Just curious

[jmcooper002]

I usually lean towards Latina's although I am not all that interested in going to Colombia. However I would like to get some info on dating Filipinas. I see that alot of guys here are actually leaning towards Thailand now, however due to religous beliefs that does not work for me.  I hear so many negative things about meeting Filipina women online but every one I have met here in my town are just amazing. They are so sweet, and friendly and my god their exotic beauty is amazing. Anyway anyone care to give there opinion on filipina dating.

[Bear]

I have met both the "awesome martital candidates" and the "are you really serious?" sluts.  I seen Filipinas treat their men with such care and respect as to make any man jealous and I seen those who stole from and humiliated a dying man.  It really depends on so many variables like where you might look.  In the days when the US had a naval base at Subic Bay and the Air base and the Filipinas the guys met where at Olongapo or Angeles. Their opinions would be pretty "anti" because most of those guys met the whores at the bars there but in reality thats only about 2% of the available ladies.  Similarly the country of Thailand is a major tourist spot to those looking for sex with less than good intent.  There are also a few here who found wives in Vietnam with the obvious concerns than raises to ex-servicemen like myself.  So honestly I'd tell ya this is just not a easy road and you'll find both good and bad where ever you look.  Just be smart and patient. 

If you are finding sweet ladies here that are available then use your own noggin and ask a few questions.  If they got here and divorced I'd say "red flag" but if they are here on a work visa you are who they are looking for.  If they are married I promise you every one has 2-3 best friends to introduce you to and I'd say thats a pot of gold and a good chance of success if you and the introductions are compatible. 

Remember Filipinas speak English, most are very religious, most are not carrying an illegitimate child and come from a similar economic and political structure.  Meaning less transition stress for both.  But even at that make no mistake - their culture is different and simple conversations can be taken completely opposite of what you said and meant.

Still I don't think its possible for me to me more satisfied and in love with my wife and I know lots of guys with similar opinions.  Looking outside of the US makes so much sense because women outside the US are so motivated to come here and raised to be wives and not commanders.

The Bear Family

[Ray]

I have been hooked on Filipinas since I first visited the islands in 1968.

What are you looking for jm? Are you looking for a lifetime partner or just interested in social dating for now?

If you are talking about travel to the Philippines to meet some potential mates, then there are different ways to get hooked up.

There are no introduction agencies in the Philippines because they are illegal.

Meeting ladies on line is high risk. There are lots of scammers out there so you need to be very careful. Be very wary of anyone you meet in a chat room.

You can purchase contact info from any of the many addresses sellers advertising on line but you should be aware of the recent IMBRA law that restricts their operation and usually requires disclosure of sensitive personal information on your part.

Probably the best way that I would recommend is to get to know some local Filipinas and then ask if they have any friends or relatives back home who might want to write to you.

What town are you located in?

Ray

[jmcooper002]

There are so many Filipinos in my area. Infact I go to church every sunday and a good 70% of the congregation are Filipino. I think that they are fascinating to say the least. I guess my only turn off was the large number of scams that were surrounding the Filipino MOB business.

My good friend just married a Filipino women and he says that he has never been treated as good by any woman as his wife treats him. He had two failed marriages and this is different. I have always been welcomed by Filipino people and that has peaked my interest.

are the women in the US already still worth persuing. Do you think that they change when they come here or do the parents usually try to bring their daughters up with the same or similar beliefs?

[Bear]

Dude you go to a church that is majority Filipino?  You're already in Heaven and I think a few already have you married.  Just be willing and let 'em know it.

Women are women.  Just because she's a Filipina doesn't mean much of anything else about marriage will be different.  But Filipinas are raised to be wives and mothers, most will clearly indicate that to you and DO NOT want to make the basic family decisions (they call it the "simple life" - the work is on you).  But you had still better make them the center of your life and let them know "what" before you do it.  Once you pr oven yourself and lead them through some tough choices in life you'll find no superglue stronger than the attachment they'll have to you.

Wow a Filipino church here.  Are you in Houston by any chance, I know of several churches mostly Filipino and one is even called Filipina Methodist Church.  There's a Catholic one a few miles from that one (both on the southwest side of town) and a Baptist one on the north side of town.

The Bear Family

[jmcooper002]

Bear

Its actually a Catholic Church in So. Cal. The city just so happens to be like 30% asian and I think probably 80% of the asians are Filipino. Its funny that you said that a few of them already have me married because a good friend of mine that just married his pinay wife said that although his relationship took a natural course many of the women had already had them paired up for marriage. I guess women are women, always match making. Filipinos are good hearted loyal people and I see what the attraction is.

Thanks for the advice it was great.