Just get on the plane...

[Bob101]

I read so much about the men here trying to figure out everything before the go to Cali. The women are women just like in thr USA...they can smell fear and insecurity a block away.

They've seen your kind before and will see you again. You can't be a p**sy with latin women...they will walk all over you. If you are sharp, have style...and treat them with REASONABLE respect, not a** Kissing, they will like you...but those of you who don't understand only make it better for those of us who are not desperate!

[wizard]

... in response to Just get on the plane..., posted by Bob101 on May 31, 2002

That was out of right field...

You sound like the advertisements for the agencies... Just get on a plane and come on down... Right... Spontaneous is a good thing, but not when it involves traveling into a war zone...

An how do you go from just get on a plane, to people over analyzing the process, to someone being desperate or a p*ssy???

Have we run out of our halcion???

[Bob101]

... in response to Re: Just get on the plane..., posted by wizard on May 31, 2002

it takes chemistry. You can't develop that with writing letters. You can establish rapore and friendship, but ultimately...you need to be THERE. Allot of what is spoken here is all about fear. The fear of the unknown for the first big trip out of the country or to Cali.

"just get on the plane"...there is NO substitute for going there. So if you have the guts to look into the whole MOB process...your going to have get up the nerve to go sooner or later. It is a different experience for everybody.

until you finally go...everything is pure speculation of how you will feel when you are there, and how you will feel the day you arrive home. Like Nile says..."just do it!".

[tommi]

... in response to Re: Re: Just get on the plane..., posted by Bob101 on May 31, 2002

All this from someone who has crossed the border once??? Get a grip and try again or maybe you're related to mck???

[Bob101]

... in response to READ THE INITIAL POST ass---, posted by tommi on Jun 2, 2002

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[Tigre]

... in response to Just get on the plane..., posted by Bob101 on May 31, 2002

Great posts Bob and Cali vet.  Treat them like daddy and they will behave like good girls.  You can spank the young ones 18-21,if they are bad. Give them what they want all the time and you have a spoiled girl who always grows up to be a Bi___. But we all know about American girls. Ever seen a little girl throwing a temper tantrum in the store because she does not get everything she wants, common in USA, you won't see it in Colombia. Be firm and kind and your new latina will stay sweet.  Tigre

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Just get on the plane..., posted by Tigre on May 31, 2002

And the ones over 21 you can spank when they're good.

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Re: Just get on the plane..., posted by Cali vet on May 31, 2002


I thought, when they're "Bad", they're really "GOOD". Or vicer versa, or vicer versa which is vicer versa, vicer versa...LOL!

[Cali vet]

... in response to Oh you naughty boy.....LOL, posted by Hoda on May 31, 2002

Gosh I don't know...one must be the flip side but they can verse their vices with me anytime.

[tommi]

... in response to Just get on the plane..., posted by Bob101 on May 31, 2002

Wasn't it you who just returned from Cali and had such a poor time? Wasn't it you who had insecurities and doubts about everything? Maybe you should have asked more questions before you went...huh?

We all ask questions from time to time. Weren't you ever told that the only stupid questions are the ones we don't ask?

[Cali vet]

... in response to Just get on the plane..., posted by Bob101 on May 31, 2002

Ah ha! it's you who's been leaving condomns on the nightstand isn't it. Seriously you bring up an important cultural point. I once had a girlfriend up in the country who I'd met through a foreign friend who's been living there for four years. I wanted to do a little shopping for her before returning to Cali so the three of us went into a store where she tried on several pairs of jeans. With each pair she asked me what I thought. Like a typical gringo my response was "whatever you like honey" thinking well she's going to wear them I'm just paying for them but my friend scolded me in English and said "No! You TELL her which ones! She expects that." So I did and he was right, she responded like trained seal (no don't get carried away with the comparison). I learned a lesson about life in a machismo culture with that. We gringos are brought up in a "chivilrous" culture where we learn from birth to always ask the girl what SHE would like. Adult guys who carry this to extremes are considered "sensitive" men who are much sought after by gringas. That doesn't cut it in Latin America and being too "sensitive" is a quick way to lose a latina's respect. A latina may not show it but you can be sure she's thinking it. Changing our accustomed behaviors when we land in Cali is no easy task and takes real concentration but it's critical. In that standard conversation we all have at some point with girls we meet where we're asked why we prefer latinas and we complain about womens' lib gone loco my current (and I hope final) novia told me "Well here in Colombia the man ALWAYS has the final word."

[El Diablo]

... in response to Just get on the plane..., posted by Bob101 on May 31, 2002

I think the "Just get on a plane" advice may be a poor idea if the guy is not prepared for what is about to happen to him.  This adventure is full of risks and it can be quite an emotional ride also. Questions and analysis may help the newbie bridge the gap.  I see the analysis more as a sign of maturity than a sign of pu**yness as I think you are suggesting.  This process in my opinion is better taken slowly, jumping into it full steam ahead may have a certain testostirine appeal but I personally think it's unwise.  Traveling to another continent to look for a spouse is extremely difficult at best for all the obvious reasons like distance, language and culture.  And that's just for starters.  Guys shouldn't hop on a plane until they've really thought things through and part of that is asking lots of questions.  

El Diablo