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I'd like to start a new string after having read some posts about birth control, and why American men might look to the Philippines, but not Canada or Sweden, for women.

When American men look abroad, so often the talk is about American men being fed up with western women, wanting somebody "traditional", etc.  Well as a Baby Buster (I was born in 1965, just after the end of the baby boom), there are relatively few females per the number of males.  That's why we are conditioned to accept the fact that in America, it's the women that do the choosing.  The females have the choosing power.  Ask any (American) guy born in the 1960's or 1970's about his experiences in the more conventional (and socially acceptable) singles route.  Typical singles event at the bar, there might be 3 to 4 men for every woman that attended (in that rough age range).  Growing up (from teenagehood to young adulthood) it was always the same frustration:  all the desirebale girls are taken.  I can remember being 18, there was one hangout often talked about, but it was not the place to go to meet girls.  It was noted for fights always breaking out over the girls.

Now consider the effects of birth control, and its impact on demographics.  There are 105 boys born for 100 girls at any given point in time.  Now factor in declining birth rates as a result of the widespread practice of birth control.

By nature, females are usually attracted to males a bit older than themselves.  Probably because females mature earlier than males.  Hence, it's more likely for an 18 year-old-girl to accept courtship with a 22-year-old guy, than an 18-year-old guy.  A geeky guy in high school, who is not the captain of the football team, or otherwise what girls want, probably wouldn't find a girlfriend in high school.  But as he matures more, at least theoretically, he'd become more attractive to the opposite sex.  The kind of guy who would go to college and eventually obtain a better paying living.  He might settle with someone 5 to 10 years younger than himself.  Well, in my generation, in terms of numbers, there simply aren't enough females available.  That's due to the trend of declining birth rates.

There are lots of 20-something, 30-something and 40-something bachelors in America now.  First there aren't available partners for every guy.  But on top of that, consider what most women want.  The average available Joe can't possibly fulfill that.

Control of family size is important.  But now I think a pragmatic issue should be to achieve a reasonable balance between the number of boys born to the number of girls born at a given point.  For thwe sake of the long term stability of a society.  This long term impact is seldom, if ever talked about, but I think needs to be discussed.  In a society that's top heavy with a male population, males will be fighjting over females.  There'll be higher incidences of infidelity, divorces, homicides, and suicides.  Today the profile of a person most likely to be unfaithful is a married woman of about 30.  Lets face it, for the gals that cheat on the men, the temptation is always staring them in the face, due to the relative numbers of desirable men, and such men that feel now qualms about seducing a married woman.

I think alot of guys on this board, when they were newbies seeking a Filipina, they were simply overwhelmed by the attention they got from the opposite sex.  That includes myself.  That brings up the controversial issue of having multiple pen-pals, or going to the Philippines to visit more than one person.  For most of us guys, especially the newbies, it's like being a kid in a candy store.  We're simply not used to having more than one option available at a time for suitresses.

In contrast, for a typical single guy, he might be lucky if he has a new date every few months.  I mean someone to meet that there just might be sparks (if lucky).  Now the guy goes to the Philippines.  He's overwhelmed by the relative number of attractive women that, at the very least, claim to be available.

I'm sure some folks have something to say how this relates to their own experiences.

- Kevin

One more tidbit.  My ex-wife's boyfriend, when they met, he probably though he died and went to heaven.  I'm sure little did he know about her baggage.  But what I have heard is that he's a very insecure man, and very controlling.  I just look back and realize that I'm glad she's not my problem to have to deal with.

... in response to The impact of birth control., posted by kevin on Jun 28, 2001

Kevin,

I totally missed the part where Canada or Sweden comes into your answer.

Jon

... in response to Re: The impact of birth control., posted by jon on Jun 29, 2001

See one of Katy's posts in a string down below somewhere.

- Kevin