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My novia who I plan on marry when she arrive here in the u.s.a in 4 days; will of course not only need my love but my financial support also; an to prevent her from haveing to ask for 10.00 for this an 20.00 for that; I want to open her up checking account an put a certain amount in each month. What do ya'll think is a good amount to put in each month.....thanks

... in response to how much to put in her checking account, posted by dann on Jan 23, 2005

just give her a preloaded Visa or Mastercard with a set spending limit that you can replenish as needed.  That way, since you will see the bills, you can judge her spending habits and help her establish credit at the same time.

... in response to how much to put in her checking account, posted by dann on Jan 23, 2005

One of the items Immigration looks at to see that you have a legitimate marriage is a joint bank account.

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... in response to how much to put in her checking account, posted by dann on Jan 23, 2005

You are marrried. it should not be separate checking accounts, but a joint account.  she is your wife and you do not seem to trust her

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... in response to Re: how much to put in her checking acco..., posted by david hagar on Jan 23, 2005

I personally wouldn't have a joint account with anyone. Not because of trust, but because I like to know exactly where my money is going and when. If I had a joint account, it definitely wouldn't be the main one.

... in response to how much to put in her checking account, posted by dann on Jan 23, 2005

Good question. Does she have any idea of what things cost here? And, how was she accustomed to living in her own country?

These factors would weigh heavily for me if I were in your shoes.

I wouldn't look over the idea of giving her money directly when she arrives; nor would I look over the idea of her having a bank account.

However, I think taking her shopping for the big ticket items (e.g., clothing, a first run on cosmetics, assesories, etc.) would be best in the beginning to help her learn how much things cost and what is reasonable spending for your budgets. That will expose her to the reality of the situation up front. I wouldn't just rely on depositing a couple of hundred in her bank account in the beginning. That could back fire by her spending too much money too quickly, whether it be intentional or unintentional. Of course, she's probably a good person, but there is still that learning curve, and temptation to buy things.

After she gets the swing of things, then encourage her to rely on the money in her bank account more, and less on asking you directly for money on a daily basis.

Ok. I'll be a daredevil and throw a number out there. Say for example, after paying monthly for her healthcare coverage (which may come directly out of your check), groceries and healthcare products for the both of you, maybe money for public transportation for her, and English classes, if you can afford $300 to $400 a month during the first year then that would be reasonable. I am assuming that you'll be covering all other expenses for the household as well.

I think for the first year, it would be good for a lady to become comfortable with her surroundings, learn the language, and maybe start working a part-time job. Once she has settled, like during the second year, then she can contribute more financially for the both of you.

I can remember one girl I dated for 6 months, Colombiana. She expected for me to take care of her, and her family
(parents, brothers, and sisters) in Colombia, both before and after she would arrive. She had a body to die for, but I just couldn't stay in the relationship under those conditions.

I can be responsible for my partner, but when the family wants $$$, then I can't handle that. So, I feel if a lady wants to help her family financially, then she should work ASAP, and send some of the money that she earns back to them.

Take Care,
Aaron

... in response to how much to put in her checking account, posted by dann on Jan 23, 2005

I think it depends on what you and she discuss as her financial responsiblities.   Now if you just mean spending money, for hair care and female products etc.,  I think you can still discuss that with her and set up an initial amount after you do some research on the cost of things.  Ask what she normally needs to purchase on a regular basis.  The good and easy thing is you can always change the amount.  

Women are generally more expensive than men.  That is they have more things to buy so be prepared.