Interested in an Asian bride

[jm21-2]

I think there's a difference between supporting the family and sending some money back as gifts. I spent more on my parent's x-mas present than the Taiwanese girl I'm going to meet sent to her mom as a gift this year. Also no need to deal with family members trying to scam you or guilt her or take advantage of her.

The Chinese girls I've known all want to work. And none of them could cook anything but really basic dishes. I think the percent of Chinese girls who would like to and have the skills to be a good house-wife is probably much higher amongst those girls who have not gone to college. The college girls were usually a bit pampered growing up and if they have a decent job there's no reason for them to learn house-wife skills. Eating out is dirt cheap and their company may provide serviced housing, or they can easily afford an 1/8th time or so maid. I'm guessing many would have their mom teach them some cooking techniques if they were getting married for fear of being seen as a bad wife.

I studied Japanese for 4 years as well as taking courses in Japanese culture and history (not to mention watching a ton of Japanese cinema) and really enjoy most aspects of Japanese culture, but not sure I'd want to be married to it. Japanese people seem a little too uptight and urban, and there is a lot of Japanese food I don't like. It also seems a lot more difficult to meet a Japanese girl who wants to have a long distance relationship with an American guy that results in her moving over here.

I really appreciate how laid back and friendly Chinese girls are but on average do not find them attractive physically.

It's always going to be some sort of compromise.

[Bob_S]

not sure I'd want to be married to it. Japanese people seem a little too uptight and urban,

Yeah, they can be pretty inscrutable at times.

and there is a lot of Japanese food I don't like.

Can't argue with you there!  Each time I go back, there's one more thing I'll try that I avoided before, but my missus still has to warn people (like her mother when she's preparing dinner) that I don't eat certain things like raw sliced mollusk.

It also seems a lot more difficult to meet a Japanese girl who wants to have a long distance relationship with an American guy that results in her moving over here.

Well, I know one who is if silvertide isn't interested and things don't work out with your Taiwanese sorta-kinda-maybe girlfriend. 

I really appreciate how laid back and friendly Chinese girls are

I noticed that.  IMHO, Chinese are to Japanese what Americans are to Brits, only less friendly to each other. 

[Dave H]

In Latin America women will approach you to say hello and "practice english". Even if they don't approach you their eyes and expressions give them away. They wear their heart on their sleave. The difference is her signal will ring loud and clear (assuming she's sincere) and you'll know where you stand. Here its a bunch of [snip]ing mind games.

Same in South Florida...unfortunately I have had husbands and boyfriends pissed at me and I didn't do anything! I don't think my Filipina wife really appreciated it (very calm and rational compared to Latinas and ) when some Latinas would even knock on our door with some lame excuse! I have had many Latina girlfriends and an ex-wife go totally ballistic for much less!!! It was tough being one of the few gringos in town...I felt like a piece of meat!    At my age (I think I have sowed all of my wild oats), it is nice to be in living in the Philippines where most women are very shy and conservative!  Even ho's look innocent. In the Philippines, saying hello to "practice English" is usually only done by school girls (who really want to practice their English)...or ho's. If any lady approached or stared at me here...I would run away fast!  

Dave

[robert angel]

Yea Dave, but I bet you walk ten feet away from your wife at the mall, and other public places and those girls/women who are too shy or conservative to talk to you and don't know you or your wife, want to know all about how you got together with her!

[fschmidt]

Man what a self deprecating post. After reading it all you seem like a nice guy... my concerns would be as follows... self-esteem and confidence.

Without experience (relating to) women and confidence issues I really wonder if time with a therapist could be the most important thing you should do before traveling abroad?

Hopefully when you decide to go overseas you'll feel confident approaching women and conversing with them.

Any reason why you've never grabbed some friends and gone out to a bar or club?
If you where my friend I'd get a few margaritas in you and hassle you all night until you spoke with some ladies.

I mean after reading your post this can't be all on AW... you come off as extremely shy which is something you will need to work on.

I'm not trying to hate... just trying to get you to think about being proactive (which you have already started doing in thinking about Chinese ladies).

I just want to say how much I disagree with this post, and to encourage silvertide to go ahead with his plan to date abroad.  Like silvertide, I had no luck with American women.  But having traveled, I know that the problem is entirely with American women.  American women are the worst people that I have seen in this world and so naturally they are attracted to the worst guys.  Being rejected by American women should be taken as a complement, sort of like the devil rejecting someone from entering hell because they aren't bad enough.  (I'm an atheist, that is only an analogy.)  After being repeatedly rejected by American women, I went to Mexico and found my wife easily enough.

[Jeff S]

I agree. There are some very good reasons why you shouldn't mix alcohol and AW. It distorts your vision for one thing:

[robert angel]

Jeff S--that picture demonstrating alcohol's devastating effect on visual perceptual ability had me laughing out loud--thanks. Haven't seen Dave H. posting in here much lately, but you both keep me in stitches!

[Dave H]

Yea Dave, but I bet you walk ten feet away from your wife at the mall, and other public places and those girls/women who are too shy or conservative to talk to you and don't know you or your wife, want to know all about how you got together with her!

Hey Rob,

They all assume that we met through chat. When they do ask my wife it is always, "How did you meet your foreign husband...CHAT!" They always answer the question before my wife has a chance to. Now we just say "CHAT" or we make up some bar name like the "Pussy Cat Bar." 

I arrived in the US (South Florida) on Wednesday for my annual medical. I could do it in the Philippines but much too complicated with all of the damn paperwork and BS.

Dave

[Jeff S]

If you went through LAX and didn't let me know, I'm going to be highly offended.

[Dave H]

If you went through LAX and didn't let me know, I'm going to be highly offended.

Hey Jeff,

It was kind of late..so I didn't think that you would mind.  I will be going back to the Philippines in a few weeks. I am not sure if I am going through Detroit or LAX. I will let you know if I am headed your way!

Dave