Sibblings age and migration

[jj]

I was wondering at what age does a child become independent in Russia/Ukraine and how many women that have late teenage children are prepared to leave their kids at home and start a new life...   IS there a prefered age limit that guys here are prepared to condsider taking on as their own...  and how many have taken on two or more children as part of the marriage...

[thesearch]

... in response to Sibblings age and migration, posted by jj on Feb 20, 2002

I have heard where a guy marries a RW and the next thing you hear is that she wants to bring everyone and the kitchen sink over and I am told this is  exactly what happens some times.  Before, I presumed that this would not be very easy or impossible but is seems my assumptions could have been incorrect.  Anyone have any experience or knowledge about this?

[Mike]

... in response to Question to all: How many want you to br..., posted by thesearch on Feb 21, 2002

My wife wants to get her sister here because she misses her but doesn't know how to do it. She is not so pretty and she is actually her cousin but was orphaned and raised by her mom so I doubt a family visa will work. Hey any guys out there that can't see so good interested in a girl that is funny and smart ? As for the rest of her family like her mom and dad she just wished it was easy for them to come here and not deal with the pain in the butt and hard to get tourest visa! She knows they wouldn't like living here.
Mike

[John K]

... in response to Sibblings age and migration, posted by jj on Feb 20, 2002

There are times when the mother may choose to leave the child with the grandparents and come to the US by herself.  I've seen it particularly when the child has a strong bond with their grandparents.  This is something that you should be aware of because it could happen to you.

A friend of mine in England ran into this.  I knew the lady he was writing to in Ukraine and she told me that her child had already decided at age 10 that she would rather stay with her grandmother than go to England.  I warned Don in an email not to be surprised that he may get the lady to come to England, but because of the bond between the child and her grandmother, he might not get the child to come too.

It was difficult for him to understand it, but Don decided to accept it.  Luckily, the girl took a shine to him and decided that she wanted to live in England with them after all.  What they ended up doing was Don and Katya (his fiancée) came back to England first and set up their household together.  After they settled in and got married, they sent for Katya's daughter at the end of summer.  That gave Katya's daugher the time she needed to be with her grandmother.

Not all stories end this nicely, I'm afraid.  Be warned that there are indeed some very strong bonds between children and their grandparents.  If a lady broaches the idea that her child may choose to stay in Russia or Ukraine be respectful of idea and understand the difficulty of the situation.  If you don't pressure anyone and get a chance for some one-on-one time with the child, you still might be able to bring the child over too.  If you can't, then accept it with good grace and let what happens happen.

As always, this is simply my 2¢ and strictly my opinion.  Your mileage may vary...

[Mike]

... in response to Sibblings age and migration, posted by jj on Feb 20, 2002

In Russia at age 18 they can be made to go into the military unless attending a university. When a single RW mother son turns 17 she begins to get scared her son may be going to Chechnia ( however you spell it ) after taking that into consideration she may do anything to save her son from this I would think. As for more then 1 child you don't see that to often in Russia these days. I may be wrong but as far as the INS is concerned I think she can bring her child here on a k-2 visa up to age 21 or 22.
Mike

[omar]

... in response to Sibblings age and migration, posted by jj on Feb 20, 2002

If the woman is real pretty and has children then she'll find a husband.  The less goodlooking, the more problems she has finding a commitment.