Children’s negativism

[RW]

... in response to Thank you, posted by Tootsie on Dec 17, 2001

You are welcome...

Yes, New Year's is definitely better in Russia, though we had wonderful celebration last year - friend of ours had a great party and we watched fireworks going off the Space Needle. It was great.

As for age difference. I don't think attention from other men is the major reason. Pretty woman would get attention from men no matter if her husband is 35 or 55 , whether he is American or Russian..... It is always woman's choice - there are some who are never satisfied with what they have until they realize what they lost. At this point it is usually too late.

I do agree about age difference - but it's my presonal opinion as well as I can not get how you can marry somebody who does not speak the language. Combine it with proposal after one week time spend together, mismatched personalities, desire to get out of the country no matter what and you get "perfect MOB scenario".

Good luck to you in your search.

Stay warm

Russian Wife

[Tootsie]

... in response to Re: Thank you, posted by RW on Dec 17, 2001

certainly you are quite right.

I just want to add one more "stroke" to your "MOB scenario".

When a girl gets involved with an agency as a rule she  wants both to get out of the country and to find her dream man. I'm sure that at the beginning of search her requirements to her potential mate are rather high. In some time after she gets tens, hundreds or thousands letters and corresponds with men she starts to realize that she has either to sacrifice some of her requirements or to reject the idea to leave for a fairy tale land. Because even if a certain percentage of men who wrote her met all her requirements it's clear that they wrote to many more girls and it's not easy to win this competition. So she makes her requirements much lower.

If she could go to such American sites as matchmaker she would probably found thousands of men who met ALL her requirements and perhaps more. But these men are looking for women in the US and they are not ready to drive one hour to meet an unknown girl, not to speak about travelling to Russia or Ukraine...

Regards,

Frozen Tootsie

[mdante99]

... in response to Thank you, posted by Tootsie on Dec 17, 2001

Tootsie:

I beg to differ with you on several accounts.

My wife is Russian/Lithuanian (Russian born in Lithuania); you can see our photos at
http://photos.yahoo.com/mdante99.
You would agree that she is very attractive, and considerably younger than me.

First of all she had a good job in Vilnius, and I had to convince her to come here; she paid her way.
Though she has been here only for eight months; our relationship is excellent. Usually the first year is very telling how your relationship would be. If our first year is any measure, I expect an excellent relationship between us.

There has been numerous exmaples in America where younger wives not only made loving wives but made the lives of the men very pleasant.
We had a President of USA, who married a woman 25 years younger than himself, he is the most popular living American; you may have heard his name... Ronald Reagan. He had one of nicest marriages the history has ever recorded... anywhere.

My wife is very attractive, but she has not found attention from other men any distraction. She is as happy as can be. I

And yes, the naysayer can say just waite for two years...  she has no burning desire to stay in America... she would rather that we live in Vilnius. If our marriage did not work out she would return to her country, we already have agreed upon that, I don't wish to go into details, but that is an absolute understanding between us, regardless of the duration of the marriage... so rest assured, she is not counting for two years.

I am a believer in young women, they are like breath of fresh air; they don't have baggages from prveious relationships; I have never been happier in my life.

On the other hand I am helping her a lot get assimilated in USA; very importantly, she wanted to build a career in USA; and helping her is my top priority.

Mark

[LP]

... in response to I Beg to Differ, posted by mdante99 on Dec 17, 2001

Ya know Mark, I have been hard pressed to find a recent post of your's on *any* board where you are not pushing that photo link. It's become clear you're rather obsessed about it.  What point are ya trying to make?

Seems a tad on the "trophy" side of the fence to me.
No offense, yes she's cute, but beauty is in the eye and heart of the beholder, if ya know what I mean.

[mdante99]

... in response to Hmmmm......, posted by LP on Dec 18, 2001

LP; a photo ads a face to the notes; I think it is very valuable.

I consider myself a fairly ordinary guy; I have heard all types of stories on this Board, and so have you; many not very pleasant.

I was prepared for the arrival of a conniving woman from FSU; that never happened.

My experience is very real; and I found her in less than six months. Without a photo there is no one who would ever believe me; and I don't blame them; I don't believe anyone either unless they have a photo to post.
BTW; even the INS requires photos. Even get neither K-1 or AOS without them.
Photos are for credibility not trophy.
Obsessed with my wife?... yes you can say that... and she is obsessed with me.

Mark

[LP]

... in response to Re: Hmmmm......, posted by mdante99 on Dec 18, 2001

...I meant no offense, thanx for not taking it the wrong way.

I understand the INS, but why do you need such "credibility?" My question still stands: What is it you're trying to prove? That she's real? Is that really neccesary? Do you really care if you're believed or not? I dunno, still seems a little trophy-like to me.

Btw, while I certainly believe you (actually I don't care one way or the other), a photo on a website has very little credibility.

I was only pointing out the following:

1) Any one can go to the FSU and bring back a pretty girl. Bringing a girl here on a K1 and the word success do not belong in the same sentence because any moron can do it. Some do it in no time at all, others take as long as needed. Taking only six months in total to do it is not something I personally would boast about, but thats me.

2) If a man loves his woman, she will be beautiful in his eyes no matter how she appears to others.

3) As I've said many times before, success is not measured in a few months or even a few years. Me thinks your preparation for conniving should remain in force for some time.

At any rate, I meant no insult and I wish you luck.

[Tootsie]

... in response to I Beg to Differ, posted by mdante99 on Dec 17, 2001

and I don't want to offend anybody but on my own taste (and I'm a woman, so please don't get angry with me) it's you in your couple who is very attractive physically. I'm sorry, I just speak honestly.

Also, no doubt generalizations are only generalizations and there are always exception to the rule. And I always meant 20+ years difference in my posts and I think I told it at least 100 times before .

Take care,

Tootsie

[mdante99]

... in response to Sorry, Mark,, posted by Tootsie on Dec 18, 2001

Thanks for the compliments Tootsie; I always considered women as the beautiful and attractive ones.

Mark

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Sorry, Mark,, posted by Tootsie on Dec 18, 2001

At least...

[Del]

... in response to Children’s negativism, posted by Tootsie on Dec 17, 2001

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