I have recently returned from a nearly 8 week visit to Kyiv, Ukraine.
I was there on a consulting assignment but, of course, since I am a man I took every opportunity to meet with the abundance of ladies available there. A business associate furnished me many names, e-mail, phone, etc., from some agency catalogs and I had many dates with interesting, charming and sexy ladies.
However, my top three ladies were found through other methods. One was introduced by a mutual friend at a ballet, one I met at a business I was consulting with, and another I met at the elevator to my apartment building where she also lived. This is not to say
there is a difference between ladies at agencies and those not; for each of these three ladies were also listed with other agencies.
I would appreciate some serious answers to a situation with one of the ladies. She is what I call ‘overly attentive’ to me. She treats me like a king. Well, what is wrong with that you say?
Examples:
a) She insists on cooking all meals with no help from me and will not let me help even move dirty dishes to the sink area. She does the same with all laundry tasks, household cleaning, etc. If I mention something that I will do after visiting toilet, etc., when I return she has already done the task. Sure this is great, but I get the
uncomfortable feeling that I have a slave in my household. I am afraid I will grow to accept it and not be able to do anything for myself. I know other Americans we would be around would feel I am taking advantage of this woman.
b) She watches me every second and constantly asks, “what” in terms of what do I want or need. If I gaze around while eating she wants to know what I need, whether I do not like the food, etc. If we are walking and I am silent for a few minutes she wants to know what is bothering me and what she can do to help. Same when we are sitting quietly at home.
c) When I go to shower with those hand held thingys they use, she barges right into the bath area to hold the shower handle for me. She wants to wash me under my arms and all the other private places. And, no, she is not doing it because I don’t do a good job myself. She wants to comb my hair, help me shave, etc.
d) She has relentless energy in bed and is always overly concerned that I am fully satisfied, etc. Then, when I am finally asleep, she wakes me with a kiss, saying she thinks she forgot to kiss me goodnight.
This lady is highly educated and earns a lot of money by Kyiv standards. She obviously has a very high metabolic rate as she is a whirlwind of activity all day long at work and constantly attends to me at all times as outlined above. Her body bears this out as she
is super slender despite eating nearly as much as me and being in her mid 40s. She is utterly tireless at all waking hours of the day.
My question is to others who have encountered such ladies or who are such a lady themselves. What is it like to live with such an ‘overly attentive’ lady long term? I actually love being with this woman most of the time, and highly enjoy the attention most of the time. But I am just worried about the long run consequences for both she
and I, and other items such as how friends will react as noted above, etc. And, my worst fear of all; perhaps she is exhibiting some psychological behavior that will be dangerous to both of us at some future point.
