Your Thoughts Please

[thekfc]

First, this is not a joke. you may laugh but it happened.

Second, I wasn't sure what name to give this topic/post.

I have been chatting with a lady for the pass month, her mom is sick in the hospital, I did verify that. She have never asked for anything before & today she asked me for this:

She wanted me to borrow her $5,000US to pay her mother's medical bill.
Her mom is seriously sick & have been hospitalized for the pass couple of weeks.  As per her, the bills have been mounting & they cannot pay it, it is close to $8,000US.
They cannot take her mom home because they have no money to pay for the medication that she will need once she is released, and while she is still in the hospital - the bill is increasing.


I know: rule #1 - never send any money, but I would like to hear your thoughts on this.

[Capstone]

Run very fast and never look back. Seriously - it is a scam.

[bcc_1_2]

I know: rule #1 - never send any money, but I would like to hear your thoughts on this.

Only 5k huh? 

Listen to Capstone. This is also someone you have never actually met yes? End all contact... block her in every way. The end. Please confirm when you have done this.

And this may happen to you again. Just repeat the instructions above.

Seriously!

[Ray]

RUN LIKE THE FREAKING WIND AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!

Whether it's true or not, you are'nt a bank so don't start acting like one...

BTW, "borrow" in Tagalog menas "gift" 

Ray

[thekfc]

When she asked me that, the first thing I wanted to tell her was "are you f**king kidding me, are you on crack or something?".

The first exact reply to her was "do you know what crack is?" she said no. then I said "do you know what cocaine is?" her reply was also no, " then I said do you know what opium is?" she said yes, then I told her she must be on opium.

Yes, I have block her and ceased all contacts with her.

I just wanted to share this with you all.

[bcc_1_2]

it is so damn obvious... but you read so many stories online about stupid people that send the money. you didn't send. one less sob story for the net.

[Cbear]

Hospitals are free there unless it is a private hospital, and they would not have addmited her if they didnt think they were going to get paid.

Just exactly how did you verify that her mother was really sick and in a hospital?

Even if she was telling the truth (and she isnt) you would never here from her again as soon as she recieved the money.

Now, lets say you marry a girl and her mother gets sick and needs specialized care only available in a private hospital, well, you are mr. money bags. so they expect you to help. But you should only offer to pay a percentage, the rest of the family should pony up also or they will always come back to you for the cash.

AND, don't give the money to a family member, pay the hospital direct. You can also arrange to pay for any medicines needed directly also.

Just some thoughts for you to keep in mind.

[piglett]

RUN LIKE THE FREAKING WIND AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!
Ray

D I T T O ...............................run

[Dave H]

RUN LIKE THE FREAKING WIND AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!

Whether it's true or not, you are'nt a bank so don't start acting like one...

BTW, "borrow" in Tagalog menas "gift" 

Ray

RUN LIKE THE FREAKING WIND AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!

I third that!!!

What is the name of the hospital? It a may be true, especially if she is in an exclusive, private hospital.  I will let you know...just out of curiosity. Most medical bills are probably 5% or less of the US costs. Medicine is probably a quarter of the cost or less than in the US. Many foreigners come here for medical procedures. Most medical costs are a fraction of what they are in the US. I pay $4 when I visit my cardiologist. BUT"you are'nt a bank so don't start acting like one!" Filipinos somehow manage to get through these things without having a Kano for a saviour. There are charities, collections, she may have PhilHealth (insurance), etc.

Dave

[Dave H]

When she asked me that, the first thing I wanted to tell her was "are you f**king kidding me, are you on crack or something?".

Hey thekfc,

Maybe she is on friggin' shabu (methamphetamine). 

Yes, I have block her and ceased all contacts with her.

Very good decision!

Dave

[Bear]

Wow!  $5K would keep my F-I-L for 5 years.  Well maybe not?  No money, no time, no reason until you have met them, know them and/or engaged to them.  With possibly the exception of paying for their chat time, mail/phonecalls to you.

The Bear Family

[stevjulietb]

What is sad about this senario, some sap has probably sent $$$$ already, glad to hear you weren't the sap.

Steveb

[GatoAzul]

Tell her it is much cheaper if she let her die 

[Ray]

Tell her it is much cheaper if she let her die 

 

[thekfc]

Tell her it is much cheaper if she let her die 

Whether she is lying or not this is a very insensitive thing to say.

[Bear]

Insensitive?  To a person trying to intentionally trying cheat you?  I think being willfully and intentional rude and sarcastic plus any "payback" would almost be considered Christian.  I mean come on, she is playing you for a fool and believes not only you, but most "Kanos" are fools because we're so "nice".  My experience is "they" (meaning these "users") have no respect for wimps and will go out of their way to make you suffer for being one, clear to the point of taking you for every penny you have or ever will have and not shed a single tear for your pain nor ever give it a second thought to the sin or pain they caused.  To them the ends justify the means so its okay because your a fool and stupid. They deserve what you have because you surely don't; reason -you give it up so easily.

Be glad you aren't a stupid because I have met many in 9 years.  Can't tell you how many times I've seen guys crying after having their hearts ripped out because they were stupid.

As for the other comments by other members above I think if you check the achieves you'll see those responses are the norm as they are trying to provoke a problem.  Might want to report them?

The Bear Family

[Bob_S]

It's a repeated story here.

Rule #1: Don't send money!

But but but, she says she really needs it!

See rule #1!

...I told her she must be on opium.
Yes, I have block her and ceased all contacts with her.
I just wanted to share this with you all.

Wise move.  You membership on this board just saved you 5-thousand bucks at least.  You may repay the board by buying the first round the next time the board members in your area get together for an off-line pow-wow/BBQ party. 

Tell her it is much cheaper if she let her die 

Cruel, but made me chuckle anyway. 

[GatoAzul]

Whether she is lying or not this is a very insensitive thing to say.

I wouldn't say that if her story is true. 

If she lies to you about her mother's illness, she is very insensitive for saying that her mother is sick in the hospital....... GET IT?

[bcc_1_2]

Insensitive?  To a person trying to intentionally trying cheat you?  I think being willfully and intentional rude and sarcastic plus any "payback" would almost be considered Christian.  I

I remember some stories about Jesus being taken advantage of. Somehow in the stories Jesus was never intentionally rude, sarcastic, or tried to get payback on anyone.

The stories of Jesus that I remember seem to be good moral stories. Would be nice if Christians would take heed to them. Actually I remember stories about Jesus and his interaction with theives. (Christ)ians... would be cool if people speaking for the religion would remember the first 6 letters.

The comments were insensitive.

[Ray]

I wouldn't say that if her story is true. 

If she lies to you about her mother's illness, she is very insensitive for saying that her mother is sick in the hospital....... GET IT?

So which is it dumbass? First you ASS-U-ME her story isn't true, then you say "IF she lies".

Make up your mind. The FACT is that you have no idea if her story is true or not, so why not be smart for once and just STFU before you say stuff like that?

And as far as stupid comments like that being "almost considered Christian", I say BULL SHYT!

GET IT?

[thekfc]

What is the name of the hospital?

Hospital of the Holy Cross in Calapan.

There are charities, collections, she may have PhilHealth (insurance), etc.

That's what I asked her - what about charity & stuff like that.

To me wishing death on someone mom is insensitive. A better answer would be go sc**w yourself or something to that effect.

Guys, I had no intention of sending that kind or any money to someone AND to someone who I barely know. I just wanted to share that info with you.

The only thing I see myself paying for especially when we get into an exclusive relationship is their chat/phone time with me and then stuff like small gifts, etc.

[Ray]

Guys,

When someone you barely know asks you for money, be smart like kfc and dump them.

BUT, there is no need to be vengeful, spiteful, and feel the need to punish them, all in the name of Christianity. That, IMHO, is being a STUPID!

When you get these requests for money from Internet chat pals, either ignore them or simply dump them and move on. When a lady says her mother is sick in the hospital and she needs money, is she lying just to separate you from your money? Very likely, but she may also be telling the truth and she is desperate with nowhere else to turn.

In either case, this whole venture is NOT about saving someone’s life or paying someone’s medical bills, so there is absolutely no reason to feel guilty or even concerned for their “problems”. We aren’t in this to help everyone who needs our help, but to find a compatible wife.

Foreign women with financial problems are a dime a dozen, so why even consider a relationship with someone who’s primary concern is finding help for their “problems”?

Now what should you do when you run into that invariable situation where a virtual stranger you met online asks you for financial help? Should you do like one poster says and be intentionally rude, sarcastic and administer a little payback? For what purpose? What if she is really in serious distress because a loved one is sick or dying and she is desperate? Should you take a chance that she is just lying and trash her and/ her mother by wishing her dead and then laughing about it??

My advice is to simply ignore such requests, whether you think it’s true or not, and move on to other prospects. Being an A-Hole and reaping a little vengeance will only make you look like an ass if she is seriously in trouble.

Better to take the high road and simply walk away, without all the sarcastic remarks and vengeful behavior. Now if you want to invoke Christianity as the reason for your actions, I think this avenue is more appropriate than telling her to let her mother die because it’s cheaper.

Kudos to kfc and screw that little hypocrite Sensitivity Sheriff Gato (AKA UK Caliumbo)!

  Ray

[GatoAzul]

Ray ... your wife's mother needs operation ?? 

[Bear]

The comments were insensitive.

Wow!!!!  A lot of insensitive stuff today!

He was being a smart aleck, why does he have to be sensitive?  Why is it unCHRISTian to joke around on a bulletin board?  Is it christian to allow someone to be hurt?  Is it christian to see a wrong and ignore it and not make some attempt to prevent someone else from being hurt even if its teasing and in an unbecoming manner?  

Although I believe his comment was unnecessary, so was yours.

I notice you had nothing to say about the "name calling".  That was sensitive!

Does anyone here read the stars?  Some odd force out there causing everyone to be so "insensitive"?

The Bear Family

[Ray]

Ray ... your wife's mother needs operation ?? 

No, my wife's mother is dead...