Those nice little "I love you" moments.

[John K]

I had a nice surprise tonight.  I had to come in tonight for the 2nd night in a row to do some late night computer maintenance.  I worked my normal 5am to 4pm day, came home and slept for about 3 hours.  As I got ready to come back to work, my wife asked me "Are your shoes ok?"  I looked down and much to my surprise and delight, I found that my wife had shined my shoes while I slept.  I showered her with kisses and once again admired that just at the right moment touch she seems to have (I really needed a pick-me-up then...)

Remember, guys, once you have married your lady, the romance isn't over.  I love to once in a while send a love letter in the email to my wife, when she least expects it.  Perhaps bring home a flower bouquet or a small stuffed animal.  Don't forget to work those little moments in, and they shall come back to you when you need them most.

As always, this is simply my 2¢ and strictly my opinion.  Your mileage may vary...

[Ramblin]

... in response to Those nice little "I love you"..., posted by John K on Jan 30, 2002

Thanks for sharing John.  Reminds me of Karl, I think it was, who was thrilled to post: "Guess what my wife is doing right now, she's washing my truck!"  There are ladies, both American and FSU, that know how to give and please their man knowing that it will all come back to them in good things from their man and there are ladies that are just all take and no give and don't know how good those loving gestures can be back and forth.  So my question to you is, did your lady show signs of being the giving/romantic type while you were dating and getting to know her?  Did she show big signs, little signs, or did you just luck out?  Out of the six or so ladies that I spent quality time with in Kiev over two weeks, only one gave me anything and that was when she surprised me by bringing some watermellon and ice cream to my apartment and it was fun and romantic to feed it to each other.  We only smeared a little on each other, ha ha.  Oh, and one lady danced for me, but other than that, no signs that any of them could be that giving and romantic type of wife.

[tfcrew]

... in response to Re: Those nice little "I love you&q..., posted by Ramblin on Jan 31, 2002

A two truck couple from Texas.
This is great....
Karl

[Ramblin]

... in response to Uh Ramblin, thats HER truck now....., posted by tfcrew on Jan 31, 2002

Ha ha ha ha ha, sounds like you have a smart wife.  So, Karl, does she still wash your truck or only her own?

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: Those nice little "I love you&q..., posted by Ramblin on Jan 31, 2002

Hey John and Ramblin,

I am sure you agree but some guys need to be reminded that the reverse is true. One of the biggest complaints that women have is not getting quality attention from their husband - not doing the small romantic things - thinking that it has to be going out to dinner or something like that.

A woman finding a rose on a made bed with an unexpected love note is a woman who melts - a woman who then feels like showing you also in some way how much she appreciates that special attention. Women thrive on attention that tells them they are special.

[John K]

... in response to Re: Those nice little "I love you&q..., posted by Ramblin on Jan 31, 2002

Neither of us is the overly romantic type.  Remembering to make those small gestures is more of a mental "to do" thing for me than an act of passion, I'm afraid to say.  Still, I know that I cannot take my wife for granted and I do work hard to keep her happy, and part of that is making sure that those little moments take place.  I'm a bit of a cold fish, for sure, but I am conscious of that fact and I work hard to get around it.

As far as my wife, I think she did it to help raise me out of my depression.  I hadn't realized it, but I was feeling pretty bleak with all the extra hours I've been working, along with other issues currently going on.  My wife wanted to surprise me with something nice, and she certainly did it!  It really lifted my spirits and made my work last night much easier to bear.

[Jimmy]

... in response to Re: Those nice little "I love you&q..., posted by Ramblin on Jan 31, 2002

I come home everyday and find something my RW does that warms my heart to her.  Never does a day go by that she doesn't do things for me that makes me love her more and more.  She is 40 years old and knows how to treat her husband.  I have seen young ones here that are beautiful and don't know the first thing about life and what to do to keep a man.  They think that their body will do it all and many men think the lust will last forever.  Right!!

If it doesn't come from the heart and soul then nothing else will do it for you.  I for one will pick a lady older and not so young.  There are many nice ones here that are just waiting for some good man to take care of them.  In turn they will move mountains for you.  They are the leftovers that have been left behind for the younger hard bodied RW that actively try and attract AM.  Don't be fooled.  Look beneath the skin and see into the soul.  Find one that will not leave you once she is in the US.

My observations only.  Yours certainly will vary.

Jimmy
Ukriane

[Stan B]

... in response to Try older ones, posted by Jimmy on Jan 31, 2002

Here you say you 'love her more and more' but in your last post you said 'I have mentioned before that the motive for these RW/AM relationships is difficult to discover and I would like to be separated for a short time and see how much sincerity is there.'
So which is it? What does your 'gut' say?

[Jimmy]

... in response to mixed messages, posted by Stan B on Jan 31, 2002

Stan,

You ask a good question and I don't know if I have the answer.  I can say that when it comes to marriage again for me that I am the most cautious of them all.  I got burned very badly in my last divorce and I mean emotionally so I am not ready to open my heart wide and dive right in.

I have a very different view of what the motive may be because I live here and see the vast difference what I can give the RW vs what a RM can give them.  I see the disparity in their standard of living and what they have to deal with on a daily basis.  I am on her turf and can see the motive much clearer and then again I don't know how she would be when in the US so it's equally hard to determine why she says she loves me.  True love or what I can provide for her??  Remember I may have said in one of my past posts that my RW recently for the first time in her life used an automatic washer, drove a car for the first time, visitied a supermarket, and many more first timer for her.  It is like someone blind getting their sight back.  You can't believe how happy they are.  Now if you (AM) are the source of that person getting their sight back and their sight would go with you when you leave don't you think they would k*ss your b*tt to keep you?

I have to question the motive yet many things my RW does for me warms my heart but I think my RW would do it for any man that loved her and was a good husband.  They are just that way so I can't say that she does it only for me because I can give her a better way of life.  I know one thing and that is time is always the revealer of truth.  Only time will tell and a short separation between will not hurt.  If she loves me and I love her we will be back together.  We will see.

Best Regards,

Jimmy
Ukraine

[KenC]

... in response to Re: mixed messages, posted by Jimmy on Feb 1, 2002

n/t

[Stan B]

... in response to Re: mixed messages, posted by Jimmy on Feb 1, 2002

and I admit that I jumped in 1/2 blind, but I have always trusted my instincts and so far have no regrets. My wife treats me like I could only dream of and yet I don't feel its as much of what I've given her materially, but emotionally. I feel what has made our relationship work so well is more to the fact that I treat her daughter as my own and that I put their needs 1st, 2nd & 3rd, before my own. She also gets more joy out of whatever I do for Katya, no matter how small, than almost anything I do for her (except maybe teaching her to drive :-)
So regardless of how it works out, I wish you the best. And when you get back, follow your gut, I'm sure you'll make the right choice...aloha

[Mike]

... in response to mixed messages, posted by Stan B on Jan 31, 2002

I wouldn't trade my wife for all the cows in Texas, but there are times when ya just don't know what's going on, and then there are times you have no questions. If his wife is anything like mine you wont hear those three words and you are left thinking on your own, and it may just have to be answered with time.
Mike

[KenC]

... in response to Try older ones, posted by Jimmy on Jan 31, 2002

Jimmy,
I am glad that you have found happiness with a mature RW.  Sorry to inform you that your statement regarding the "shallow-ness" of young RW doesn't apply here at our house.  Lena has shown a tenderness and a mothering instinct that I have not seen in AW twice her age.  The "little things" that she does for me on a daily basis continues to make our marriage stronger.  Of course her hard body and passion aint too shabby either!
KenC

[Jimmy]

... in response to not all of the "young ones" ar..., posted by KenC on Jan 31, 2002

Ken,
There are exceptions to any observation.  I just think that living here has showm me that the younger ones are not as mature and appreciate the things they have as the older ones.  I am glad that yours has given you what you want and need.  I generalize at times and hope you don't take it personal.  It is only a general observation.  My thoughts and ideas about this may change tomorrow.  Only time will tell.  Happiness to you and yours.

Jimmy
Ukraine