You should appreciate that men like us who seek a foreign lady as our bride are constantly taking abuse and insults from others.  When we tell people that we plan on marrying a filipina they ask us if we have lost our minds etc.  I even had an AW at work complain to my boss becoz I had a photo of my gf at work.  This forum is a sort of sanctuary if you will where the participants understand and empathasize with us.  If we faced the same racial prejudice and insulting remarks here, we would have no place to turn.  I appreciate any thoughtful insights which you could share with us about asian ladies.  Please remember that most of us are professional men who are not stupid.  Of course, we know that the poverty in the Phils is the primary reason these women seek American penpals.  We know that a 20 year old girl would prefer a husband closer to her age.  We only hope that money is not the only motivating influence.  I look forward to reading more posts from you.

Cecil

I can understand what you are saying.  I am of the opinion that if you wish to write about controversial subjects you should have the courage to leave a real email address.  Some men on this forum believe that one should not say anything negative about the penpal process becoz it may discourage those who are contemplating beginning this process.  I respectfully disagree becoz I believe they should see both the positive and negative and choose for themselves.  We have become sensitve to such criticism becoz there are so many people(feminists, racists, nationalists, etc.) who have a hidden agenda of their own to degrade the process and hence hinder others from starting.  The greatest concern that I personally hold about these relationships  is that I am taking advantage of the poverty of these ladies for my own selfish needs.  I have asked many filipinos who aren't seeking penpals of their thoughts.  Virtually everyone said that the filipina was exploiting me rather than the other way around.  The reason is that Americans and Filipinos have differing values.  Due to our relative wealth, we value beauty, youth, and sensuality.  The filipino values faithfulness, responsibility, honesty, and stability becoz they live in an unstable situation.  They will ask why would a wealthy, successful, professional American man be interested in a poorly educated village girl.  The reason one person is attracted to another can never fully be explained.  I think that human beings are sexually attracted to some one who is different.  I personally have always been attracted to the spanish/oriental mixture of the filipina.  There are two reasons that i would seek a filipina in the Phils rather than an American women.  In America, the filipina that I would date would be about my age whereas the lady in the Phils would be much younger.  I have never been married so I would prefer to marry an a lady who has never been married also.  It is unlikely that you would find many 40 year old never been married ladies in the US.  I am also eager to have my own family (if SteveG doesn't dissuade me with his posts haha).  The 40 year old ladies usually are reluctant to have a family for health reasons but most of the filipinas that I have written to are very eager to have children.  One girl said that she wanted a small family ....only four kids!  I just hope that these ladies are just as wonderful in person as they are in writing!  I am sorry for the long monologue but I hope that you can extract something useful out of it.

Cecil

Please don't kill that poor little Energizer Bunny. ;o))

Good luck! You are caliente and fiesty. I don't know if anyone but a western man could handle you. ;o) Are you sure you are not Spanish?

Dave H.

I am assuming that your post was prompted by the response that “Anonymous” got to his post about the sexual habits of Filipina women. He was treated as a troll because he IS a troll. Anyone who purposely tries to stir up trouble and posts under phony names is a TROLL, plain and simple

Because of idiots like Mike (Misurka), who also posted that stupid message under the name “Anonymous”, the board administrator had to ban a lot of ISPs from posting here. That’s why we have a registration system now. Because of some procedural bugs in the new system, a lot of regular long-time contributors to this forum have not been able to post here for months. So when we see childish fools like Mike(IP 24.112.158.xxx) playing his silly little games, we show no respect for their “right” to express their opinions here. He has had flame posts deleted before and then he is one of the first to cry and whine like a baby because he feels that we don’t respect his opinions.

We generally welcome opposing viewpoints as long as they are presented logically and without insulting flames. Your opinions are always welcome here, but don’t even bother trying to convince us to show respect for trolls. Trolls will get NO respect from me. I suggest you read the board FAQ and posting rules. You can call it censorship or whatever you want, but I guess that’s just a fact of life that You are going to have to learn to live with.

Now you please have a good day.

Ray