New guy on here, Going to Jamies Agency in Sept

[craig1974]

Hi everyone

I am new on here, so please be gently 
I am planning on visiting Jamies agency in Sept for 2 weeks to try and find my future partner, i am 33 from the UK with 2 kids (who live with there mum) I have an ok job, not brilliant and not bad, I consider myself quite attractive, nit on the small side at 5 6"
There are really some beautiful ladies on his site, As any one from the UK ever been to his agency, i have read some remarkable reports about Jamies place and can't wait to go.
I once had a girlfriend in Cartagena, But she was a scammer, really bad, had a secret boyfriend there, was with me only for money, but hey, I have learned from that.
As anyone actually met someone on there first visit to jamies place, The UK is a bit far to keep going over to Colombia as you can imagine, I hope i can get lucky first time round, Obviously i am willing to travel there in the future, but really would like to meet someone on my first visit and keep the relationship going once i return home, hopefully then bringing her back here to the UK.
Any good advice on this guys will be really appreciated by me, I understand all about the red flags etc, been there before.
What good things should I include in my profile that i send to Jamie and what things should i leave out, I am a OK guy, but not loaded and so do not want to find a lady who is only seeking a guy with money cos i ain't got much lol
Hope you can all give me some advice and maybe write to me so we can chat

Thanks once again

A really nervous Craig

[craig1974]

Sorry forgot to mention, my spanish is not that bad, I can speak it quite well, What things Have i got to my advantage considering all the above

thanks again

Craig

[raycjs]

Craig

I wish you the best of luck.... Jamies Agency is outstanding you will have the time of your life. The fact that you speak some spanish will help you a lot.... take your time and do your homework to make sure you find a gem........ Do not only go for looks...

Once again i wish you the best of Luck

Ray

[craig1974]

Thanks for the best wishes Ray, When you say do your homework, what do you mean by this, I have learned that beauty is only skin deep, But obviously I would like to meet both a nice looking lady and with a good heart, most of all sincere!!!

[fathertime]

Craig,  you should have no trouble meeting plenty of Jamie's girls.  Usually it becomes an issue of who do you like the most & once you make that choice and start spending time with her then you find out if the choice was good or not.

Your Spanish is a big positive.  Having kids will eliminate you from a few of the ladies.  I would be honest in your profile, that way you don't drag a bunch of girls over to meet you, that will not truely be interested in you, based on something you left out. 

Fathertime!

[craig1974]

Fathertime

Will it be a BIG disadvantage because i have got kids, they live with me 2 days a week,

thanks

Craig

[fathertime]

Fathertime

Will it be a BIG disadvantage because i have got kids, they live with me 2 days a week,

thanks

Craig

From my experience, it will be a dealbreaker for some girls.  Don't worry about it though, there are plenty of ladies that are just fine with it.  Jamie's site is replete with pretty young single moms too, so you can consider going that route as well. 
I would try not to think of circumstances in terms of disadvantages/advantages.  Just be honest and have a good time with the women, that will give you the best shot! 

Fathertime!

[craig1974]

Fathertime

Obviously i am going to state in my profile I have 2 children, So if a lasy decides to meet me, surely she would have taken this into consideration, What I am asking really is, Of the woman who decide to meet with me, I assume they are ok with the idea I have children

Thanks

Craig

[fathertime]

Fathertime

Obviously i am going to state in my profile I have 2 children, So if a lasy decides to meet me, surely she would have taken this into consideration, What I am asking really is, Of the woman who decide to meet with me, I assume they are ok with the idea I have children

Thanks

Craig

Craig!  I don't think that assumption is 100% correct. Some women will just want a free lunch.  I think that most of the women will be genuine in wanting to meet you.  After they meet you they then may decide, I am not interested in this guy because he has children AND he is not Don Juan either. 
Many ladies will be ok with the kids thing & some will not want that.  You will have plenty of shots with plenty of women so you don't have to worry about that.  You will have to figure out who's pulling what racquet on you & who genuinely buys into you all the way. 

Fathertime!

[craig1974]

Also, one other thing that i am worried and concerned about is:
I understand  probablt the first few days will be taken up with dates and meeting ladies, but what after that, say I am lucky to find someone in the first few days and she is working all day what am i suppose to do, any guys who have used the agencies, did they find this, would you also strongly advise against meeting anyone who does not work or study and is someone who is working the best option, the only downfall being, you cannot spend any quality time together.
Just one last thing and i am not sure how to ask this, as any of the guys who have used the agencies, found a lady, and slept with them before they returned home, sorry for asking this, i am not sure how things happen over there on this score

[Jeff S]

Find someone in a few DAYS for what? To marry and live happily ever after? Been reading a little too much agency hype I think. I guess if you pick one out of the catalog in a day or two you could spend the rest of the time sitting around the hotel room, choking the chicken and watching novellas. Sorry to be a little sarcastic, but it's sounds like you're going shopping for a pair of pants as some unpleasant chore. You'll be on vacation in a foreign country with a foreign culture! Enjoy it, meet people, have fun. drink, dance, visit museums, go sightseeing, take walks, talk to people, take pictures, go swimming, party, you know.... vacation. Oops, I mean "go on holiday" for you guys from the UK.

- Jeff

[craig1974]

jeff

A little harsh mate if you ask me, was not called for, and yes it "Going on holiday" here in the Uk, whats wrong with that, i came on here for advice, not to be slated Jeff

[fathertime]

I guess if you pick one out of the catalog in a day or two you could spend the rest of the time sitting around the hotel room, choking the chicken and watching novellas.

Wow Jeff that is quite a funny visual I got!  That's just what I want to do in Colombia, watch Novellas in my skimpy underware, choke my chicken, and take a solid nap!

Back to the man's original question about banging agency girls pronto.  Well Craig I remember asking the same question a few years ago, with one of my first posts.  My answer to you is, it depends.  Sometimes a lady will feel so comfy and trusting of you that she will want to have sex with you very shortly after you meet.  Other times you will run across ladies that although they like you, will not allow you to go that far with them sexually.  I come from the school of thought that states you go as far as you can with a woman you are seriously considering, because the sex aspect is a large component of whether you would marry her or not.  All that being said, if you can get to second base and sense some enthusiasm then that would be a good basis for a first trip.
That is my two cents worth, I think you should get a diversity of answers on this question though because my opinion is obviously only one...

Fathertime!

[Jeff S]

Didn't mean to be harsh on you Craig. I was just trying to lighten this up. So many guys come here and seem to have a single minded purpose to go somewhere, find a wife as quickly as possible spending the least amount of money. This is a journey, not a destination, so expect an adventure, with all sorts of twists and turns, and keep it fun. Expect to spend perhaps years finding the right person for you. You wouldn't pick one out back home in a few days and exclude all others, so there's no reason you should think about that in the happy hunting grounds. It's these women's home town so they have activities, families, jobs, classes, and just everyday life going on. I believe to truly find someone, you need to see them in different situations, good and bad, and see how they react. That takes familiarity. You can put on an act for a few hours, a few days, even a few weeks, but eventually the real you will come out, and these women, like all women, will be on their best behavior when they meet a potential partner/ meal ticket/ passport out of Dodge, so take your time, is my best advice. Sorry for the jab.

- Jeff

[raycjs]

When i say do your homework i mean ask as many questions as you can you must be totally honest with them and make sure they are honest with you.  ask the same questions in different forms. Also do not worry about having Children i have 2 daughters (now 3) and i meet over 50 women Thur Jamie's agency not one of them had a problem with my children. Please take the time to read my trip report and it will explain everything to you. If i can help you in any way you can PM me and i will give you my phone number and you can call me and i will share with you all i can. I am now living with my fiance and her(our) daughter in Florida along with my daughters and we plan to marry in October. I was able to make over 14 trips to Colombia over the past year to make sure my fiance was the one for me.Once again ask as many questions as you can. Make sure they will not have a problem living in the UK so far away from there family and friends. Do not let age difference stop you but i would recommend her to be 25 or older. Also how do you feel about a women with a child???  You will find this very popular.


Good Luck

Ray

[Bob_S]

When i say do your homework i mean ask as many questions as you can you must be totally honest with them and make sure they are honest with you.  ask the same questions in different forms.

Ah, but there is a trick to doing it right.  And that is: do not telegraph your desires early in your meetings.  If you are looking for someone who will be a house-proud hausfrau, don't start your meetings saying "I'm looking for a stay-at-home wife.  What kind of wife do you want to be?" because I guaran-damn-tee you each and every one will say they want to be an at-home wife, even the ones who want nothing more than to party till 4am at East Side clubs every night.  And it's not because they are all scammers looking for a visa (though there are those).  For some, it is simply their culture to please the man, so she will instinctively tell you what you want to hear.  You have to watch what you say while trying to elicit from them the truth of who they are.  That way you can quickly eliminate the ones who are clearly not a good match.

[singlefather no more]

Also, one other thing that i am worried and concerned about is:
I understand  probably the first few days will be taken up with dates and meeting ladies, but what after that, say I am lucky to find someone in the first few days and she is working all day what am i suppose to do, any guys who have used the agencies, did they find this, would you also strongly advise against meeting anyone who does not work or study and is someone who is working the best option, the only downfall being, you cannot spend any quality time together.
Just one last thing and i am not sure how to ask this, as any of the guys who have used the agencies, found a lady, and slept with them before they returned home, sorry for asking this, i am not sure how things happen over there on this score

craig,

Welcome and Hello mate , I am here in the colonies of Canada.. eh

You are going a long ways to find a potential wife.. right.. I would not try or think about having sex on your first trip as you are looking for a wife not to get laid..

I would be very sincere with the Ladies and tell them what you are looking for and what you want.. One poster on this board was very successful because he was totally honest with them and told them straight out in each of the group sessions that he was not looking for sex that he was sincerely looking for a wife..

Well the ladies were all after him and even one of the secretaries asked Jamie if she could meet him.. Yes , some of the beautiful ladies are going to try to seduce you.. If you don't think with your big head your whole trip could be messed up over this because once you sleep with one she will lay claim to you and all the other girls will know you had sex with her... So think wisely....

I would talk to raycjs as he met his Novia last fall at Jamie's and he was the guy that all the girls liked.. Look for a sincere , smart , sweet , big hearted and of course that is beautiful woman to you.. If she wants you to meet her family anytime that is a good sign..

You are spending a lot of money on this trip so use your time wisely when you are there.. I believe very strongly guys attract women with their attitudes..

If you are hoping to get lucky and get laid you will attract a girl that will sleep with you fast..

If you are hoping to find a great wife with all the qualities I mentioned above you will find her.. As FT mentioned just kissing these girls will tell you where your chemistry is at with her..

The guys that were very successful and have great Novia's and wives such as sean126 or raycjs and others did not try and did not want to have sex on their first trip..

I have to run and will add more later...

Good luck and God speed ,

God save the Queen,

singlefather


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