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A woman I dated a few times (I never even kissed her), has written me an email asking for $5oo dollars to pay for remodeling of her house and for money for her brother in law (food bills). Do these people think I am a bank? What nerve. I am starting to get sick of this. I would have to be starving on the street before I would ask someone for money. They seem to have no problem asking anyone or everyone for money no matter what the occasion. Is it like this in all latin america or just Colombia? I have pasted the email for you to view in spanish just as I have received it (I cut her name off). What is sad about it is that this woman is the one I had the highest opinion of in terms of ethics that I have met in Colombia. It did not work out because I was not that attracted to her physicaly.

Hola Alan:

Disculpame por no haberte escrito antes.  Lo que pasa es que en estos momentos estoy atravesando por un mal momento y no tenia plata para haberte escrito antes .  Tanto mi situacion economica, como el no tener un trabajo,  me  tienen un poco mal.

Toda esa situacion y el de estar viviendo en la casa de mi hermana, claro esta, con ella no hemos tenido ningun problema, pero ya el esposo de mi hermana y su hija, empiezan a incomodarse con nosotros. Todo esto, es porque no he podido colaborarle  en los gastos de comida y servicios..  Por eso, me veo en la penosa necesidad de pedirte una pequeña colaboracion,.

La verdad Alan, Si no estuviera tan mal, no te molestaria con esto, pero no tengo a nadie quien pueda ayudarme.  Quizas solo usted es la unica persona que lo pueda hacer.  Algun dia te devolvere esta pequeña ayuda. Solo es un prestamo.  

Lo que necesito en estos momentos son solo  U$500, con esto podre ayudarle al esposo de mi hermana con una parte de la comida y el resto del dinero, lo invertire en mi casita, que lo mas seguro es que  en unas 3 semanas estaremos viviendo en la casita nueva,  

Te pido porfavor, que no vayas a mal interpretar  el favor que te estoy pidiendo, ni vayas a pensar que me voy a aprovechar de ti.  Para mi, es demasiado incomodo tener que pedirte esto, pero  como te dije antes,  Es solo un prestamo.  Quizas en menos de un año, te lo estaria devolviendo.

Espero puedas entender mi situacion y puedas colaborarme.  Es el unico favor que te pido.  Nunca te volvere a pedir esto, pues la verdad  es la primera vez, que le pido un favor a alguien, pues nunca me habia visto en tan malas condiciones...

Por favor dame una respuesta via e-mail, y te ruego no te vayas a enojar conmigo , ni vayas a pensar mal de mi, que yo no soy una mujer vividora.  Yo soy una mujer buena, que por situaciones de la vida, tengo que acudir a alguien pidiendo ayuda. Yo se que estas son pruebas que mi Dios me ha puesto en la vida, y que tengo que aceptar la voluntad de nuestro señor.

Quedo a la espera de tu respuesta... y .De antemano te agradezco la ayuda que me puedas colaborar y te pido nuevamente Mil disculpas por este e-mail.

Gracias

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

1/ It appears as very elaborately written letter. Those who communicate with latinas know how they write. Usually very terse, no capitals or punctuation. This letter seems more like a comertial ad enticing you to buy in.

2/ most of the girls I dated out of Cali (over 40) never asked me for money, so next time pick the right girl.

3/ (deriviative of #2), move on with your search.

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

I think the theory is it can't hurt to ask.She has probably gotten lots of pressure from her family to hit up her gringo friend.I bet they don't know anyone else who could even help them if they wanted to.
But it seems there is no relationship at all between you,so it is gutsy to ask,but then nothing much to lose either.
Did you give out any signs you were an easy touch?

Pete

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

When I was in El Salvador, it was not unusual for me to casually meet someone one day and have them ask me for a loan the next.  This occurred with some frequency with both males and females.  I thought it was comical and certainly accelerated the self-exclusion process as to who would have the pleasure of hanging with me.  As to the letter, don't let it bother you; simply move on.

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

I'm starting to feel unique.
My friend in Bogota has never asked me for a dime, but then she claimed to not be romantically interested in me.
However, that doesn't seem to stop a lot of these women from asking for a "prestamo".

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

It reads like a form letter.  It is well written and contains no personal information about you, i.e. one could just remove your name from the title and substitute someone else’s name.  Then, the letter is designed to convince you to give money, i.e., says it’s only a loan which will be paid back, and meets your objection in advance by saying she’s not a sponger.  It would be interesting if anyone else has received this same letter from someone.

... in response to Re: Another woman asking for money, posted by valuedcustomer on Aug 27, 2003

If she met 10 guys from the agencies that think with little head, she is up 1,000 bucks. Much easier than working. I've seen girls send the exact same, except for name change, "mi hijo esta enfermo" email to 7 guys in one sitting. Thing is each of these guys were already sending her 100-200 dollars per month! They were mostly from Italy and germany, but could just as easily have been gringos.

... in response to I bet, posted by Ralph on Aug 27, 2003

For all that money she’s getting she could put blanks in the form to fill in some personal information.  Like I enjoyed having X with you”, X = “going to the beach” , “dancing” , etc.  That way they would get more for their money.  But then why work harder than you have to.

... in response to Re: Another woman asking for money, posted by valuedcustomer on Aug 27, 2003

It gets more clever than that: she blames God for her having to ask. Nice girls don't ask for money*; case closed.

*unless you're engaged and it's related to the upcoming marriage, moving, etc.

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

I know you might not like this answer, but you really can't generalize about this too much.  

I think you just got a string of bad apples so to speak.

My experience has been just the opposite of yours.  I have corresponded with women in Russia, Peru, Brazil and now Colombia & Brazil(Colombia is the only place I've actually visted) and the women I meet generally don't want to accept $2 or $3 (US) cab fare much less ask for hundreds of dollars.  So I don't think that "ALL" women from Latin America or Colombia are like that.  

FYI- I've been meeting lots of women from Bogota and I guess because the women may be more educated and the city better off than other places, that perhaps women there don't ask or need help so to speak.

But then again, am I generalizing????? ha ha ha :-)

hang in there and move on.  

2 cents

... in response to Another woman asking for money, posted by elcolombiano on Aug 27, 2003

What's your point?  Trying to show us you still don't have a clue how to pick a good woman?  We know these women exist.  If we haven't seen them ourselves, we know someone who has.

You really need to reassess your criteria for choosing women because you are really pulling in a lot of losers.

... in response to Re: Another woman asking for money, posted by lswote on Aug 27, 2003

Perhaps he forgot to wash the dollar signs off his forehead when dating these women.  I hope he's not communicating with any of the women he dated other than his fiancee.  That's a classic letter BTW, I can see that being used widely down there - it's a great template!
elcolombiano, change your email ASAP and cut off further communications with those gals.