....begins about 2 1/2 years ago.  I am picking up a buddy and he is running late.  He's taking a shower and I am at his coffee table bored.  I look through the magazines,  Time, penthouse, etc and in the middle of the pile I find this RW Profile Magazine.  Most of us know the name.  I know nothing about this stuff,  but I thumb through it anyway.  I look at the pictures and read the agiprop to take a tour.  Seems,  like a vehicle to get prospects for a tour.  But,  there are some very beautiful girls in there.  I am skeptical of it all.  But,  there is one girl who is just seeming to be so nice and beautiful.  I mean an 11 among 10's.  She is 22 and easily one of the best looking girls I have ever seen...and its not a studio shot...more of an everydayday shot.  My friend is ready and we go.  But,  a month goes by and I never forget this one girl.  Could this be for real,  I wonder???  

  I recall that I would have to pay this company for this girls address.  I was more than niave.  After a month of having her rattling around in my brain,  I go to my friend and get the companys # and pay for her address...$10 big ones.  I write her a letter in English, photo ( simple English) and address it in Russian.  "Letter in a Bottle".  I forget all about it.  3 weeks later I receive this letter with very precise lettering from Ukraine.  She quickly replied and included more everyday photos.  This girl is absolutely beautiful and she tells me all about her life and family etc.  A very nice girl. I think.  I beleived.

   We exchange about 6 letters each and then...the big silence...I never hear from her again.  I know all about her and her family members and like almost everything.  I was actually mentally at the point of meeting with her.  Like too good to be true and then the door is shut.  I chalked it up to experience or something and forgot about it all.  And I forgot all about RW's.  But,  from time to time I would wonder just what had happened to this 1 girl.

  About 6 months ago I begin communicating with this one very nice girl.  She is from the same small city as the girl I had wrote to 2 1/2 years ago, I realize.  After I begin receiving postal mail too---I begin to make a connection.  I pull the old letters out of my closet and compare things.  Like,  same last name,  same address and same telephone #.  Well, well, well.  They are sisters and I am now communicating with this wonderful sister (older by 3 years) that the original girl told me about.  Its a small world--- and I never let on.  In time "B" begins to tell me all about "A",  her sister,  who is engaged to marry a Ukrainian guy in 3 months or so.  She tells me about her sisters heartbreak a short time ago.

  She tells me how a couple years ago her sisters photo and profile were placed in some American and European RW profile Magazines.  The family was astounded at all the postal mail that "A" received,  for months...maybe 2 thousand letters in all...maybe 3 thousand.  They were kept in a cardboard box.  All were opened and some had money.  Ho, Ho, Ho.  "A" only replied to a few,  her sister told me  and in a short time had selected 1 to correspond with by mail and email and telephone.  It wasn't me.  "A" was in love with this 1 guy.  An American who in short order professed his undying love for her.  This went on for over a year.  But,  he never showed-up like he said he would.  After a year he emailed her and told her he had fallen in love with a girl in his own city and they were getting married in a month.  "A" was crushed and heartbroken.  What an incredibly nice and absolutely beautiful girl to toss away.. to lead on.  She was ready to marry this guy...trusted him and everything.  For the whole family it was a very sad story.  "A",  in time decided to marry a local guy---not a foreign guy.

   Such a surprise both "B" and "A" had when I finally revealed to "B" that I had communicated with her sister some time ago.  I even scanned a couple of her sisters letters and the her postal mailed photos to "B" to prove it.  So there would be no doubt.  Of course we all had a good laugh about it all.

   "A" and "B",  they are both absolutely beautiful and real.  11's among 10's,  but,  it is more their inner beauty which is their strenght.  The guy who dumped "A",  will never know how true and sincere this girls love was for him.  It was a very strong commitment which she felt for him.  It was true and honest and genuine.  But,  he led her on and really had no regard for her feelings.  I hope some learn a little something from this that when a good RW feels love for you....it is a very strong and true feeling.
   

... in response to Re: A Funny Little Story and, posted by Mike on Mar 22, 2002

I am not,  at this moment in time all-charged up about marriage to anyone.  There is no big rush or clock ticking.  When I do go I would like to spend about 3 or 4 weeks and really see the country and go to St. Pete and Moscow.  Not quite the grand tour,  but a schedule which suits my interests.  If my prime focus was marriage right away---I would plan differently.  I myself do not understand how some can spend a week there with 1 girl and consider marriage.  If I spent a week here or 6 months here with 1 girl---I would not be thinking marriage.  Its really quite a good idea to know the person quite well that one is considering to marry,  I think.  But that is definitely not sure fire.  Now,  I do also beleive the opposite can happen...one could spend a week or 2 and feel great and get married.  Lifes a funny thing.  I think you have to go with your gut feelings and thoughts in this.  This particuliar girl "B"....she has a very nice life and family life and job and...not some poor Ukrainian girl.  The family is not rich---but they are not poor either.  It would really be very difficult for her to leave her life there.

... in response to now is the best time, posted by KenC on Mar 22, 2002

I understand you're not in a hurry. Trust me, I was in no hurry either when I went to Moscow! I got lucky and met a keeper by pure luck on my first trip, and she was not searching or hungry to leave, anyway Ken stated what I ment. Really just take a trip and see before you get seriouse about it. I don't know about you, but I can't count the times I said to myself " aaa I'll get something later" and when you wanted it danged if it wasn't the hardest thing to find. Ken is correct meeting a girl that doesn't care if she stays or goes is the best! You'll never set and wonder ( like I'm sure many men do ) does she like me or does she like what I can provide her with. I do know one thing, a one week trip will be worth its weight in gold, maybe not now but later you'll know what to do and what not to do, and many other things you learn on your first trip. Think of it as scouting for your real trip, but take advantage of this oportunity while it still presents itself.
Mike

... in response to Thanks for your advice Ken..., posted by tim360z on Mar 22, 2002

I see the picture a little better now. Anyway just wanting to help ya out. I hope you can find a happy middle ground and go after this one before someone else does.
Mike

... in response to Re: Well?, posted by Quasimoto on Mar 21, 2002

who is writing to 3 different RW's.  Where is all this coming from Quasi?  I'm lost.  I would have to say the aforementioned guy is a jerk.  What that has to do with me I just don't know...at this moment...maybe I am missing something???

  The girl "B" and I have a friendship.  There has slowly been a growing mutual attraction...but we will each see.  The real friendship w/o all the marriage stuff is very important to her.  She would be the wrong girl to throw all that marriage stuff at anyway...she would think I'm just another foreign guy wanting to marry a Ukrainian girl.  At this point,  I do not feel strongly enough to jet over just to meet her...but in the future...who knows?  I think a mutual friendship is the best foundation...for anything.

... in response to On the other hand...., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

You stated that, you personally know the guy.
Let me guess. LP.
Perhaps I shall meet that person, soon, in Montréal or in Normandie.

There are things that are not easy to write, I know.

... in response to On the other hand...., posted by LP on Mar 21, 2002

wonder Shakespeare can still be relevant today,  although little else of his time still is.  The heart,  love, the human condition.  A sword can cut both ways...eh! Horatio.  Timeless.

... in response to Cool story since it is story time......I..., posted by Ryan on Mar 21, 2002

It's sad, but so typical.  Reminds me of my parents.