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NateD
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« on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
Is it typical for pen pals to ask for extra reply postage even after you've enclosed a stamp for that purpose?  I have one pen pal who asked me to send her money for reply postage, and this was after I sent her a stamp.

Thanks,
NateD
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greg
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« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to question, posted by NateD on Jul 28, 2002

in Person. You could be sending a Pinoy money lol. You can buy Philippine stamps off Websites. I ignored reguests for money and gifts when correponding with Pinays in the Past, only sent stamps..You can offer to do things for her after meeting her. My former Penpals didn't discontinue corresponding with me after I rejected their request for $$$$$$$$'s. My advice is to send only stamps...Most money sent by snail mail is stolen by those corrupted RP Post Office employees. If Employee think money is enclosed, then the letter may never reach her. You can learn alot about Your Penpal by ignoring her request for funds and gifts. greg
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BrianN
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« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Never send Money without actually meetin..., posted by greg on Jul 28, 2002
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greg
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« Reply #3 on: July 29, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Another good idea, pi stamps... never he..., posted by BrianN on Jul 28, 2002

sell Philippine stamps. Some sell High, others sell at face value(for buying addresses). Best to have a trusted Person in RP buy the stamps and sent to here, thats how alot of the Sellers get the stamps or they buy them while visiting the Philippines. I had a friend that sold stamps to me at face value.
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Bear
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« Reply #4 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to question, posted by NateD on Jul 28, 2002

make mine take money!  Took three months to get her to let me buy her a cell phone while it was costing me $600/mo in phone bills for her not having one.  Finally asked her to buy me one and hold it till I got there.

I suggest that you use mail forwarding.  Its a bit more expensive but leaves her no cost or need for money and you get your response in a few days.

Bear and Honey
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BrianN
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« Reply #5 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to I had to , posted by Bear on Jul 28, 2002
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Ray
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« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to question, posted by NateD on Jul 28, 2002

It is NOT normal for a lady to ask for money, even for postage.

U.S. postage stamps are worthless for postage over there. Purchasing Philippine postage stamps from over here is possible, but would likely cost you at least double the face value.

My advice: NEVER send money or anything valuable until you are at least in a committed relationship (ring and a date). Sure, there are many ladies who can not afford postage. But those same ladies will likely need money for Internet access in a cyber café, transportation expenses, lunch expenses, etc, etc... If this is a new contact, I think I would drop this one gently and try again.

ANY discussion of financial problems or requests for money should be considered a BIG red flag. It’s better to keep ALL discussion of money matters out of your correspondence. If it comes up from the other side, either ignore it or just move on to another prospect. Don’t even bother to get into an argument about it.

Just my $.02,

Ray
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Eman
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« Reply #7 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to question, posted by NateD on Jul 28, 2002

Postage rates in the P.I. go up periodically just like here, so make sure the stamp you're sending is enough to carry whatever she's sending.
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Kreeger
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« Reply #8 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to question, posted by NateD on Jul 28, 2002

... in my experience, it is NOT normal for a penpal to ask for ANY money... especially if you have only known her for a short time. The honest ones wil refuse money even if you offer it.
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BrianN
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« Reply #9 on: July 28, 2002, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to question, posted by NateD on Jul 28, 2002

Although everybody will tell you never to send it, (even a small amount JUST for postage) it can be sometimes quite an unreasonable expectation to achieve the desired results with someone that is very poor.  (The difference between receiving 1 letter a month and 1 letter a week could easily be dictated by this).  Also, I don't know if sending her a USA stamp will help since it's coming from PI or wherever you're writing to.  (Could be the equivalent of sending monopoly money?  I'm not sure about this.)

About 4 years ago I was writing to a 40 yo lady in Olongapo and I sent her 10 bucks (folded tightly -ironed flat longways- and attempted to hide as well as possible) so she could have some new pics made and send them to me.  I got her address from AFA.  It worked, I did receive many pics and many more follow up letters from her.

That said, some ladies will have the ability to afford to pay for postage / pictures.  Use very wise judgement here and don't get caught up in a problem!  Money, can often end up being the ruination of an honest relationship if you're not careful.  There's a couple of horror stories in the archives, and it would do you some good to read them if you haven't already.  Just be careful how you go about this.

Good luck.
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