my first time being online since I left the USA. My girl have been taking me all over he place that I have had no time to be online.

My girl is more beautiful in person than in her pictures. Her family is so wonderful - I am amazed, they are so welcoming that all my worried and fears have gone away.

So far I have rode the tri-cycle (4 times) & jeepney (twice). As for driving in Manila, it is crazy - the vehicles & people all moving along in sequence without any accidents-that is something hat 99.99% of New Yorkers will not be able to do.
Also, yesterday, I experienced m first "brownout".

I have been to the Mall Of Asia - it is huge - I will go there again before I leave Manila.

Tomorrow I will be visiting the American Museum.

As for the food - it is wonderful. There are a few things that I do not care for.

I have been taking pictures but I left the USB cable to my camera at home. I will upload when I bring my laptop to the cafe & hook it up - my lappy have a USB reader.

I gotta run now - they are about to take me out.

PS. My status is about to change from looking to committed.

Also my girl say hi to everyone.

[Dave H]

Hi thekfc,

Welcome to the Philippines! It sounds like things are going great! Good luck!

Dave

[bcc_1_2]

PS. My status is about to change from looking to committed.

Whoa continue to have lots of fun... but maybe not put so much pressure on this... you've just been there a couple days.

[jm21-2]

It's OK to be committed after a few days but please think twice about getting engaged on this trip.

[Ray]

It's OK to be committed after a few days but please think twice about getting engaged on this trip.

I think I will have to disagree this time.

If she is a keeper, go ahead and pop the question. From your previous posts, I figured your mind was pretty much made up already anyway.   

Ray

[robert angel]

Sounds like the "Special K" has found someone special! He's done a good bit of leg work and regardless of whether he pops the question or not, he'll have a good amount of time to revisit the decision. It's just real hard to get engaged and call it off later when you've got a good heart and intentions, not wanting to hurt someone you care for.

It's an important decision and God willing, the rest of your life will be a long time, so decide wisely.

It for sure didn't work out on my first couple trips and I was pretty close to 'popping the question' with my second gal, but I'm glad I didn't. I came back home and gave it some serious reflection. I'm glad to say that with both of them, even though it didn't work out, we're still in touch a once or twice  a year--mostly at Xmas for holiday best wishes. We're respectfully appropriate friends to this day and as it's very minimal and my chat archive open, it's not a marital issue. I've never been the type to burn bridges behind me, relationship wise, but I don't make any pretense of my not being commited to my marriage to anyone.

[jm21-2]

Sounds like the "Special K" has found someone special! He's done a good bit of leg work and regardless of whether he pops the question or not, he'll have a good amount of time to revisit the decision. It's just real hard to get engaged and call it off later when you've got a good heart and intentions, not wanting to hurt someone you care for.

It's an important decision and God willing, the rest of your life will be a long time, so decide wisely.

It for sure didn't work out on my first couple trips and I was pretty close to 'popping the question' with my second gal, but I'm glad I didn't. I came back home and gave it some serious reflection.

Exactly...give yourself a bit of distance from holding hands and cuddling with that fun beautiful girl, clear your head, and give it some serious thought back home. It's possible that her behavior may change once you get back home too.

When I was in China her brother-in-law offered me a very special gift that was meant for her future husband. I am SOOOOO glad that I (with her help) avoided that one. Wow it would have been hard to let things die after that. Both of you should want to be absolutely certain about things before getting engaged.

[thekfc]

She is a keeper. Yes my mind was made up before I step foot on the Philippines. Meeting her & her family sealed it.

This may sound strange to some of you but something was drawing me to her. Even my dead best friend came to me in my dreams around x-mas time & told me to go meet Ahya.

I have weight the pros & cons - over & over again. I did a good bit of leg work. Everything tells me go for it.

As for pooping the question - I already have.

[michaelb]

Yeah? And what did she reply?

[thekfc]

Yeah? And what did she reply?

YES

[thekfc]

This is my girl Ahya.

[thekfc]

These are her nieces & nephews

[michaelb]

Well that's good. Now don't waste any time getting those papers filed. Then comes the hard part, the waiting. So anyway, best wishes to you both.

[Dave H]

What a difference a continent makes...guys here are talking about getting engaged on the first trip (I did) or after several, while guys over on the Latin Board are discussing whether the rule for deciding if a Latina is really interested in you should be her screwing you by the second date or fourth.

Dave

[Dave H]

She is a keeper. Yes my mind was made up before I step foot on the Philippines. Meeting her & her family sealed it.



As for pooping the question - I already have.

Hey thekfc,

Congratulations to you and Ahya!!! Pretty lady!

I became engaged on my first trip to the Philippines to meet my lady and after 10 years of being together (almost 9 married) I am damn glad I did!!! I only wished that I would have married her in the Philippines in a Catholic Church wedding. We will probably do a church wedding in the Philippines on our 10th anniversary. Something always seems to come up to postpone our plans. We were going to do it this year, but her brother decided to get married. It is customary to only have one wedding in the immediate family per year. We don't really care, but it is a superstition here, that I believe started with the Tagalogs.

Good Luck!

Dave

[Ray]

     


     

[robert angel]

The first trip to the RP can make you feel like you're in some different sort of Disney World. You're with some exotic doll who's probably pampering you to no end, relatives who smile a lot and all kinds of things are boosting your feelings. Plus, the pressure's really on unspoken or not, for you to 'make the decision'.

Sometimes it's best to wait until you get back (post real earth re entry) to decide on formally proposing engagement. You can tell her it's only fair that she should get to decide objectively without your immediate pressure, that you want it to be forever and it's an important decision. It's easier for me to say it here than for someone to say it face to face with tears in the eyes, doing it when you're still all giddy with 'love' and all that schmaltz, but some things  really need serious thought before making a commitment.

It's hard to think clearly when you're punch drunk with love, but once the engagement train is running, it's a sobering reality and a difficult situation to change.

Kfc has thought through the ins and outs more than most guys --many who just jump into a marriage and I am optimistic for him, but we all need to remember--'forever' is a really long time, if we're lucky....

[Capstone]

Congratulations KFC!! It's great to hear that your trip has turned out to be a total success. My wife and I decided to get engaged shortly after I returned from my first visit and I don't regret that decision at all - you just know its right when you meet THE lady.

Keep the trip reports coming - I really like to read reports from guys who are visiting a country for the first time because I am interested in what their first impressions of things are. Have fun!

[Dave H]

The first trip to the RP can make you feel like you're in some different sort of Disney World. You're with some exotic doll who's probably pampering you to no end, relatives who smile a lot and all kinds of things are boosting your feelings. Plus, the pressure's really on unspoken or not, for you to 'make the decision'.

It's hard to think clearly when you're punch drunk with love, but once the engagement train is running, it's a sobering reality and a difficult situation to change.

Hey Rob,

I guess it was different for me. The Philippines didn't feel like Disney World to me, but South Florida with some very poor thrown in or Latin America. She didn't have the smiley relatives, but they were friendly. Having grown up with Latinas, the "exotic" thing is the norm for me and I am able to think with the big head. The big difference was that most Filipinas are more conservative and don't shag at the drop of a sombrero. Sex was not part of the equation in the Philippines when I met my wife, so my mind was very clear.  My wife didn't hold my hand, let alone kiss me. She walked in front from me in public, pretending we were not together. I thought that she wasn't interested in me! Fortunately, her sister is a friend of mine and told me the opposite was true. So I hung in there, remembering all of the great conversations and letters we had shared. After a few days, things got back to normal and we had some great conversations and a very nice time being in each others company.  We were seldom alone, but I didn't mind. I popped the question after a few weeks. Later I realized (should have known already) that my wife was very shy, embarrassed easily, and conservative. She does not like to be the center of attention. People would tease her  if they saw her with the big Kano. People often thought Filipinas with Kanos were bar girls (many still do), which caused my wife to kick one Filipino's azz! I was impressed! Then she squished a huge cockroach wearing her slippers (flip flops). Ater seeing all of that, I had no doubt that she was the woman for me! It is not so bad today, especially in the big cities. I only saw one other Kano (Australian missionary) on my first trip. Filipinas in the big cities tend to be less conservative, especially if they are far from home.

Internet chat was not that big back then. Now many people assume that we met on the Internet which gets rather annoying! Not that there is anything wrong with Internet chat, although I still prefer personal introductions. Many Filipinas ask my wife "How did you meet your husband...On the Internet!" They don't even let her answer the question before they answer it for her. They assume that she is some uneducated, poor girl from the bundok who met a Kano while chatting at an Internet cafe, while her dad plowed the fields with a carabao and sold a kidney to pay for her Internet time chatting with Kanos and her mom popped out a few dozen kids...now they hit the lottery and all live like the Beverly Hillbillies in a mansion, flush the toilets with a solid 24K gold tabo and live at the expense of some dumbazz Kano! Very common with jealous Filipinas and especially with feminists!  A retired teacher did that to my wife at the gym the other day. My wife recognized her as a teacher at the private school that she attended (K-10) with her siblings and graduated from the university with a BSN. The teacher didn't recognize my wife at first, then got her tongue in a knot when she found out who she was.  

Dave

[jm21-2]

A few weeks, maybe, but sounds like KFC had only been there about 3 days before popping the question.

[robert angel]

Must have been that dang thong, Dave--they do take some getting used to, hehehe...

[Dave H]

Must have been that dang thong, Dave--they do take some getting used to, hehehe...

Hey Rob,

It may have been... Can you imagine a dude in a thong in the Philippines!   In Latin America (Speedoland), it might fly, especially if you have a huge gold cross on your hairy chest and your own posse...besides no one would even notice with all of the fine ladies wearing theirs! But the PI, where Filipinas go to the beach wearing T-shirts and shorts and a few daring ones wear a 1 piece swimsuit underneath.   Speaking of hairy chests...my daughter gets a kick out of trimming my chest carpet with her kid's safety sissors. She has me almost bald of leg, arm, armpit, back, and chest hair. Hmmm...my wife doesn't seem to mind...you don't suppose she put my daughter up to it? I noticed that she has a lot of money in her purse for a 6 year old!  

Dave

[piglett]

Hey Congratulations KFC & Ahya



piglett

[thekfc]

I finally got a chance to get to a computer again.

The decision to get engage is not something that I "rushed" into. It is something that I "planned". Me meeting her in person - now I know that I am making the right decision. I will not go into details but I think that a few of the guys know where I stand. 

I have spoken to many women over the pass year or so. There were "drop dead" gorgeous women who contacted me, women who will make guys head turn. There was a lady who contacted me & for a minute I though that she was Kim Chiu older sister, that is how beautiful she was. But that was not what I was looking for. I found what I was looking for in Ahya.
Chatting with her (email, YM, Skype, telephone) & meeting her in person confirm it.

Yes, I could have delayed the engagement. But why should I? I already found what I was looking for.

A lot of people asked me why didn't I have a backup plan to see other ladies. Well.....................

[thekfc]

I am about to go to Makati.
I will make a feedback report on my views of The Philippines (so far) when I return/have a chance.