Age Gap Tolerence?

[henryw]

Have any of you who has visited various regions of Colombia observed a notable difference in tolerence for larger age gaps between one city or region and another?

[mudd]

bigger age gaps seem to be in smaller towns, cities, while Bogota " the biggest city " seemed to have the smallest age gap, at least thats what i observed.

[GatoAzul]

Henry

In addition to Mudd's posting, it depends on your look also.   I am 40 years old but I look much younger for my age.  I had a young girl looking for 25-35 years old when I was 39 that time.  She was happy to get to know me because I look very young for me age.

EXAMPLE: If we both are 40 years old, but you have bald hair, wear beard, wear glasses but I have hair, clean shaved face, do not wear glasses, look like Leonardo DiCaprico when Titanic film - our 'age' gap will be very different to many girls.  If a lady is looking for 25-35 years old man, I might be having better luck than you.  On the other hand if a lady is looking for 40 -50 years old man, you might be having better luck than me, because I look too young for her!  (It happened to me many times when ladies were looking for my age region - but found that I was too 'young' for them).

Anyway, I do not know what you look like or how old are you, but the 'bald' is just an example....

[Jeff S]

That's true. If you're 45 and look like this:



You can really be a hit with the young ones.

[mudd]

that funny jeff,  i forgot how scarey he looks

[GatoAzul]

That's true. If you're 45 and look like this:



You can really be a hit with the young ones.

This Michelle Jackson looks like an ugly woman 

[Bob_S]

This Michelle Jackson looks like an ugly woman 

[michaelb]

Why yes, don't you remember? Several years ago it was announced "He is no longer a black man, now she is a white woman."

[william3rd]

bigger age gaps seem to be in smaller towns, cities, while Bogota " the biggest city " seemed to have the smallest age gap, at least thats what i observed.

Yeah- its called desperation. The smaller towns dont get the play. or the jobs, or the money, or the opportunities. Whether it is europe asia or SA, that is how it is.

Fat, bald and old may be the only game in town

[GatoAzul]

Why yes, don't you remember? Several years ago it was announced "He is no longer a black man, now she is a white woman."

 

[Maria]

Yup desperation that they will end up single forever due to the lack candidates.

According to a survey I held some time last year among the Barranquilla women, among the ages of (20-40). Results showed that women are really not interested in men much older (20-25yrs older). Yet if the opportunity comes to meet a man with such age difference they would give it try, lets make it clear not because they are gold diggers but because they like the estability that an older man can offer. But It also depended on how the man looked.They were not interested in dating someone that looked older than their own dad. 

FL

[henryw]

FAL thank you, that is the information I was looking for and it seems from what I´ve read you are someone who would know. You´re located on the coast. I wonder if the preferences of women from Cali are the same.

[GatoAzul]

Yup desperation that they will end up single forever due to the lack candidates.

According to a survey I held some time last year among the Barranquilla women, among the ages of (20-40). Results showed that women are really not interested in men much older (20-25yrs older). Yet if the opportunity comes to meet a man with such age difference they would give it try, lets make it clear not because they are gold diggers but because they like the estability that an older man can offer. But It also depended on how the man looked.They were not interested in dating someone that looked older than their own dad. 

FL

Make sense ......

Lots of young girls - 20 years younger than me would like to meet me even though I am 40 years old (looking young), but the problems is that they are too young for me especially when these girls look young for their ages!!! 

Many of the girls are looking for older men for stability, financial secure - and you are right that it does not mean they are gold diggers.   My middle sister married a man 10 years older than her, but she is hardly a gold digger!

[OsageDave]

About this time a year ago, I was a member of Colombia Cupid. A young woman 22 years younger than me, wrote me. We wrote a few times. She was very nice, and an exceptional person, but obviously too young. I wrote her this past week to see how she has been doing. She's now engaged to a guy my age (46), and planning on moving to Illinois. From reading some of the comments here, I can understand her perspective: She has a child and lives in a smaller city/town (Monteria). For the life of me though, I don't understand why a 46 year old man would court and marry a 24 year old woman.

[GatoAzul]

About this time a year ago, I was a member of Colombia Cupid. A young woman 22 years younger than me, wrote me. We wrote a few times. She was very nice, and an exceptional person, but obviously too young. I wrote her this past week to see how she has been doing. She's now engaged to a guy my age (46), and planning on moving to Illinois. From reading some of the comments here, I can understand her perspective: She has a child and lives in a smaller city/town (Monteria). For the life of me though, I don't understand why a 46 year old man would court and marry a 24 year old woman.

Don't you find rather hyproisry when a man is looking to date girl 30 years younger than himself but is not happy when other man of his age dating his daughter of 30 years difference!!!!!

My mother wasn't happy when I dated a girl 13 years younger than me  (I was 37 that time when she was 24).  My mother married a man who is 32 years younger than her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  See what I mean!!!

[mudd]

everybody's an critic in the age difference between potential partners, but seems to be less when its some rock star or actor dating a much younger girl, but when the average man is dating a much younger girl, he is outcastred as a loser, desperate, middle age crisis, cradle robber. but when an older  women now does it, everybody is OK with it. talk about double standard and women pre judging something that they themselves are now doing.

[jmcooper002]

I dont think that most of these women are gold diggers but maybe a bit of  opportunists.   She is obviously attracted to the gringo. So if she is interested in someone 20 years older than her when she doesnt have many options, what happens when you bring her home, and all of a sudden she has many options. I have always like the rule of thumb posted here. Half your age plus 7. Although I dont know if I would marry a 22 year old girl from the U.S. I would consider it in SA for sure. Just a different mentality and different priorities.

[GatoAzul]

Half your age plus 7.

I am 40.  1/2 plus 7 = 27 years old girl (Girl A)

When I am 42.  1/2 plus 7 = 28 years old girl  (Girl B) (I should end the relationship with the girl A) !!!!!!! 

[Shadow_mas]

I am 40.  1/2 plus 7 = 27 years old girl (Girl A)

When I am 42.  1/2 plus 7 = 28 years old girl  (Girl B) (I should end the relationship with the girl A) !!!!!!! 

You forget that when you are 42, Girl A is 29. Even if her profile on the dating site will still say 27. 

[henryw]

[My mother married a man who is 32 years younger than her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  See what I mean!!!
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Whoa!!!

[utopiacowboy]

About this time a year ago, I was a member of Colombia Cupid. A young woman 22 years younger than me, wrote me. We wrote a few times. She was very nice, and an exceptional person, but obviously too young. I wrote her this past week to see how she has been doing. She's now engaged to a guy my age (46), and planning on moving to Illinois. From reading some of the comments here, I can understand her perspective: She has a child and lives in a smaller city/town (Monteria). For the life of me though, I don't understand why a 46 year old man would court and marry a 24 year old woman.

If you've ever been to Monteria, it would be very clear. Not too many options for a woman in her situation there.

[OsageDave]

If you've ever been to Monteria, it would be very clear. Not too many options for a woman in her situation there.

That was what I wrote in my post. I understand her being okay with a man 22 years older. I don't understand it from the man's perspective though. 46 to 24 is okay. 56 to 34 is workable too, but at 66 to 44 or 76 to 54, the seasons of life, energy levels, etc. all change to the point that it doesn't work as well. On top of that, the changes emotionally that take place between 24 and 34 are huge.

I guess, really, that I don't understand because I am looking at it from my pespective and from my goals. I want to do everything I can to find a woman who I will spend the rest of my life with. Marrying someone with that large of an age gap stacks the deck against that. It doesn't mean that a marriage like that can't or won't work. I just see too many pitfalls down the road. If though, the possibility of divorce isn't something a guy is concerned about, then it's not a big deal.

[GatoAzul]

Orange Dave

Much worse with age gap when it comes from Phillipines!  Many young girls age 20 are happy to marry 70 years old men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In my point of view, I never understand these desperate girls.   Where are the children's fathers when they are already dead ??  Who are going to watch their school football matches? !!!  Mothers!! sure!!!  My father was never there when I grew up.  I was very good at soccer but felt missed out when my father never saw me playing.  Imagine these Filippina children!!

[soltero]

I guess, really, that I don't understand because I am looking at it from my pespective and from my goals. I want to do everything I can to find a woman who I will spend the rest of my life with. Marrying someone with that large of an age gap stacks the deck against that. It doesn't mean that a marriage like that can't or won't work. I just see too many pitfalls down the road. If though, the possibility of divorce isn't something a guy is concerned about, then it's not a big deal.

What you have to understand is that more than a few of the guys that head south looking for love are social retards and wouldn't understand what to do with a woman if they came with instructions. Many (not all) of the guys that go for the large gaps just want a toy that they can dress up and parade around in front of their decrepit friends for the bragging rights. What they don't realize is that while these unfortunates have to deal with that in their own countries, they don't here. Bringing them here usually results in them heading for the hills many times before they even marry or receive their green card. The situations they find themselves in and the accompanying ridicule they receive cinches their flight.

If a guy happens to be that clueless, then I hope he is at least smart enough to realize that if he wants to keep her, then he better go expat and find a collective of equally ridiculous gentleman that he can parade her in front of as she will become well schooled once here that she ain't in (insert country) anymore...

[Jeff S]

That was what I wrote in my post. I understand her being okay with a man 22 years older. I don't understand it from the man's perspective though. 46 to 24 is okay. 56 to 34 is workable too, but at 66 to 44 or 76 to 54, the seasons of life, energy levels, etc. all change to the point that it doesn't work as well. On top of that, the changes emotionally that take place between 24 and 34 are huge.

My father, now 82 years old, just married a very attractive 57 year old Latina, 25 years younger. They're both very happy. It means less when you're older, not more. There are far more differences between a 45 year old and a 20 year old, than an 80 year old and a 55 year old, IMO.