Calling all cuties from all across the world!

[Dave H]

... in response to This Ought To Be Good!!! ))) (n/t), posted by Dave H on Apr 1, 2003

N/T

[Jeff S]

... in response to Calling all cuties from all across the w..., posted by Tricia on Apr 1, 2003

... but all the single guys I know are sure looking for someone who describes themselves as "broodingly pensive" and "grumpier than Mr. Grinch" and who advises potential suitors to "proceed with caution."

I'll bet they're knocking down your door with offers.

- Jeff S.

[SteveB]

... in response to I dunno about anyone else, , posted by Jeff S on Apr 1, 2003

She sounds like someone, I wish I would never have met!!!!

[SteveG]

... in response to I dunno about anyone else, , posted by Jeff S on Apr 1, 2003

[This message has been edited by SteveG]

I wouldn't waste even a single breath trying to contact her with the rotten attitude she shows.  First just the name of the website gives off a conceited attitude.   "HotorNot", my butt!   LOL   You know, one thing that always amazes me is how ugly a beautiful woman can become the very instant you realize she likes using her good looks to manipulate men.   This woman shows all the signs of that type to me.  

 I just remembered a quite good looking female friend I have here at work.  One day we were talking and I was helping her carry something - she bragged about how she could always "get a man", implying 'get a man to do my dirtywork'.  I never had as much respect for her after that because the more I got to know her, the more i saw she was dead serious about manipulating men.   I can't imagine being married to somebody like that.  One thing about it, I wouldn't be for long if somehow I was too stupid to see it coming before saying "I Do".

 Well, I just can't understand how or why a guy would go for this type in the Philippines of all places when the majority of the women there are total opposites.   Even the scamming gold diggers are usually friendly!  LOL   You can easily find a good looking spoiled brat in the US if that's all you want.   But I know Patrick is right and there are far more men on these sites than women, so I'm sure she'll get a lot of responses.  

                  SteveG

[Patrick]

... in response to I dunno about anyone else, , posted by Jeff S on Apr 1, 2003

Don't kid yourself.  Women who place personals on the internet are inundated with responses unless they're totally unattractive.  I knew a woman about four years ago who was "voluptuous" (her discription, I'd call her a little overweight) who had over 600 responses to her ad.  She had men flying in from other states to meet her on a weekly basis.  I know she wasn't lying either, because she brought some of these men by work on her lunch hour to "show them off."  She also showed me her inbox stuffed with responses.

She wasn't even very attractive!

Most of the personals sites in the internet are having a lot of difficulty getting enough women to sign up.  Men make up by far the majority of applicants.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: I dunno about anyone else, , posted by Patrick on Apr 1, 2003

I wonder why that is. There ought to be just as many single and divorced women out there as men, and from what I've seen, most are at least as eager to get married as men.

What I really didn't get was bringing out the negatives in an ad. It's not much of a sales tool. I'd think plenty of guys would just say, "Hey, what do I need a grumpy wife for," and just pass her by, guys who might be OK with it after they'd gotten to know the good side. I know if I were in the market, I hit the "NEXT" button as fast as I could after coming across that ad.

- Jeff

[Carr]

... in response to Really? , posted by Jeff S on Apr 1, 2003

I guess I see her profile as really honest.  I think she is telling the guys 'This is me.  Please get to know the real person behind the profile.'

And she's actually cute and gauging from what she wrote--really intelligent.  I wouldn't pass the chance to get to know her if I'm the guy.

[NW Jim]

... in response to Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by Carr on Apr 1, 2003

Yes, we like honesty and we intend to use it to our advantage by hitting the delete button. It's part of the dating process to weed out the undesirables. Normal people do not boast about their flaws. This is along the lines of "I'm a b*tch, but I'm worth it."

A wise man who reads the description, "broodingly pensive" and "grumpier than Mr. Grinch" will know that he has been warned (a red flag). Only a child demands love unconditionally and expects it regardless how they treat or interact with other people.

If they admit to it early in dating, you know it won't get better over time; if you tolerate less than positive behavior and attitudes during dating when everybody is supposed to be on their best behaivor you will have given her license to behave worse after the honeymoon is over. Result:marriage in h*ll.

Most Filipina's are very sweet and humble about wanting a man to accept them as they are, which includes their faults, which they leave unenumerated. Hopefully that works both ways.

[Mita]

... in response to Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by Carr on Apr 1, 2003

Carr,
I'm sure honesty is fine for everyone.  I'd have to disagree with you on the intelligence aspect of the profile, it reeks more of pretentiousness than intelligence.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by Carr on Apr 1, 2003

Yes, I do value honesty and intelligence. I also appreciate people who recognize that wild mood swings and inappropriate moody reactions are character flaws (or organically created chemical inbalances in need of treatment,) not traits to be bragged about. It's not like we're talking about Turet's syndrome here, these are behaviours. Whether she's cute or intelligent is irrelavent, if she has bouts of bad behaviour and insists that others take it or leave it, I'd chose to leave it.

Yes, my wife has her grumpy moments on occasion - not too many women get through life with perfectly balanced hormones all the time, but she's usually apologetic afterward, and recognizes it as bad behaviour. Likewise, if I'm short with her for some reason, I later feel remorse and apologize

Just my 2 cents.

- Jeff

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by Jeff S on Apr 1, 2003

Hi Jeff,

I have been through that BS before! It only gets worse with without diagnosis and treatment. Most of these people don't realize they even have a problem, the rest of the world is screwed up. I can only hope that this lady is trying to be funny and show off her intelligence. In my opinion, if she is serious, grave (as in noun and also adjective) problems exist!

Dave H.

[Esiang]

... in response to Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by Carr on Apr 1, 2003

She shouldn't be in that site......

[SteveG]

... in response to Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by Carr on Apr 1, 2003

Carr,
 It's Honesty when you say something like, "I'm not perfect, I have faults, etc"   BUT when you change it slightly and say "I'm going to be very hard to get along with" that's something entirely different.  It sounds like she is wanting to somehow excuse bad behaviour from the outset by owning up to being a b!tch.  In my experience, the word "Intelligent" when used by women describing themselves = "B!tch".   Still say, I can't see why a man would go so far to get that.  

                               SteveG

[Carr]

... in response to Re: Don't you guys like honesty?, posted by SteveG on Apr 1, 2003

ROFL!  Man, that is really taking it to the extremes.

[SteveG]

... in response to Intelligent women are b*tch?!, posted by Carr on Apr 1, 2003

Carr,
  I didn't say Intelligent women are b!thches, I said      B!tches typically describe themselves as 'Intelligent'.  They also like 'Opinionated', 'Speak my own mind', 'not afraid to say what I think', blah blah blah.   I have no time for somebody, male or female with such a chip on their shoulder.   And I darned sure wouldn't go half way around the world, spend many thousands of $$'s and wait for a couple of years to be shackled to such a person for life.  UGGHH!!!    

 As far as true intelligence goes, Melly is very intelligent and I am VERY happy with her.  She is a far better student than myself and very quick to learn.

 One other teeny detail concerning the post here that started this discussion.  I have my doubts now that it is even real.  I've seen a lot of fake posts of this type on bulletin boards like Planet Love just to draw men to the various 'dating' sites'.  
              SteveG