I guess with her fractured pelvic bone the honeynoon won't be too much fun either... :-)

Ray

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Sun Star Cebu
Friday, May 09, 2003
American will still marry fiancee despite suicide try

HIS fiancee’s attempted suicide won’t stop an American national from marrying his beloved.

Byron Dean Beatty, 60, said he will wait until his girlfriend Aurea Sumbilon, 24, recovers from the injuries she sustained after jumping out of the fifth floor window of the Mercedes Hotel along Pelaez St., Cebu City last Wednesday afternoon.

Sumbilon is in stable condition but she still needs to be operated on because of fractures in her jaw, arm and pelvic bone.

Her injuries would have been more serious and, perhaps fatal, had cable wires at the side of the hotel building not broken her fall.

Hotel staffers said Beatty has been in tears since the incident, crestfallen over what happened to Sumbilon.

The American, in a brief interview, clarified that Sumbilon did not lie to him.

“Even before I came here, I already knew she just finished grade six. I just asked her why she has that college ID when we went to the bank because in the US, falsification is a serious offense,” Beatty said.

Police consider the case closed since Sumbilon’s relatives showed no interest in pressing charges. They just want her to recover, settle down and go with Beatty to the US.

The American related what happened that afternoon.

He said they had just returned to their hotel room after opening a joint bank account. He then asked her how she got the college ID when he knew she just finished elementary school.

Sumbilon reportedly remained quiet, when they heard a knock. Beatty went out to check but when he came back, Sumbilon was no longer in the room.

He checked the bathroom but she was not there. A street commotion attracted his attention, so he peered out of the window and saw Sumbilon lying on the ground.

Sumbilon’s sister and brother who went with Beatty to the Homicide Section yesterday said they will not press charges against the American, as they are convinced there was no foul play.

Sumbilon is a native of Salug, a mountain barangay in Dalaguete, Cebu. She has been in Cebu City for three years. She used to take care of an old woman but the latter died so Sumbilon has been living with a friend in V. Rama Ave.

Beatty, a businessman, admitted he is divorced. He has no children.

Beatty said he and Sumbilon have been Internet chatmates for several months. They are supposed to get married on May 17, but they might have to move it until Sumbilon is well enough. MBG
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First, we don't know all the facts of their falling out. He may have used the education thing as an excuse to dump her. Maybe it was just one of many lies. It sounds like she may not have been psychologically stable---which is a good reason to dump her. Remember until you say, "I do" you're allowed to change your mind.

Now apparently the guy feels obligated to marry her. You can bet the drama will never end in that household. What will she do for an encore, a Lorena Bobbit?  

Sorry, but I'd just keep walking. As much as one may want to be the knight in shining armor, it's pretty hard to fix mentally damaged people--even though the problems may not be their fault. Have compassion, but don't marry 'em!!

So Brian have a couple of shots and relax, you're just responsible for your little part of this wacky world.

I mean, you rats can have me laughing until I die on some things, but when it comes to folks being really 'hurt' or even end up being victimized because of their personal circumstances that they have no control over, that's where I just have to draw the line on the commentary.  Whooo-hooo, me mister godly judge you all for your words... heh heh, maybe I'm just too serious about it and need to have another scotch to blow it off.  

Possibly that's what I should do and just not respond, but I'm telling you, there's one woman there in the Philippines that tried to kill herself, and if it was my gf or wife, I would be doing some real serious introspection.  This woman, had her entire emotional faculties involved with this man, and this is exactly why this type of venture MUST be viewed as a TWO WAY STREET.  Pa, should've realized the amount of power and influence that he had over this poor girl, but instead, he pulls his (american woman experience) indignation routine with her not realizing the inexperienced child that she is, and rejects her the same way a father would castigate his own daughter finding out she was turning tricks on the corner instead of attending classes at Cornell.

In otherwords, this catastrophe had the end result of teaching this (old man) rat a lesson about life, and how his 'my way or the highway' thing don't work between two people that are supposed to be in love with each other.  Get it?  He treats her like his f'd up daughter, instead of his future wife.

This is only one of the reasons why it's a mistake to go screwing around in teenage territory by someone that belongs in a geriatrics philosophy class.  This fool had his fantasies of having a wife that was 40 years younger than him, hell, what's he expecting anyway?  Perfection is not the suit that works here.... it's impossible.

I don't have any disdain for you, ray, jay etc over this crappy thread, but I would definitely like to think that we all can keep the 'Challenger and Columbia' type 'captain what's this button for.... BOOM' style cat-calling out of situations that involve peoples lives and their misfortunes that end up so tragically... because of emotional imbalances etc.

I'm sure you understand what I'm talking about.

I just got disgusted with the lack of respect that people can have for other folks emotional demise.  This really sucks to read about it in hard copy here.

Who knows, that could've been my crazy ass jumping out the window too.

cheers.

ps: dave, I'm in tampa for the next few days on biz... I forgot what city you're in down here, you anywhere near tampa/st pete area?

How's your book coming along? I can't wait to read it!

That guy with a shotgun in his mouth-was that another "cry for help"? :-)

Ray

So, how have you been doing? Are you married yet? Don't be such a stranger.

Ray

If you need a co-sponsor or anything, let me know. I'll tell Dave H to co-sign for you :-)

Ray

Jay

LMMFAO!! Well, I mean come on! FIVE stories?? And she just so happened to "convieniently" hit the wires on the way down?? Not much of an attempt in MY book!

Seriously though, it has been my experience that some Filipina's react insanely when caught in a lie or other bad positions, no pun intended. They are capable of anything. Just to "win" the argument. I call it"going zero to crazy in 60 seconds". I think it's the Spanish blood. Or maybe the Malay. :-)

I feel very sorry for the both of them.

Jay