Pregnant situation here.

[Ryan]

... in response to Re: Pregnant situation here., posted by Dude on Mar 9, 2002

Doynkus..  Advice?  Not sure anyone can really help.. It's all you now

Good Luck
Ryan

[wsbill]

... in response to Pregnant situation here., posted by Dude on Mar 9, 2002

You'd think he'd have learned something.

[BubbaGump]

... in response to Pregnant situation here., posted by Dude on Mar 9, 2002

Better not to have sex with them over there or else use protection.  That way you do not have to wonder if you're the father or not and you're not forced to bring them here under duress.  You should have used protection anyway because of the chances of catching STDs.  Condoms won't completely protect you but they help.  I was reading one guys post about how he got an STD every time he went to Ukraine.  

Guys, don't do what this guy just did.

[NW Jim]

... in response to Pregnant situation here., posted by Dude on Mar 9, 2002

Dude,
I take it that your fiancee is still in the FSU?, and you now feel pressured to "do the right thing."  

How do you know that this is YOUR child?

I would just wait--let the kid be born in FSU, demand genetic testing ($300) before I take the next step. Course, this may prompt her to practice Russian birth control-abortion. There are also practical reasons to have the child born there-- your fiancee would be surrounded by friends and family, not a recent arrival in an alien culture.

Otherwise, your risk is that you bring her here, marry her w/in 90 days, any child born during the marriage is legally presumed to be your child. What if it isn't?

In other words you could wind up paying American sized child support on a child that is not yours. Averages $325.00 per month. In some states it is very hard to disestablish paternity even with genetic testing.

Think, don't get rushed!

[Mike]

... in response to Re: Pregnant situation here. Whoa, stop!, posted by NW Jim on Mar 9, 2002

If she has it there it will cost you nothing. Play what tricks you need, but put off bringing her here until it's born. Maybe you'll learn the blood type and that may tell you if it belongs to someone else ( I don't know, but I thought that the blood type has to match one of the parents ?? ) I know TWO men that had a fiancee from FSU and were pregnant with another mans child!
Mike

[SteveD]

... in response to Good point --- also something to conside..., posted by Mike on Mar 9, 2002

In the last few months a testing kit has become available to the general public to enable men to test whether they are the genetic fathers of there children.

You do have to send it off to a laboratory to get the results though.

Apparently in independant studies, 7% of fathers are not actually the biological fathers.

It would therefore seem that this issue, for men at least, needs to be given serious consideration whether you live in USA or Ukraine.

STEVE

[NW Jim]

... in response to 7% are illigitimate in the USA, posted by SteveD on Mar 10, 2002

Steve,
Actually the studies I have read indicate that 7 to 10% of children born DURING a marriage are not the biological children of the husband. That doesn't include all the co-habitaters and one night stands, where the guy gets tricked into thinking it's his child.

Of course like most forms of dysfunctionality, this cuckoldery tends to be centered in low class, low income marriages that may not have a lot of stability to begin with.

So even if you're married, genetic testing may be worth the cost for peace of mind. Plus, if she knows that there will be a test ahead of time, it may cut down on that possibility.

As Pres. Reagan said, "trust but verify."

[Bobby Orr]

... in response to 7% are illigitimate in the USA, posted by SteveD on Mar 10, 2002

I would like to know what the statistics are for white men.  I have a feeling that 7 % statistic you quote does not separate racial factors.

[Mike]

... in response to Re: 7% are illigitimate in the USA, posted by Bobby Orr on Mar 10, 2002

With our system being so politically correct I doubt that they calculate their statistics based on race.
Mike

[Mike]

... in response to 7% are illigitimate in the USA, posted by SteveD on Mar 10, 2002

That doesn't surprise me! Actually I thought it was 1 out of 9 was the statistics ?? Either way it should be .00% ..
It sure would be nice if there was a way to tell before a child is born, and also a way to test this without the women knowing!
Mike