Update on the Newspaper adds I ran...

[Oatmeal]

... in response to Re: Hey Ramblin., posted by Oatmeal on Mar 21, 2002

e-mail:  JLBeckett55@hotmail.com

[LP]

... in response to Update on the Newspaper adds I ran..., posted by Ryan on Mar 20, 2002

...The fog is rolling in over the City By The Bay. Cut to a car parked on the Golden Gate, idling, no one inside, a wallet and note on the front seat.

Is this how it ends? Just gonna bail are ye? You're breakin my heart Laddie, why don't you just jump now and get it over with?

The Duke once said in a movie: "Life is hard...real hard if you're stupid". Now, I don't think you're stupid, but life *is* hard and nothing good usually comes easy. Did ya really think this was gonna be a cake walk? Lookee here, overcoming adversity is a learned skill and now is your chance to work on developing it.

Stop with the woe is me and get with the program. Take a break if you wish and then begin anew. The ads were a good idea, its how I started two years ago. Even though I ended up with someone from another source, the ads produced a few of the finest women I've ever had the pleasure to know.

You need to clear your mind and refocus. Abandoning your predjudice towards agencies is a good start because you need to employ all the resources at your disposal. Condeming them does a diservice to you both, simply consider them another tool. (Just remember as with any tool, use it poorly and people will end up calling you "Lefty".)

In fact, consider your entire 2.5 years a learning experience, not a failure. You're far better prepared to "do battle" now than you've ever been before. Just get back out there and do it. After all, whos in charge? Whos running your show?

You are, thats who. My point is simple: If you don't play, you *can't* win. I mean jeesh, if I did this, anyone can. My entire life has been an overiding example of one principle: never, *ever*, give up. It isn't easy but it works, and will prepare you for endeavors far more difficult than this one.

Run some more ads, use the Net, contact some agencies. Hey, I bet ol' Jack himself can help you if only you'd let him. Or try the method Our Man Stan did, although I wouldn't bet on those long odds turning out the same for you. The point is what your doing isn't working, so change the tactics somewhat. With life in general, if you always do as you did before, you'll usually get the same results. Go into a hold and all that happens is the clock keeps tickin...

Besides, whats your alternative? Covering all the windows with aluminum foil and sitting with a frozen entree in the soft glow of the TV polishing your UZI? While certainly fun, it doesn't beat the soft glow of a good woman.

So just do it kid, stop with the boo-hoo and get back on the horse.

lol, I'll be sendin you a bill for this....

[WmGo]

... in response to Ryan, picture this....., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

Good one

[tim360z]

... in response to Ryan, picture this....., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

once said.  "...I find that success belongs not to those who are truly born with talent,  but to those who are truly stubborn."  Now,  if you want to bail---thats your decesion.  But,  think it all over.  Just because you ran a couple ads and got responses...but not the ones you want,  I would not throw in the towel. ie:  I could run a couple ads trying to sell a piece of property and maybe I would not get my desired reply...at first.  So,  I re-think that aspect.

   Look,  as I see it---heres the deal for you.  You have seemed hot to marry an FSU girl for some time.  There are many nice, good-looking girls there.  You:  are here.  Like 6000 miles away.  So,  you have to be creative in how you find some to meet when you go there in May.  Don't discount any method.  Like a good agency,  which can help you alot.  Help you seperate the wheat from the chaff.  Time is money.  It will be extremely rare for you to find a girl who has a computer at home and the money to afford the telephone internet line charges.  And have very good English skills.  I have only encountered 2,  out of hundreds who have that luxury and it is really because their father makes quite good money for Ukraine and uses the computer for business.

  Anyway!  I would view this as a long term project and not get excited about short term misfires.  Be dispassionate.  Patience.  You can be sure there are some great girls there and it is simply a matter of finding some.  What works for someone else may not work for you.  There is a certain randomness and causality to all this.  What works for you,  may not work for another.  I would adopt the view that this will not be easy...but may be worthwhile in the long run.  There is nothing easy about this and it is not for the faint of heart.  Think about all the methods you could employ.  The most important one is you are going to Ukraine in May,  the best method.  Bone-up on your spoken Russian and meet many candidates.  Good luck.

[DE]

... in response to Ryan, picture this....., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

You be one he!! of a cheerleader!

[ChipShot]

... in response to Ryan, picture this....., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

LP

Your letter is a keeper, one that should have a separate page on Planet Love & Frustration.

I do believe that the further one gets into this thicket, kinda like Frodo entering the forest (I'm not a Tolkein geek, I promise) the better we can see the forest. Yes, for every man on this list, there is a woman out there with whom a married life could be made. Is this an easy process? We all the know the answer to that.

I think one helpful key is to set realistic goals..remember, these ladies are smart, attractive...they're not desperate for any man. I think it can be helpful to identify ladies that might meet our expectations here in the US. Be age approapriate, and set your physical expectations appropriately.

One message that I do get from FSU ladies is that for the women looking for husbands, they are simply unhappy with the men of their country. Some are good men, yes, but the majority of men really don't understand fidelity, tenderness. If you are a man capable of love, and can truly identify with the emotional needs of a woman, there are already, Ryan, 1000 women out there who would snap you up in a second. Be aggressive about how you market yourself. Leave no stone unturned. Be aggressive, but smart. It will happen for you.

[Bobby Orr]

... in response to Ryan, picture this....., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

Great !

[KenC]

... in response to Ryan, picture this....., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

n/t