when amigas email you....

[Geno]

Fellas,

I'll try to keep this short.  I joined a website...amigos.com and posted my profile with pictures.  Since then, it seems the emails are starting to flow in and I'm starting to get the feeling that maybe this was not such a good idea.  Please don't think I'm trying to brag but I am quite surprised at the response.  

What troubles me is that some of these emails almost sound to the point that these ladies are desperate to find "the love of their life".  I'm not sure how to respond when some of these emails talk of the admiration these ladies have for me and how they wait for me to write them back.  They talk about how much they love children and how much we have in common and how much they love to cook...yada yada yada.   I guess I'm starting to feel the creeps a little bit.

But I almost feel....well..."obligated" for lack of a better word to write them back.  Maybe I should close my profile but I really think this is a reasonable way to meet who I am looking for.  Case in point...I have become friends with a nice lady from Venezuela who is working on her Masters in Immunology and wants to do work in stem cell research in the US soon.  She speaks allmost perfect English and we have a great time talking to each other on-line with web cams so we can see each other.  Yet with her, I feel more of a frienship than a potential life mate...at least right now.  

Maybe I should "dumb down" my profile some.  

Guys...any thoughts would be great.  This is much more than I expected.  Maybe the picture of me with my nephew on my shoulders is a bit to much...ROTFLMAO  

thanks,
Geno

[Red Clay]

... in response to when amigas email you...., posted by Geno on Feb 1, 2002

Same thing happened to me. I placed my own personal ad with South of The Border, and received around 40 responses in about six months. I also picked up on a hint of anxiety, if not desperation, from many of the ladies. They really all sounded so sweet, it bothered me a little to think that many would never find what they were looking for, someone to respect them and treat them well. You do feel like you wish you could do something to help them all.

   I didn't feel obligated to reply to them all, I didn't want to create any false hope for them, although it did feel strange to just ignore some of their letters.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: when amigas email you...., posted by Red Clay on Feb 2, 2002


When I did this in the FSU, I found that a simple: "Thank you for your interest. Unfortunately, I don't think we would be a good match" was the least I could do.

If they are mailing letters, of course, it is harder. At first I answered letters and returned photos... but it got to be too hard after awhile. (That's why I would never do a personal ad and include my mailing address again...)

But you know how you feel when you send a letter to a lady and don't get a reply back. Seems like sending a "Thanks but no thanks" email is the best thing to do.

I've yet to have anyone write back and ask "why?"

I have had several write me back and say: "Thank you for your reply. Good luck in your search."

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Were the responses through Email?, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 2, 2002

The "Golden Rule" is a good guide.

Me, personally, I would rather know...

Sometimes, this has even aided me. Once a lady wrote me and told me that she loved my letter, but she had recently gotten engaged. I contacted the agency that sold me her address, and they sent me three more free of charge...

So, I would ALWAYS rather know. Especially considering how email addresses change and such.

[Red Clay]

... in response to Were the responses through Email?, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 2, 2002

Yeah, mostly email, some hand written. Nothing wrong with a short reply like yours, I just figured they might feel worse with a "no thanks" compared to none.

[Geno]

... in response to Were the responses through Email?, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 2, 2002

Thanks for the good idea...

I thought I would try this and write to some potentials.  But before I got around to it I was the "sendy" instead of the sender.  But I think it would be only fair to reply no thank you and good luck.  

Geno

[A1A]

... in response to when amigas email you...., posted by Geno on Feb 1, 2002

Geno,  I have had a similar experience.  A couple months back I was going to just go to Colombia, but I cannot go till late Feb. or early March.  A couple guys suggested writing to get something started for the trip.  I cannot wait on snail mail, so like you I also set up a profile on amigas.com, planning to buy a month or two membership so I could email women of choice.  Before I did that, the emails started coming in.  Those I was not interested in I did not write back, those I was interested in I emailed back asking for a foto if their profile did not have one.  I have not had the desperate types you have had. It may take a few emails to find out which ones spark an interest. I am still emailing four, two speak good english, two none at all. My spanish is at beginner level and sending and receiving emails in espanol has helped me learn learn a lot.  Good luck,
A1A

[yc]

... in response to Re: when amigas email you...., posted by A1A on Feb 2, 2002

Hi A1A,

I see from your profile that you are from Charlotte also.  How is it going?

[A1A]

... in response to Re: Re: when amigas email you...., posted by yc on Feb 2, 2002

yc, It's going well, I'm going the email route and have a trip to Mexico City planned.  Good to see someone else from Charlotte here.
A1A