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As i've posted before, i'm undecided as to whether or not to marry a filipina or a latina.  i've noticed when i think of the distant future, when i consider a peaceful, secure marriage and having someone with me until 'death do us part', my leanings are more for filipinas.  

but as a virile 36 year old single man living in los angeles, i can't ignore my lust for all the sexy latinas i see on a daily basis.  and then i start wanting to marry a latin woman.

i know that a marriage is not based on sex alone, but does any one else base their desire to marry a latina on sexual lust as, say number 2 or 3 of the top priorities for finding a wife?  is this wrong?

... in response to sexual desire and latinas, posted by senge on Sep 1, 2003

TROLL

... in response to TROLL TROLL TROLL, posted by valuedcustomer on Sep 1, 2003

I was kind of thinking that myself, but didn't want to be parinoid, so I was also thinking 'he's a real guy, but he sure doesn't sound like a prize catch for the ladies'....guys wanting lots of sex and unwilling (or unable) to help her family, she can get at home.

... in response to Re: TROLL TROLL TROLL, posted by Michael B on Sep 1, 2003

Hey, did i say something offensive?  Really, I'm not certain, so let me know.

I'm sorry, but I don't spend much time in forums, so I'm not familiar with some of the lingo you guys use.  What exactly is a 'troll'?  I know its something bad in the Internet world.  Personally, I thought it was a mythical, middle earth creature (I'm not being sarcastic).

Well, I don't know if I'm prize catch, but I do meet many ladies here in America.  Just not wife material.  If you want, I can send you a picture of me and a recently just ex-girlfriend (a latina from mexico; US citizen currently) and you can judge for yourself.

Well, I am a regular guy, and most guys want lots of sex.  right?  so I see nothing wrong with writing about that.  But the suggestion of trading sex for financial support of her family sounds weird to me.

Anyway, my main purpose for being here was to get info on K1 visas and how to bring foreign women over here to America and stuff like that.  I will probably be needing this info if I decide to marry this mexican girl I met from Cherry Blossoms.  I'm not here to get all into with people because I've seen some of the threads (with Aaron) and you guys sure take things very seriously and personally (wow!!).  But I need info from those of you who are experienced and i don't want to offend any one and not get the info.  So, my bad if I offended anyone, okay, and I'll limit my posts here to the important stuff for now and on.

... in response to Re: Re: TROLL TROLL TROLL, posted by senge on Sep 1, 2003

A 'Troll' is somebody who comes to an internet group and ask leading and/or 'near the edge' questions in an attempt to cause fights. Example: "Is it true that all these women are really easy but then they trick you out of your money? Why that's almost like a whore!"---Sometimes they just say things like "If you weren't a bunch of losers, you'd get a woman of your own kind, instead of having to 'buy' some destitute woman with your money and the promise of a visa"--- Trolls do stuff like that. Sometimes it's hard to tell if the guy means trouble or just didn't pharse his questions tactfully....anyway

How to get a K-1 visa:
1) Meet in person and keep documents (receipt for airline tickets, boarding passes, hotel bills, photos of you and her together, etc) to prove it.
2) Fill out form I-129F and G325-A and gather the supporting documents (which must be translated into English) they ask for (some guys use a lawyer for this part, some don't, I didn't, I'd recomend Bala if you do use one, I've heard guys say he does it right and he drops in here from time to time and gives a little pro bono advice). Send them to BCIS, along with the proper fee.
3) Wait a long time (several months)
3a) (optional) Ask your congressperson and/or senator to look into why it's taking so long...not that it will do you any good, but it will sure tell you who you're going to vote against next time, when he/she says they can't (won't) do anything for you.
4) One day, the embassy will send her a letter, asking for even more documents, some from you (I-134 and supporting documents, i.e. tax records, bank records, letter from employeer etc.) and some from her. Gather them up, fill them out, send some of them to the embassy right away (keep the others to take to the interview)
--------OK, this is as far as I've got, but next week we should progress to:
5) Woman (and children, if any) have medical  examination by approved physician (pay more fees)
6) Woman (and children, if any) have interview at embassy/consulate (pay more fees)--apparently the procedure for scheduling the interview varies greatly from country to country.
7) Woman (and children, if any) are isused visa (varies by location, sometimes the same day, sometimes the next day, sometimes 'come back in X week(s)'....pay more fees
8) Woman travels to US during time the visa is valid (6 months, from date of isuse, I beleive) children may travel with her or come later (there is a time limit as to how much later they may come, I think it too is 6 months, but what ever it is the embassy/consulate will tell her and it will be written on the visa also).
9) Get married during the time the visa is valid (90 days from date of entry)
10) Take marriage certificate to local BCIS office, fill out more forms (suprized?) and (I'm not sure, but probably) pay more fees.

... in response to Re: Re: Re: TROLL TROLL TROLL, posted by Michael B on Sep 2, 2003

wow, thanks Michael for that info.  it is very helpful to me.  thanks

... in response to Re: Re: Re: TROLL TROLL TROLL, posted by Michael B on Sep 2, 2003

Send a photo of you and your fiancee with her parents in the K-1 packet.
"Adjustment of Status", applied for after marriage to get U.S. Residency (Green Card).
"Advance Parole" so she can travel outside the U.S. and return while waiting for her Green Card.

... in response to sexual desire and latinas, posted by senge on Sep 1, 2003

Off course sex is a large part of the appeal,what do you want a beautifull woman for anyway?So yeah,I think its very high on most of our lists.
Latinas,particulary Colombianas,are very much in to their appearance and have a very feminie demeanor thats very attractive.They also tend to be openly affectionate,which gets your attention right away too.
But below the surface they may or may not be a hot sexual item.They tend to be conservative in what is accepted sexual behavior.Good chance some of your favorite things will be off limits with them.
They come across very sexy,don't presume that is always true,you could find yourself dealing with a surprising exception(nobody warned me about this!Everybody said they were so hot!).
But I think latinas,particularly Colombianas are the best bet a average guy has for an attractive wife.Just take your time,don't believe everything you hear and make sure you choose the right one.I would not recommend marrying untill sex has become part of the relationship.Don't take a risk with something so important.

Pete

... in response to Re: sexual desire and latinas, posted by Pete E on Sep 1, 2003

Pete,

I think visual desire is my main impetus.  I would just like to physically see a sexy woman in my home day in and day out.  

Many women all over the world are taught not to see sex as a pleasurable thing.  Interstingly, American men in my age group (36) have been taught not to see women as sex objects.  So, I actually feel guilty about putting beauty and sexual desire on my list or 'must haves' for a future wife.  

When all is said and done; the most important thing I want from my wife is her friendship.  But a shapely, sexy looking friend can't hurt.

... in response to Re: Re: sexual desire and latinas, posted by senge on Sep 1, 2003

If beauty and sexual desire are not on your list of "must haves", why even bother looking over seas for a wife.

You can find plenty of mid-western fed hefers right here. They would be happy to be your friend, lover or significant other if you can put up with them.

How about taking a trip to Kansas!!

... in response to You must be kidding., posted by Calipro on Sep 1, 2003

okay, so i'm right.  There's nothing wrong or unusual about wanting to marry a latin woman based on sexual desire.  i justed wanted opinions on it.

... in response to You must be kidding., posted by Calipro on Sep 1, 2003

CaliPro,
Why go that far and spend that much money, just take a trip to your local super market! With the vast majority of AW being over weight, open your front door and step outside!

... in response to Re: You must be kidding., posted by moam on Sep 1, 2003

Yeah, I just about got mowed down by some 200 pound female behemoth with pink curlers pushing a shopping cart at the local Winn-Dixie.