... in response to Re: My Ex!, posted by Cali vet on Oct 16, 2001As Michael B says, anything can happen. Just because you are right does not mean you will get fair treatment by the law.
I would have walked out the door and called 911 myself from another phone. Spousal abuse is spousal abuse, and always unacceptable. When you're in a situation which can cost you a trip to jail, a nasty divorce, false accusations of abuse so you can be denied child custody or so she can scam you for immigration purposes, that isn't the time to be too "macho" to call the cops and get her behavior documented.
IF I decided to give her another chance (and how many men would deserve a second chance after physically attacking their wives?), at least I would have some paper trail on my side to show who was abusing whom.
In reality, though, I probably wouldn't even give her a second chance. If she will behave like that so early in the marriage, chances are it's just a preview of things to come, and I don't just mean physical abuse but pulling every legal trick in the book to take advantage of me. If the above happened and the police believed my side of the story, I would consider myself lucky and then not push my luck an inch further.
OK. I've never been married and haven't been in the above sort of situation personally. Am I right or wrong?