Friend from North Carolina

[unsure]

... in response to Re: Friend from North Carolina, posted by Scaught on Nov 24, 2002

Hmm.  My grandfather is 79 and still quite active.  He retired about a year ago but that is only to take care of my grandmother (she found out she has cancer).  And saying he is retired is a stretch.  He is officially retired but is going everywhere with my uncle to do his job while he is recovering from neck surgery.  A woman of 50 would look younger than him but not unreasonably so.  And very few 50 year old women would be able to keep up with him.  I suspect when my grandmother dies he will remarry and the woman will likely be younger than 50.

John

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Friend from North Carolina, posted by Scaught on Nov 24, 2002

Honestly I was worried, I'm 34 years old & I went to see a 19 year old (now 20) who looks like she belongs in a Victorias Secret catalog. I was worried but age & MY appearance did NOT matter to her. APART from her I went out with 5 OTHER girls 18, 21, 22, 24 & 25 respectively. Age did NOT matter to them. Perhaps I was was 50 it would but at that point with ME it mattered till I went out with them. Also I did notice with the exception of the 18 year old they appear a LOT more mature than AW the same age. Probably due to their lot in life in Ukraine.

[vagn]

... in response to Re: Friend from North Carolina, posted by Scaught on Nov 24, 2002

Probably one brain alone can't figure out
what is obvious to two working together.

[tim360z]

... in response to Re: Friend from North Carolina, posted by Scaught on Nov 24, 2002

all your little #'s.  Smug.  Acturial tables & internet knowledge---is no substitute for real life.  Fact is:  relationships cannot always fit into the confines of your ignorance,  which you brandish so freely,  as if you really know anything with your little formula.  I think you should give the guy a break and loose your mindset.  Whaddya think???

[Griffin]

... in response to Re: Friend from North Carolina, posted by Scaught on Nov 24, 2002

[Burt]

... in response to Re: Friend from North Carolina, posted by Scaught on Nov 24, 2002

Bobby puts up an optimistic post about two happy people with a very large age difference, and you jump in with "how sad" this makes you.  You spout age differences and possible problems to come, as if you have some magic insight into the human condition.  

The fact is (if Bobby's right) these are two people of the  unusual sort who deal with this issue and make it work quite well.  I am sure they considered the obstacles you describe (oh yes, you have an amazing grasp of the obvious), and they went ahead. Unlike you, many strong and confident people are quite satisified to think outside the box. Their path is not for me or most I know, but I applaud their independence.

I suggest you stop encouraging pity on those who dare to  disregard your tsk-tsk piety, and give them your hearty and sincere best wishes. No need to be condescending and smug about people who are bold, confident, and different from you.  Actually, you might benefit from their example.

[juio99]

... in response to Who you kidding, Scaught?, posted by Burt on Nov 24, 2002

Sorry Burt, but I have to side with Scaught on this one.  Let's take away all the words that he said that may offend you (those that you think are condescending, etc.).  Then just look at the hard facts.

The fact is a 50 year old guy in good shape can make a go of it with a 20 year old.  But at 70 and her 40 and still in prime of life, that is when the problems develop.

Well, OK, some will say . . . at least they will have X years of good times.  And, yes, that might be enough.  But where will this guy find someone to be a companion when he is 70?  Whoever it might be that he can find then, too bad he can't just hook up with her now.

Peace,

JR

[Burt]

... in response to Re: Who you kidding, Scaught?, posted by juio99 on Nov 24, 2002

Sorry JR, but I have to side with the hard fact that this couple likely considered everything you & Scaught have to offer.  (It's pretty obvious, after all).  IMO, their deeply personal decision doesn't call for negative prophesies based only on oddsmakers' charts, especially at this latter stage.  But then again I would have rooted for Lindbergh and told him to go for his perilous flight if he realistically believed in its success. Maybe that's just the difference between us.

And thanks again for your helpful post about Antalya, and the other information you've shared in the past. On this one though, I can only say I would agree with you if you were right. )

[vagn]

... in response to Re: Re: Who you kidding, Scaught?, posted by Burt on Nov 24, 2002


=== But then again I would have rooted for Lindbergh and
=== told him to go for his perilous flight if he
=== realistically believed in its success.

Maybe I mis-read your post, but Lindberg made it
across the Atlantic.  He died an old man, in his home
in Hawaii.

http://www.travelin-tigers.com/zjesse/biolind.htm

Amelia Earhart, on the other hand, disappeared
trying to cross the Pacific:

http://ellensplace.net/eae_intr.html

[Griffin]

... in response to Re: Who you kidding, Scaught?, posted by juio99 on Nov 24, 2002

Why wouldn't two people married for 20 years develop into reasonably good companions?