What my wife said...

[snowwego]

... in response to Re: Ahhh... Common Ground, posted by Oscar on Aug 24, 2002

well put, I think if someone is going to be so blatent to tell any one and keep it to themselves. When people are so blatent it tends to put people on guard.

[Anastassia]

... in response to Re: Ahhh... Common Ground, posted by Oscar on Aug 24, 2002

Oscar, I said FOR ME he must have high education and make decent money.

i didn't say for all women you are searching the most important is big money and high education.

I wrote FOR ME, i described MY OPINION, the method that worked FOR ME, that I AM HAPPY ABOUT.

And i put decent money much lower than faith, age, appearance as you could have noticed.

those who got offended by my words, i am sorry, but at some  point it is thier fault because they tend to think that the author of any post teaches them, shows them how to do this and that and tells them "If you guys don't do as i did or don't think as i think you will be total fools"

Not at all. At least not in MY posts.

All posts should be just stories of other people, just an example, just an advice...

The main idea for the men who are in search is to read posts and filter them, decide what may be true for him, what may work for him.

I DID NOT IMPOSE any ideas on anybody, i am just sharing. If we take all things that we see and read on the internet close to heart and personally we would be all dead already. :-)

I was blessed to find a man who is everything for me:

both christian and 29 and handsome and sportive and smart and with high education and with good paid job and with a house (we rented at first and moved into a town home 2  years ago) and values me a lot and loves me a lot and possess all human noble qualities of a man i have been dreaming about all of my life.

He is number 10 or more for me.

[Oscar]

... in response to To Oscar!, posted by Anastassia on Aug 24, 2002

Anastassia-

You did NOT say in your post that a man should make "decent" money, you said-

"nor can I marry a man who has lots of money but doesn't have high education. I need both".

LOTS of money is different than "decent" money..  That is the only thing I found uncomfortable in your post..

Again as I said before, perhaps it's just the phraseology or translation so why don't we just let it go and move on ok???

[Anastassia]

... in response to Re: To Oscar!, posted by Oscar on Aug 25, 2002

I am sorry for my phraseology that put you on a different path of thinking.

I agree, let's move on.

Wishing you all the best and coming through K1 visa without any complications and fast.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: wow., posted by Anastassia on Aug 22, 2002

Anastassia,

Don't read too much into Brian's "signature."

He probably wasn't really meaning to insult your signature.

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: wow., posted by Anastassia on Aug 22, 2002

I would guess that you are a woman who simply has good self esteem.

I say  this because when this is the case, individuals more readily expect more in a mate relative to thier own needs and are not afraid to hold out for it.

I for one see your approach as being healthy. I, as a male, expect a certain amount of physical attractiveness for me to be  interested. Clearly this is a superficial requirement but, it is only one requirement on my list.

As for Brian, if he does not have a higher education, it is not important as there are many women who do not see this as being important. There is usually someone for everyone -- it is merely about finding your match. Education does not make a person, looks do not make a person, it is who you are inside and that ultimately is what seals the deal on how someone chooses you vice versa..

[snowwego]

... in response to wow., posted by BrianN on Aug 22, 2002

You have to remember the only good men in the fsu/russia is the ones with a high education and a good job (not many). Most others, not all can not afford a family. My point is that they only know that a good education is a better life. The poeple from the FSU/russia, for the most part, do not understand the middle class thing.

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: wow., posted by snowwego on Aug 22, 2002

I hadn't thought of it that way.  I can appreciate how this could be the case for many seeking such.

Anastassia ---- is this how you were looking at it?

[Anastassia]

... in response to Good Point ---Anastassia?, posted by thesearch on Aug 22, 2002

What of my posts are you referring to, please clarify, i couldn't understand what email are you answering. Could you please copy and paste my letter to which you were answering?

Anastassia

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: Good Point ---Anastassia?, posted by Anastassia on Aug 22, 2002

I was referring to the comment by Snowego above my post  concerning why some women might ask for a higher education.

Snowego:  "You have to remember the only good men in the fsu/russia is the ones with a high education and a good job (not many). Most others, not all can not afford a family. My point is that they only know that a good education is a better life. The poeple from the FSU/russia, for the most part, do not understand the middle class thing."

[Anastassia]

... in response to Re: Re: Good Point ---Anastassia?, posted by thesearch on Aug 22, 2002

Here is my letter to one of the members of this board, i hope that this will clarify what i meant.

__________________________

I will try to explain what I mean by higher education.

It is not enough for me if a guy is very smart and informative and cultured and has his own business – money, I also want him to have higher education which means he is highly educated in so many fields, you cannot get the amount of information that you learn while in the university learning it by yourself, and most of all a person who graduated with good results knows what stands behind each exam, each mark, each course work, each lecture, he knows what discipline is, thus he will value me more, he will value my Diploma with Honors more, he will realize much better what that means, that it is not just a paper, that it is lots of time, dedication, sweat, nerves, tears, persistence, smartness, not having fun and parties and disco for 5 years. This is my life, this was my life, huge part of it, I want him to come through the same.

Also not in all cases but in most you will have a better job with higher education than without it, it’s definitely a plus.

I am not comparing high education (lots of money) to no education (no money) I am comparing high education (smartness, wisdom, university experience, literacy) and no education (plain, simple, not interesting, funny simple language, worker)

Everyone here in the USA can make decent money, it depends on his/her business skills. So I am taking this a little bit for granted. Let’s not talk about money here. Let’s talk about brains, degrees, smartness, literacy, knowledge of languages, cultures, politics, geography, literature, history. Only such person can be really interesting to me. I can make money myself and was doing much much better than average $100 a month in Moscow, Russia. And I am making relatively good money here. :-)(thanks God!)

All I want to say is that FOR ME Higher education is very important, because I myself have it and came through student life, maybe for someone else it is not and they have a right to choose according to there preferences, we all should choose based on what we ourselves have and can give to a person. I was not searching for a Nobel prize journalist with a huge house and a swimming pool, and a personal airplane, I was asking for exactly what I had, only material part is of course better. But I think all Americans are just lucky to be born here where with all your skills and high education you can make much money, I am sure if I were born here I would make even more than what my husband is making now (he is in Microsoft) I am not boasting at all. So what he is making here and what i was making there are compatible, even more...
________________________________________________

High education definitely means a better life, but not only. I don't know what you mean by middle class, I think poor in Russia is $50 a month, middle class $250 a month, high class  $800 a month, rich and very rich may earn the same amount that AM earn here (these are mostly real estate businessmen) :-)And i think that there are people belonging to all of these classes, 2 last classes are growing very fast actually. There are much fewer people of a middle or high class than of a poor level class, but we cannot say that there is no middle class in Russia at all. All is relative.

Anastassia

[Apk1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Good Point ---Anastassia?, posted by Anastassia on Aug 22, 2002

I would clarify that Russian middle class as incomes from $400 to $2,000/ month.

Do no forget the "new Russians", maybe classify them the upper middle class..incomes of $2,000 - $20,000 /month.

Then the upper class, the ex KGB(russian Mafia)...and other ex soviet politburo who stole millions if not billions from the Russian economy when the empire folded.

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Good Point ---Anastassia?, posted by Anastassia on Aug 22, 2002

Thank you for your response.

The one thing that was very obvious to me when I was in Russia was that the women seemed to be more cultured, sophisticated, educated and classy compared to the average American woman.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Good Point ---Anastassia..., posted by thesearch on Aug 22, 2002

And more than the average American Man, as well...

[thesearch]

... in response to And, posted by MarkInTx on Aug 22, 2002

What does this tell you about the USA?