... in response to Why I don't like Jerks & Ugly Americ..., posted by Houndog on Jun 18, 2001Hounddog, et al:
It is amazing how we hear one side of the story and run with it. I'll bet that no one will ever realize how much time and energy kxxxy put into the relationship or how many times he asked his girlfriend to handle things a little differently not to his satisfaction.
It is one thing to have a girlfriend, it is another to take someone away from their country with the intention of marrying them. To do the latter we should be sure or just not bother.
Kxxxy sent his girlfriend money every month and asked her to prepare a list of expenses that they could both look at and do money managment together. She never did and the monthly expenses were never the same in any two months. There exists a wonderful word called a "budget". When asked to sit down with him and go over the expenses he was told that she didnt; think it was fair to have to do this
When Kxxxy's girlfriend lost her job, Kerry stepped in and told her that he would make sure that she had a roof over her head and could eat and took care of this (just about)every month for 14 months).
When Kxxxy and his girlfriend tried to fill out K-1 visa papers Kxxxy had to spend $300 sending papers back and forth through DHL because his girlfriend had difficulty filling them out. Kxxxy went down to Cartagena to pick up these papers himself and helped her fill them out ...This was after walking her through the papers on the phone (blank ones)and ones that were pre filled out. After which realizing that he didn;t have the same confidence in his girlfriend that he once had
Kxxxy asked his girlfriend to sit down and come up with a checklist of things to take care of if she would be leaving her family ... never happened.
Kxxxy sent down money to put a telephone in her house .... was received .. but there still is no telephone in the house 5 months later ....
Kxxxy gave his girl a portable computer to communicate less expensively than phone .... for some reason the girlfriend could never manage to connect to the internet at the agreed on time .. often times oversleeping and arriving online 3-4 hours after the agreed upon time ....
The list could go on and on ... BOTTOM LINE .... When a man is searching for a wife it is somebody that he can work together with and can trust to raise a family with. If he doesn;t have the confidence to do this it is better to terminate the relationship (like it would be on the woman's side).
Kxxxy is no saint, but you do not have any idea about what happened in this relationship. And you should not comment on that. Kxxxy has tried to let this girl know that he wanted to see other people over the last 4-6 months .... In actuality they had a conversation in April of 2000 about this ....
Who's shoulder is Kxxxy going to cry on? Noone's ... he has picked up the ball and is moving forward. In this thing we are doing there are no promises and no guarantees .. we do the best we can ....
You have not done anything to Kxxxy.... business as usual for him. Continuing the search .... And enjoying friendships and beautiful women along the way.
If you thought you had cause to print this be a man ... print the names OR don;t print them, but always you should check out the other side of the story if you are going to print what you did ... I have no problem with you typing out my name Hounddog. If I remember correctly, you have been the initiator of some other not so pleasant threads on other discussion boards. But you should have all the facts straight before you "rush to judgement".
Kerry
