Talking vs Actions in Relationships 'make a case'

[Ralph]

... in response to If you have stats, please put them up, posted by FredFresno on Jun 17, 2001

You could poll Latinas. Ask Latinas if they would prefer meeting Gringos that spoke Spanish over those that fly in translators?

Ask Latinas that are already here, if their husbands knowledge of their language helps or hurts their relationship.

I get along great with my in-laws. They constantly ask my wife when I will be going back to visit. My wife's Grandmother is very special to her. The entire family jokes about how Iris was always the favorite etc.

When Iris speaks to Grandma, and Grandma says how much she enjoyed my visiting her, it makes Iris very happy and proud.
I'm able to joke with Iris's sisters, including her 6 year old sister, who I was teaching a few words in English. The entire family would laugh when she would say "was your name"?

My conversing and visiting her family made Iris feel less "homesick". It also made the family feel better about their daughter being in a strange country. Getting to know me has made them feel happy for her instead of just nervous. That wouldn't happen if I couldn't speak to them.

[Houndog]

... in response to Or. . . . . . . . . . . ., posted by Ralph on Jun 17, 2001

Ohhhh you think you can talk over the Divorce Stats....make your case with "facts" OR...shut up....

HD

[Ralph]

... in response to Re: Or. . more "basura" from r..., posted by Houndog on Jun 17, 2001

What are the stats for couples not speaking the same language? Do you have any? Didn't think so.

You talk about "being the one" but you don't really want that. Latinas would prefer a guy that speaks decent Spanish.
Your GF would have preferred getting married in Colombia with her family, but you refused as well.

Good job.

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: Re: Or. . more "basura" fr..., posted by Ralph on Jun 17, 2001

ralp...go ahead and jack your jaws...and flame and ruin threads...from now on I'll just move the real parts of the threads up again and push your meaningless rantings to the bottom.

BTW...You're wife called and said she was getting lonely and sick of your constant negativity. I told her to check the nieghborhood for a decent guy that will pay attention to her...she thought that was a good idea.

HD

[Ralph]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Or. . more "basura"..., posted by Houndog on Jun 17, 2001

This thread was actually proving interesting and useful, but once again you stoop to mindless name calling. How many guys have you called an idiot this weekend? Why do you feel the need to comment on my wife?

Answer the question. What statistics do you have on marriages between people speaking different languages?

You post a silly observation that divorce rates are high in marriages with the same language involved. OK SO WHERE IS THE PROOF THAT IT IS NOT HIGHER WHEN THERE IS A LANGUAGE BARRIER?

That would be an intelligent contribution to the thread rather than calling all that don't agree with you names.

It si only a matter of time till you turn an interesting thread into mindless name calling, and then the thread will get deleted. Good job.

[Traveler]

... in response to meaningless rants?, posted by Ralph on Jun 17, 2001

despite all my disputes with the Dog man or any other poster, never once have I insulted or degraded their girlfriends or fiancees.  I may feel sorry for them yes, but now he is crossing into areas that are clearly out of bounds.

[Ralph]

... in response to a new low, posted by Traveler on Jun 17, 2001

It's impossible to take him seriously. When he realizes he doesn't have the intellect to debate intelligently he resorts to name calling and changing the subject.

Notice how he is the only one promoting the fact that learning spanish is not important?

[Traveler]

... in response to no problem, posted by Ralph on Jun 17, 2001

previous to my post

[Houndog]

... in response to yeah, I noticed you posted the same ques..., posted by Traveler on Jun 17, 2001

....post some answers to the questions backed up by statiscs and facts....

HD

[Ralph]

... in response to Re: yeah, I noticed you 2 posted NO ANSW..., posted by Houndog on Jun 18, 2001

Where are your statistics for marriages between people that speak different languages? Unless you have those numbers you can not make a valid comparison. Boy, this is too easy.

[Houndog]

... in response to you have no statistics, posted by Ralph on Jun 18, 2001

can't you 2 morons read ?and COMPREHEND  and you wonder why people avoid the 2 of you like the plauge.....it says post your facts...not run your yaps, jack your jaws and ask more questions..

where are facts, reports, survey's, anything besides your two's lips moving..?

It ain't there and you can't produce any..so STFU...

wow...

HD

[Traveler]

... in response to Re: you have no statistics, posted by Houndog on Jun 18, 2001

your statistics prove nothing regarding the differences between cross-cultural relationships and same native language.  you must have statistics from both groups

[Traveler]

... in response to Re: yeah, I noticed you 2 posted NO ANSW..., posted by Houndog on Jun 18, 2001

enabled me to get latin girlfriends whereas if I hadn't spoken the language it would never have happened. the post is entitled "2 quick examples"    I will post later how speaking Spanish got me two quick friends here in Florida.

I don't need statistics.  my personal experience is sufficient.

[Houndog]

... in response to I posted two examples how Spanish PERSON..., posted by Traveler on Jun 18, 2001

sorry...real statistics...not more jaw jackin from an idiot like u...

HD

[Houndog]

... in response to If you have stats, please put them up, posted by FredFresno on Jun 17, 2001

It's really quite simple. Just look at the divorce stats for the USA and Colombia or any LA country of choice...you will be able to see(if one has an open mind) that speaking the same language, even fluently has not helped in at least 55-60% of marriages. Even originally being from the same country and being fluent in a common language hasn't helped.

So if one has an open mind and looks at the availible stats with both eyes open, one should be able to see that Common Language and Common Country have done little if anything to "insure" or "even help" create an enduring marriage or relationship. Even having children together does little to change the odds. Therefore...those "common" attributes work out to be "The Lowest Common Denominator" in lasting, enduring relationships.

However, the one factor that "can" turn the tide of breakups is "Love". Love entails..Being the Right One and Taking the time and Effort to Find the Right One. And for all the steps and answers as to how that is accomplished one only needs to read the archives. It's all in there. And the beauty of the archives is they are flame and basura free.

I'm not going to re-post the archives to only have the threads ruined by flames ralp and malandope. In case someone was going to ask.