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Author Topic: Deckard's trip report - POST #6  (Read 3106 times)
Deckard
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« on: January 22, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

Deckard's trip report - POST #6

Adaptation and Alupka * July 5th - end of July, 2001

I still couldn't believe where I was the next day. But it was real, and Luda took me for a walk in the city, and we spent the whole day together. The dreamy feeling went away, but the feeling I had about Luda did not.

In the next couple of days, I gradually began to wake from this long fairy tale dream, and realize where I was. I was in a totally alien world. I began to learn that I really could take very little for granted. This included hot water. Oh, how I missed being able to take hot showers whenever I wanted. Hot water was in fact only available for a short while in the morning, and usually for a couple of hours in the evening.

The water from the tap was also not drinkable, and would have to be boiled first. Although I knew about it already, I experienced both of these things for 3 months.

Of course, there were many other things that I had to adapt to, as anyone not in their own turf would have as well. I began to miss English, although I did pick up a lot of Russian while there.

Luda and her family took very good care of me. I would often help Luda wash dishes after meals, and sometimes helped out in the garden, and various chores around the house.

A couple of days after my arrival, the whole family and I went by car to the coastal town of Alupka, which is two hours by car from Simferopol, and close to the city of Yalta. There the sisters and I vacationed for over three weeks, while the parents were there some of the time.

While in Alupka, we stayed in a couple of old rooms in an old school. I had my own room, while Luda and her family had their room. Rent was very inexpensive. There was an orphange in town, on vacation from Russia, and we would eat three meals a day which were prepared for us by the local cooks that were servicing the orphans. This was also very inexpensive, and amounted to about several US dollars per day for both Luda and I. It was nothing to rave about, but certainly a good variety of healthy food (although we could not pick from a menu, they would just serve us what they had made).

There was a shower house about a 4 minute walk from our rooms. Sometimes we had to wait for our turn, if there were others waiting for it as well. Again, I missed my hot showers 24/7, and the water was usually cold. Oh well, builds character I thought Smiley. The ladies weren't complaining, so I didn't either Smiley.

Almost every morning, we would walk down to the beach and sun ourselves on the rocks and swim in the Black Sea.

****SIDENOTE*

The Black Sea is beautiful. The water was clear everyday that I saw it, and it was teeming with signs of life. There were small crabs searching among the rocks, and all the time there would be children hunting for them. Jellyfish were common, and fun to look at. Small fish could be seen swimming in schools. Ships of all sizes could be seen far off the coast usually. The water itself had a greenish tinge when looking at it close to shore, and looked a dark blue farther out on the horizon. The sea would sometimes be rough, with rough waves crashing into the rocks on some days, yet on other days, the water was as smooth as glass like a lake, and looked almost like you could walk on it. I had never seen such a variation in such a large body of water before.

****SIDENOTE*

After a few hours, the sun would be too hot, and we would come in for lunch. Then Luda and I (alone usually) would go for a walk, sometimes just around the neighborhood of the school, and sometimes actually we caught a small bus into the center of Alupka.

Several times we caught an "excursion" bus, and for almost a whole day, we would be on some sort of guided tour. This tour could last from only  9am -2pm, or it could go from 8am - 6pm. Some of the cities that we visited included Sevastopol and Yalta. We saw many beautiful palaces, fortresses (Sudak) , mountains (Demerdji, Mangup), a small castle (Swallow's Nest), the best Botanical Garden I've ever seen (Nikita), and more. These were always the most interesting days for me while we were in Alupka, I would see so much, and spend the entire day with Luda, with whom I was growing closer to.

The excursions costs me about $24 for both Luda and I, and I thought they were very reasonable, given that they lasted so many hours.

We brought her sister on some of these trips, and she had a great time too, as well as taking pictures of Luda and I together.

I had brought the book "Watership Down" with me on the plane, and this we read aloud together very often, sitting side by side, usually taking turns reading when we were tired of reading aloud. But there wasn't enough time to finish the book. I gave Luda a small stuffed realistic looking rabbit that we called "Hazel", which she liked very much.

We had had a wonderful time in Alupka, but at the very end of July, we returned to Simferopol.


---- To be continued in POST #7 ----


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thesearch
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« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Deckard's trip report - POST #6, posted by Deckard on Jan 22, 2002

Thank you for the nice trip reports. I am looking forward to your future posts.
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thesearch
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« Reply #2 on: January 22, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Deckard's trip report - POST #6, posted by thesearch on Jan 22, 2002

about age difference. You are too young. I am quite a bit older than you so I have not checked out women your age  so I do not know the status of female availability for men your age.

As women get older simply a lot of them do not take care of themselves and they get fat and negative it seems - thus the pool of nice women dwindles.

At your age there has not been the time for this to happen.

Are the pickings that bad in your age group for you to end up seeking a woman in the FSU or what?

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LP
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« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Hey Deckard - at least you do not have t..., posted by thesearch on Jan 22, 2002

...."Being a shy guy doesn't help to meet a lot of girls, which is what I'd have to do if I really wanted to find that one girl I was looking for."

It's right there Doc, the key to understanding everything.

The smoking gun, so to speak.

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Deckard
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« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Hey Doc...., posted by LP on Jan 24, 2002


what do you mean by this post, LP?
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Deckard
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« Reply #5 on: January 23, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Hey Deckard - at least you do not have t..., posted by thesearch on Jan 22, 2002

I always thought just as you said.. I am "too young" hehe.

Seemed to me everyone was in their late 30's or older.

As far as pickings in my age group here in the states... well, that is a loooongg story.

Fact is, I was never the typical party type of guy that a guy my age and younger usually is. Actually, since I'm not like any of the guys that I've met, it makes sense to say that I'm also not like any of the girls here. I mean that I just don't seem to have much in common with them. I'm not into messing around, playing the dating game, etc.

I'm serious. I was looking for commitment. I really just wanted to date one girl, and that was it.

Throw in the fact that I have always looked several years younger, and it means that the ladies about my age probably do not consider me "eligible" for dating.

Most of the more mature ladies that are ready to start looking for a commitment and a *serious* relationship have either already been married (not a candidate for me), or already finished their tour of the dating games and have picked up a lot of emotional baggage, etc. Also not what I wanted.

Being a shy guy doesn't help to meet a lot of girls, which is what I'd have to do if I really wanted to find that one girl I was looking for.

Trying to find the needle in the haystack, I disovered internet personal ads. I hadn't been browsing through local
personal ads for very long, when I accidentally discovered Russian/Ukrainian women's ads by leaving off a distance search parameter. These ads generally looked quite different than their American counterparts. Typically, FSU woman ad=FAMILY/HUSBAND/WIFE/LOVE vs U.S. woman ad=PARTY TIME/FUN/HANG OUT. Thus I slowed down looking at U.S. women's ads as soon as I discovered this and focused on FSU ads. A little bit of research led to growing interest in these women, and soon, a LOT of research. I did not completely write off the possibility of finding a serious girl that I liked enough here in the states, but I would say I stopped really trying at age 21.

Three years of research, later, I find Luda's ad, and a year later, here I am.

That's the SHORT version, believe me!

Peace,

-Deckard

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Mike
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« Reply #6 on: January 22, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Deckard's trip report - POST #6, posted by Deckard on Jan 22, 2002

After reading your story I am very impressed with your writing skills! It makes me feel as if I can see everything from your eyes. After my wife and I read this we began discussing that part of the country you visited and she explained to me that the majority are Russians that chose to stay in that area, and at one time that area was considered very posh! She now says that sense the fall of the FSU there is a small unspoken war ( so to speak ) between the Ukrains and the Russian population there. That is why there is a problem with the hotwater. Then we went on to discuss how people could read how there is no hot water where you went in the Ukrain and could easily come to the conclusion that all FSU areas are like this. Other then bad drinking water ( that is true everywhere in FSU ) the hot shower part is usually not something to expect lets say in Moscow or some other cities.

It is funny how people can read one thing and get a mistaken impression of the whole country. This reminded us of some of the questions people here have asked my wife in the past. One lady asked my wife if they have TV in Russia!

anyway we are enjoying your well written story!
Mike

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Deckard
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« Reply #7 on: January 23, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Deckard's trip report - POST #6, posted by Mike on Jan 22, 2002


Mike,

hehe, TV in Russia!?? What a concept! Wow! They even have computers!!! LOL

A few people asked me where I was going to or coming from while on the planes.... I told them Ukraine... one asked me... "Oh, is that like by the UK?". uhhhh .... no.

Reminded me of when a former teacher told me that a student in my class (back in my highschool days) here in Austin, Texas, did not know what the capital of Texas is. OK.

Interesting what your wife said about the little unspoken war between Ukrainians and Russians. I did pick up a slight bit of this feeling, but it wasn't major or anything as far as I could tell.

Well, I'm glad both of you are enjoying the trip reports, I'm trying to make it both informative and fun Smiley.

Peace,

-Deckard

By the way, I wasn't kidding about the student.

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John K
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« Reply #8 on: January 22, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Deckard's trip report - POST #6, posted by Mike on Jan 22, 2002

Depending on where you are located, hot water, or water at all can be an issue.  When in Sevastopol, I never worried about water, as hotels are allowed a seemingly endless supply of water and have modern hot water heaters.  The same for Kiev.  

In Zhitomir, at the hotel, you were at the mercy of the town and the hotel.  The town ran out of water somewhere between 6 to 10 pm and was out of water until the next morning.  The hotel ran out of hot water after the first bath.  Babuska's apartment, on the other hand, has a water heater that runs off of gas.  The trick is to start the water running, turn on the gas a little, light it, and then turn the gas up most of the way.  (Not all the way, or the water heater would explode...).  The water was more than hot, I can guarantee you!

From what I remember of Sevastopol, the hotels were not limited in water, even when the local apartments had nothing.  This was to ensure that the tourism industry would not suffer.  I think the hotels are protected somehow, or else perhaps they pay bigger bribes...

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