1)  Avaliability.  I waited until I was 36 and the number of women without a ready made family that hasn't been through at least one divorce is quite small.  Factor into that the need for a little personality and some beauty (inside and out) and it begins to look like a ghost town. I participated in an american dating service for about 2 years and most of the women I dated were overwhelmed with the number of men the dating service was trying to match them with. One "externally beautiful AW" told me she was averaging about 3 dates per week.  By the way, I'm not a overweight, unemployed slob.  I have never been married, have worked as an engineer for an energy company for 15 years, financially stable, no drug problem, have above average looks, into fitness bigtime and I am very active.

2)  Openness.  AW prefer to build a case against you, keeping notes of every thing they don't like about you.  My RW and I are vey open with each other and discuss problems as they occur.  I can't correct things I don't know about and I can't be perfect all the time.  

3)  Dependablity.  I can't count the number of times an AM would meet me for dinner 30 minutes late (fashionably late I suppose) or decline on a lake trip hours before a trip I had planned for several days.  It is also interesting to look at the divorce rate.  I think most AW will divorce an AM once they find a better deal.  Who is at fault...probably the parents for building excessive expectations into their children.  Sure, my RW could divorce me tomorrow but we have had numerous open discussions about it and I am willing to bet she will be there with me through the good times and the bad.  I would almost prefer the odds in Vegas as opposed to the odds I would face with a marriage to an AW.  No matter who you are...there is always a better deal in some way.

4)  Expectations.  My RW and I cook dinner together and enjoy it tremedously.  She cooks...I clean, which is great considering my cooking skills (expect on the grill).  After dating for 15 years in America I had one AW cook me ONE meal.  The rest of the time, even after dating for months, the expectation was to eat at the best restaurants in town or "if they were in a really good mood" I could cook dinner.

5)  Lazyness.  I didn't expect any AW to hit the gym with me or even act like she enjoys fitness.  But it would be nice if they would at least get out of bed before 10 am and be willing to go do something.  My RW can't wait for spring and has actually wanted to take a trip out to the lake just to see my boat.  WOW...some actual interest.  She even said she would like to go to the lake before spring.  Quite a difference from the AW of my past who wanted to decline on a trip to the lake on a perfect summer day to sleep till noon and then later watch some beefed up soap opera on tv. My RW also committed on just how many Americans are overweight.  

I wanted to keep this brief (no such luck). I could come up with my top 20 reasons why I would roll the dice with a brief meeting with a RW vs. consideration for an AW, but these are a few.  I must admit that I questioned myself numerous times about why I would travel so far and risk so much.  After 15 YEARS of trying here in the states I decided to quit beating my head against the same wall and try something different.  If you find the right one, the reward is overwhelming.  I couldn't be happier right now, but I think there was some luck involved too.  Kudos to those who are bold enough to realize something isn't working and try a different approach....Rick

So the big pull is that she's a doctor? You must think medicine women are heap special if an "average" guy like you with a big bank account and your "connections" couldn't go out with one. Well golly Gomer, I got me one of them doctors too but her job isn't what made me want her. And ya know, I still ain't sure she'd be right for me.

No wonder your six out and all alone. Keerist, how'd you this far? What's next Hombre, layin out on the porch and shootin at passin cars?

Yeah, R/M are all idiots. Hey, maybe it's OK to think all Texans are ignorant, beer swillin, shti kickin, rednecked morons. Hmmm...let's see now, that would make *three* things that only come outta Texas.

You betcha, I'll be eatin my heart out while ya'll are spending that bank account picking the best of the litter. Geez, the guy was right, you outta just jump right now.

While there may be some truth to some of these statements, I would reserve judgement of a culture and it's people until you've been there and experienced it (extensively).

It certianly isn't easy though.  If someone wants to marry a doctor and support their efforts to practise medicine here, they better be prepared to make sacrifices.