... in response to Black Guy here who is or has been involv..., posted by Blackguy on Dec 18, 2001The most reasonable thing to do is to go and search the archives, but most of the new people seem to like to simply plunk a question out of the blue and skip the work.
I repost here now some thoughts on this subject with some new touches, the original is somewhere in the archives.
If you wouldn’t know all the facts from the beginning or ignore them, you would later come back here and scream out loud how badly you were schemed, scammed, and so on, and we already have enough of that here, though most bring it on themselves because of their approach or neglect of some serious advise or whatever.
So you may want to heed some advice unless your life lacks some real jarring experiences.
In respect to this particular type of women, the Russian (Ukrainian, or generally E.E.) women, you are not on an easy path at all.
Or to put it more clearly, more directly, you pretty much waste your time if you try the Russian approach and look for a Russian lady.
To marry successfully an Eastern European woman takes a lot of effort, some spending, many changes on one’s part, it’s not that easy at all.
Russian women may seem to be the craze, the fad now, but they are not a panacea for any male problem, for any marriage failure men have.
Russian women are not some remedial medication, a quick fix, a necessary ingredient for all the marriages in the world from now on.
Neither are they some sort of easy, cheap commodity for any guy from just anywhere who wants to get fixed quickly.
Just traveling to Russia may not be for the dreamy people most of the times.
What’s wrong with black ladies anyway? It’s something you would be much more adjusted to anyway.
I personally find it strange when people insist on going for someone of a different race, and I have my own reasons, my doubts and suspicious since I witnessed some very negative experiences.
I also think that any one race has its first responsibilities for its own.
But aside from that I never heard of any one from E.E. who would want to marry a totally different race wholeheartedly, it’s extremely unusual, very, very unlikely.
They may be desperate but not foolhardy.
They may go for something different and then once they realize it s not for them, nothing will stop them from going back just as quickly.
They face a certain situation at home and they try to escape that, for them to go for a marriage with someone who comes from a background where women are even worse treated would be absurd, they will just not do that.
E. European women, and especially the Russian ones, have seen all the problems that they had with other races in former USSR, and they will stay away from anything different. They just don’t go for that.
They have a sweet tooth for the American white male because of a certain perception they have about. Generally they are very peculiar in their taste.
For instance they would not generally go for Nordic people, because those are very cold emotionally, and it’s even somehow accepted generally that marriages between Scandinavians and Russians are not lasting, (or Germans, though that may be different) because of emotional incompatibility.
They have fine tastes, are very well cultured, strong opinions and do not look with much interest to other cultures.
They even have a very strong aversion toward the West and its culture, and with a good reason (in their view).
If you really get to know them well they are not into internationalism, but very clannish, most like their own values and all good things from their culture and do not want to change. (And why would they?)
Russians really don’t care at all about all the political correctness madness that goes around anywhere else (they have seen worse under the communist propaganda and are immune to it) or all the unusual interracial stuff, in that regard they are not as brainwashed as others and think for themselves.
If you would find someone who would agree to that, to try this combination, I would be very, very suspicious, they will do it for one purpose only, to get out, and very soon they will leave.
Few people realize that those women can be the sharpest, quickest minds, if they really want to cheat, few people can measure up to them. They are sharp, intelligent, extremely experienced, they lived in the worst conditions you can imagine, what they don’t know they can learn quickly, it’s hard to be a match to them. The best is not to be their enemy.
They can play along and do all they want but if their agenda is different than yours, forget about.
For instance, NY Police Department is no match for the Russian mafia in NY, Italian mafia is a child’s game compared with what the Russians come up with. MBA and PH in economics, they know how to cook the books, electronics specialists, steel muscles of Olympic performance, wills tempered in the Gulag, prison doesn’t scare them … etc, no wonder they are so successful.
If they mind is not into it they can be a serious challenge.
If they are not sincere they can cheat anything and anybody. (And the sincere ones as I said, do not go for that.)
Do I know them? Yes, very well, I was born and raised in E.E.)
Besides, there is enough misunderstanding, lack of proper information used by the guys and all kinds of wrong approaches with the American (white) men already, enough complaints and lamentation, just read these board, don’t add your sorrows to the stream.
