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Author Topic: Speaking of gold digger.....again!  (Read 37491 times)
Morena
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« on: April 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
Okay here is a story for everyone.  Please give your comments, good or bad.

A filipina whose married to an american for five years left him because of so many reasons.  The filipina has been here for four years but the husband NEVER teaches her to drive, his reason was because it is too dangerous.  She could not find a job, she just stays at the house all day everyday, working, doing ALL the housework. The husband doesn't bring her anywhere. Forget about the money because he handles all the expenses,  The worst part is the husband (a pot addict) grows marijuana inside the house.  She got scared, it's not worth risking her life going to prison if the  authorities will find about it, and losing her privilege of coming to america, so she left her husband.  They separated for 8 months, until the guy told her wife to go back because he will change.  So she went back.

After three months, she  left again because the man was still into marijuana, smoking and growing.  So do you guys think that what she did was right? Would you think she is a green card shark?  Would you think she is a gold digger?
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Lori
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« Reply #1 on: April 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Speaking of gold digger.....again!, posted by Morena on Apr 21, 2001

After trying to put myself in this situation. First of all....you have probably been in this relationship for some time, right?? You are used to it, used to the way he is treating you. Probably to the point that you no longer feel you are worthwhile, and that this is what life has handed you, so deal with it. WRONG-!!! There is a better life for you, my dear. My guess is that after all the years he has done this to you, he is probably not going to change.No amount of counseling or talking or anything is going to change his mind that what he is doing is wrong. He has you right where he wants you. And he probably thinks he has the upper hand because he brought you here and kept you as he has kept you, and thinks that you do not know what your options are.
So here is a list of options, I think you have:

1) call a lawyer. Tell him about the plants. And ask if you turn him in, what responsibilities will you face. Most consultaions are free.
2) Do you have children?? If so, look at what he is exposing them to. YOU have a choice. Your children do NOT. Make the choice for them, for a better life.
30 Is there ANYONE you can turn to?? friends?? find someone to confide in. I say this from experience. Pot is one of the reasons I am a single parent. And yes he even went as far as trying to grow a plant. I picked myself and my kids up and just left. BTw- my oldest daughter found the pot and I had to explain it to her.  Instead of taking responsibility, he only blamed her for going through his things.
3) stay with him. Watch the plants grow. Watch youself being arrested. Take a long vacation in the state pen.

I know to some of you this may seem harsh. But I personally know what drugs can do to a person. Most of them won't change untill they hit rock bottom.
And , when you meet a possible life-mate--if there are alot of things that bother you about this person---either accept them or walk away. You can't change a person. You can't mold them into someone they are not. If you do try, and succeed at this, they will be living a lie, and in the long run I don't think things will be peaceful.
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Bear
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« Reply #2 on: April 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to call the police!!!, posted by Lori on Apr 22, 2001

I agree the guys an arse but pot growing is not the main problem here.  Turning a pot smoker into a criminal is pretty radical.  Any guy who is this controlling is insecure and afraid to deal with his problems.  He is scared of something.  If she loved him in the first place she care enough to him him and she in the end would reap the rewards.  As for how to help him?  Thats a tough one.

Bear
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humabdos
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« Reply #3 on: April 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to call the police!!!, posted by Lori on Apr 22, 2001

Lori is being a drunk ok its legal? How about smoking two or three packs of cigs a day?  Or lets see how about he's addicted to pain pills given to him by his doctor?  

Sorry to lump you in with the rest of the AW's but this is a typical AW  solution call the police.  What kinda low down dirty rooten rat would call the police on there spouce for such a minor thing as growing a harmless plant? Tic Tic Tic?  I guess it was that pot he smoked to make him a controling slave owner! lol Give me a break Lori its not like he's running a meth lab or something lol Do you think the police go door to door looking for pot plants? ha ha ha I would hope the police have better things to do than that with my tax dollars!  Your advice of turning him into the police is disgusting!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone who would do this (or even suggest such a thing)  is lower than a peice of dog doo in my book!  Humabdos
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nealtl
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« Reply #4 on: April 23, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: call the police!!! WHAT CALL THE POL..., posted by humabdos on Apr 22, 2001

The items you talked about in your post are not against the law and will not get her deported but pot will get her sent home
Yep it is time to BUST the pot smokeing creep,take his house and anything else you can get your hands on this guy is a gold diger for a slave not a wife
tneal
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humabdos
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« Reply #5 on: April 23, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: call the police!!! WHAT CALL THE..., posted by nealtl on Apr 23, 2001

Smoking pot would not get her deported neal Bank robery or murder yes pot smoking no way what a joke!! lol She is not the one smoking it or growing it! get real ?  How do you feel about alcohol Neal? or cigs just because it legal is that ok with you?   Humabdos
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nealtl
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« Reply #6 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Re: call the police!!! WHAT CALL..., posted by humabdos on Apr 23, 2001

There fine by me no law against it
tneal
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Lori
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« Reply #7 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Re: call the police!!! WHAT CALL..., posted by humabdos on Apr 23, 2001

I know this is none of my business, but, are you , yourself a pot user? just curious, that's all.
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humabdos
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« Reply #8 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to hum---, posted by Lori on Apr 24, 2001

Will you call the police on me if I said yes?  It sounds like tneal would! lol  

Lets just say if I needed it for medical resons yes I would rather smoke a joint than take a pill.  I always prefer something natural than a pill if avalable. Here in Oregon  (CA too I think ) it has been approved to treat many diffrent illnesses, you can even get a permit to grow it. Reefer madness is dead Lori lol  this is not the dark ages its 2001 !!! Time to dump the narrow mind!

If you ask me the world would be a better place if everyone put down that firewater and sparked up a joint instead of a cigarette just because it legal does not make it ok. Just my .02  Humabdos
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Lori
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« Reply #9 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: hum---, posted by humabdos on Apr 24, 2001

In my states if you sell ANY drug around a school you automatically get a double sentance.
I'll admitt, I used to be a pot smoker. And how did I come across that?? They were selling it at my JR. High school. I spent the rest of my school years stoned. For every joint you buy, I'll bet there are at least  a small percentage of that goes to underage children. And it is a FACT that children start using pot before they hit the big stuff.
I'll always be negative agaist drugs. I've seen too many of my people go down for it. My sister is 38 years old. Started smoking when she was 13 and now for the rest of her life she chaces a high. She lost her kids, and everything.  A couple of yearsd ago, she even slit her wrists in front of them. It makes me sick!!!
Comparing pot to ciggarettes is like comparing a firecracker to an oozie....
lets just agree to disagree...maybe when you have children of your own, you'll change your mind.
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humabdos
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« Reply #10 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: hum---, posted by Lori on Apr 24, 2001

Fact is Lori most kids start with cigs! or alcohol  not pot!

Of course I  don't approve of school kids smoking pot. I also don't approve of them smoking cigs and drinking but how easy have we made it for them to get cigs or alcohol. Most of these kids get the booze from there parents bar! O yes but it is legal!  ha ha ha  Do know how many of my child hood friends are dead because of alcohol and cigs? I can count at least 10. One of my good friends lay in the hospital right now because of alcohol, his liver is gone  he is not expected to make it. One of my best friends sits a home with one leg because of drunk driving. Now he is addicted to oxcycontn or something like that its like hieroin (sp) All of this because of your legal drug alcohol!

Yes he was a pot shoker too but his wife made him quit why? becauise some narrow minded jerk made it illegal. I bet if she had it to do over again she would opt for the pot!

My father watched 90% percent of his friends die from one of two things cigs or alcohol. Go down to the hosptial and see how many people are there because of alcohol or cigs!

Then see how many are there because they smoke a joint on the weekend! As for my kids I don't have any but I can tell you if I did I would not want them to smoke pot cigs or drink alcohol. Will I tell them witch is worse ? your darn right I will!  ,Again just because its legal don't make it right!  Humabdos
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Dave H
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« Reply #11 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Re: hum---, posted by humabdos on Apr 24, 2001

N/T
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Lori
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« Reply #12 on: April 24, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Re: hum---, posted by humabdos on Apr 24, 2001

"MY" legal drug alcohol??? come on Hum...I don't make the laws. And don't you think smoking pot is as damaging to the lungs as ciggs are?? Come on....it's all bad. I don't condone any of it.
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humabdos
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« Reply #13 on: April 23, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: call the police!!! WHAT CALL THE..., posted by nealtl on Apr 23, 2001

I hope the IRS pays you a visit!
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Lori
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« Reply #14 on: April 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: call the police!!! WHAT CALL THE POL..., posted by humabdos on Apr 22, 2001

Acually I have never called the police on my spouse. I have joint custody of my second child. And I do have to say that sometimes I worry when he has her. I know how he gets when he is smoking( like a total zombie) and I know how he is when he runs out ( short temper..on the edge of being violent) so understand , please, that my views come from my own experiences. And it is an experience that I would have loved to have never had.
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