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Title: The living is easy. Post by: Wayne on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM Well my wife has been here 3 weeks, and it's all been surprisingly uneventful. A little homesickness and a couple very small misunderstandings, but overall life is really, really good.
It's kind of interesting but it seems that she's been kind of watching for the other shoe to drop in my behaviour. I guess these girls hear alot of stories about American men changing once they get back to the states. Of course I haven't changed since my 2 months in Colombia, and now she is relaxed and secure. I get much more attention and care then I probably deserve, but I take care of her very well also, and she appreciates this very much. Most of these girls are so used to Colombian men being selfish, if you do anything for these girls, the are very, very happy. She says that a Colombian man cooking is just unheard of. I like to cook for her sometimes, and she loves the new American dishes. So the hunt, and travelling to Cali is very exciting and fun, but are you prepared for the end result of your travels? Just a simple, uneventful conflict free life with someone who cares about you. Once your girl is here, it's just a normal marriage and relationship. (A much better one I have to admit) After talking with many guys on the hunt, I think that sometimes guys get addicted to the excitement of the chase, and don't really want to settle down. Have you become addicted to the e-ticket ride? Travelling to Cali and getting all that attention is definately addictive. The one thing that my wife keeps noticing is how few attractive girls there are here. We went to a Mardi Gra party with a huge crowd and she couldn't believe how many more guys there were there, then decent looking girls. She said that the guys at this Mardi Gra were mui grosero because they were desperate. She also said that the guys in Colombia were much more casual in their attitude toward girls because they didn't have to compete with each other as much, and there were plenty to go around. She is a bit disgusted with guys hitting on her when she is out and about, considering she is wearing a wedding ring and does not encourage it. In her English ESL class she has been joking with me that I should come to class and chi chi around her escritorio to mark my teritory like my dog Walter. A guy who is jealous or insecure may have some stress in his life after they bring one of these girls here because they get attention. I don't worry, because she can handle herself. She once was attacked by a taxi driver in the back of his car. He locked all the doors and jumped in the back seat to rape her. My wife had been taking Karate, and proceeded to beat the crap out of this Colombian Taxi driver until he pleaded with her to let him go. She said the engagement ring that I had given her made a real mess of his face after punching him. Considering my wife is only 105 lbs, I found this story a little amusing, but also scary considering how it could have turned out. So anyway I don't worry much about her when she is out. We did have an interesting conversation last night about age gaps. I have heard so much conversation on the boards about this subject it was interesting to hear her opionion. She claims that the girls simply like older guys. 15 years difference is the norm with older examples not unusual. I asked her if it was the money, but she claimed that in only a small % of the cases this is true. She said that the young girls simply culturally find older guys more attractive and stable. She said she couldn't imagine being with a guy who was her age. She also said that it would be perfectly acceptable for me to chase 16 year olds in Colombia. (I'm 38) I said I was looking for a little more menta, and she said that she was mature and smart at 16. What can I say to that. So anyway, this whole adventure has been alot of fun. The chase was fun, and now we have alot of fun married. Way more fun then I ever had chasing or catching American women. In my opinion it's all about appreciation, and not being with a women who has always had everything, and is spoiled. It's appreciating the small things in life and general contentment without the constant drive to have MORE MORE MORE. My wife couldn't give a rip about shopping or spending. She is a giver and not a taker. In fact, the other day she gave away an expensive pair of sunglasses that I had given her, to one of my clients 8 year old daughters. So my take is go out and find a giver, not a taker. It really doesn't matter if she is Colombian, American, Russian, or whatever. It's the selfish girls that cause all the problems. Wayne Title: Re: The living is easy. Post by: omar on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to The living is easy., posted by Wayne on Feb 19, 2002
I think the Colombian people are so attractive because the alpha men make babies with so many different women whether they are good looking or not, producing attractive babies. Title: Age gaps Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to The living is easy., posted by Wayne on Feb 19, 2002
The age gap question in Colombia is interesting to me. Like you I've had conversations with friends in Cali where they would say the exact same thing. An older guy is more stable etc. etc. etc and makes a better husband. I don't think they were giving me a gringo line either because these were by and large only friends that I knew when I lived there. So I kept hearing this reoccuring theme but I wasn't seeing a lot of it on the streets or among my friends families. I'm up to three ex Calena novias now and that's a lot of family get togethers. And believe when a latin family gets together were talking aunts, uncles, cousins sometimes two and three times removed. I was hearing the women talk about this but mom and dad, aunts and uncles were all more or less the same age. Now I know someone will post about how his novia's mother is married to a 70 year old guy and she's 50. OK great, I know these things happen but the real question is it happening that much. Now you mentioned young girls with older guys and I did see some of that but they weren't married from what I could tell. I think some of these relationships were extramarital. El Diablo Title: Re: Age gaps...again Post by: Cali vet on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Ahh we're back to that pesky age gap question. It's easy to find out what latinas' age preferences are, just go to sites like amigos.com or cypercupido. The age range desired is right there. No mystery and the typical gap is maybe a tad greater than in the U.S. However any guy fifty or so who has been to Cali has discovered pretty quick that girls in their mid twenties are receptive to him if he's in decent shape and consider him perfectly legitimate marriage material. I've seen it as well as personally experienced it so many times I couldn't even count the occaisons now. And plenty of these relationships result in marriage. Have doubts? Just ask Luz Amparo or Maritza who have been in the agency business in Cali for years. They'll tell you, there are no rules of thumb. Title: Age gaps...again Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps...again, posted by Cali vet on Feb 19, 2002
Come on Vet, those questionaires are filled out by 20 year olds with an intended gringo audience of 35 to 40 year olds. I'm not disputing them but I think they may be overstated. I was only observing that in Colombia, among non-gringo relationships, I don't see large age gaps. El Diablo Title: Re: Age gaps...again Post by: Cali vet on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps...again, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Come on yourself Diablo. What questionaires? Whose said anything about questionaires? I referred to real relationships between real people. And if you've ever been to an agency in Cali and I assume you have then you know I painted an accurate picture. As to Colombian/Colombian relationships they are as I said, as depicted on the Spanish speaking singles sites. Title: Age gaps...again Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps...again, posted by Cali vet on Feb 19, 2002
I assumed that the women on the two web sites you mentioned filled out some kind of questionaire giving bio-data and general preferences. Title: Age gaps...again Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps...again, posted by Cali vet on Feb 19, 2002
My mistake. I was thinking about Amigos Intl which caters to gringos as opposed to the two you mentioned that cater to latino/latina relationships. No you are right that would be a good guide for determing preferences. El Diablo Title: Re: Age gaps...again Post by: Slowandtru on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps...again, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
My Novia and I are only six years apart but both of her sisters married Colombian men twenty or more years their seniors. Both women are professionals; one an attorney, one a teacher. So...no particular system seems to fit a broad view of age. I have noticed though that the Calena's with less education or more kids tend to be looking for a broader age range. Whether this is indicative that they want out more, are looking for stability or simply feel that they have less options I cannot say. At one time the 'older man' was the match of choice but that stemmed from the notion that women needed someone to 'look after' them...a surrogate daddy and protector. Now the females are more selective and tend to go with what they personally want instead of what they are told to do. By the way, my Novia is involved through her university with a country-wide study compiling a statistical analysis of sexual mores and customs in present day Colombia city by city. Guess what? Initial findings indicate that far and away Cali has the most liberal attitude among women towards both premarital sex and children outside of marriage. The Cali man is also more tolerant of this in his attitude than in any other city in Colombia. Guess so...those women raised him. Conversely; Cali is the most homophobic city in Colombia. For what it's worth...there it is. Colombia's own analysis. Title: And your point is...? Post by: MarkInTx on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps...again, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
I'm not sure, El D... What is your point? That the women are just wanting a green card, and are desperate to get out? Or what? All I know is that I am 41. I went to Russia last year and met a girl who had a Phd, a pretty good life, and had never considered leaving Russia before. She happened across my personal ad while she was looking in the paper for something else, and she started to write to me just to practice her english. By the time we met, she was very much in love, and although she didn't want to leave her home, she would have in a minute if I had asked her to. She also lied to me about her age (she said she was 25, in reality, she was 23) because she knew if I knew how young she really was, I wouldn't have considered her. She was right. I thought 23 was just too young. But, you know what? Looking back on it, the age problem was mine. Not hers. And she was NOT just looking for a green card, believe me. I am meeting a girl in Brazil in two weeks. We have had many conversations, and she is VERY interesting in our meeting. She is 26. When she asked me how old I was, and I told her, she said: "Oh, is that all?" I said, "Why do I look older in my picture?" And she said. "No, you look much younger in your picture. I thought you were only thirty, and that worried me." Sure, you can say she was just telling me what she thought I wanted to hear... but I sense not. She is actually happy that I am 40 and settled, with a good job, and a similar outlook on life that she has. What does this mean? NOTHING. I have just related completely anecdotal evidence. It means nothing to you, because it is just things I have experienced and seen. Just as your "observations" of marriages in Cali are anecdotal. But, from my (limited) experience, I have concluded that we worry about the age gap far more than the ladies do. In the end, you need to decide what is reasonable for you, and what your criteria is. I started dating younger women in the states, so dating slightly younger women in Brazil or Mexico or whatever is no big deal for me. The reason I started dating younger women has nothing to do with ego. I am a single dad. My daughter is only 8. Most women in the states who are my age have kids in their mid to late teens, and they are looking forward to the "empty nest" when they can cut loose and live a little. I am 12 years away from that. I found that the more important thing -- for me -- than the calender age was the "stage of life" age. That meant I needed to find women who had kids about my daughters age. And that is, primarily, women in their very early 30s. If she is in muid twenties... what do I care? As long as we share the same life values. Again, my advice is to decide what is important in your life, and find the woman who fits that. Age seems to be a very bad limiting factor to me. It means little or nothing in reality. IMHO Title: Re: And your point is...? Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to And your point is...?, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 19, 2002
My observations about my ex novias families were just that, observations. I was hearing a preference on one hand and seeing something different and I was trying to explain it. It's not a concern as much as a curiosity and it really wasn't related to anything personal in my own life. Cali-Vet is right, we had a very similar discussion about a year ago and I made the exact same observation then that I did today. I guess I'm bored here at work too.... El Diablo Title: Re: Re: And your point is...? Post by: Cali vet on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: And your point is...?, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Yes it's a topic that gets rehashed every so often but nothing wrong with that since the population of the board is fluid and fresh input on "old themes" is what it's all about. Title: I'm sure you've all heard this old Joke Post by: MarkInTx on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: And your point is...?, posted by Cali vet on Feb 19, 2002
Speaking of hearing it all before... A guy is in prison. First day there. He's in the cafeteria, and all of the sudden some guy jumps up and yells: "17!" Everyone laughs. Pretty soon, someone yells out: "87!" Everyone laughs. Guy asks the guy next to him what's going on. "Oh, well, you see we've all been in here for so long that by now, we've all heard all of the jokes. So, to save time, we numbered them. SO all you need to do is call out the number, and we will remember the joke and it saves time." "Can I try one?" "Sure..." New guy stands up and says: "23!" No one laughs. So, he says it again. "23!" Still nothing. He sits back down. "What happened?" Guy shrugs. "Some people can tell 'em. Some people can't..." Title: Re: I'm sure you've all heard this old Joke Post by: Cali vet on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm sure you've all heard this old Joke, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 20, 2002
What number was that? Title: Dunno... have to check with the warden... n/t Post by: MarkInTx on February 21, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I'm sure you've all heard this old J..., posted by Cali vet on Feb 20, 2002
asd Title: Re: Age gaps Post by: markxport on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Interesting question and responses. Can't explain why you haven't seen this through ex-novias gatherings. However, as far as in public, one explanation maybe similar to our own culture. How many men in 40+ want to go to shopping with the wives. I think all women are always out there shopping, even if its just window shopping. Most men might do it in there 20's, but by their 30's they find better things to do than window shop.... not saying this is the explanation, just one possibility... Take care, Mark Title: Re: Age gaps Post by: Throw on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Diablo, My trip was outstanding. Saw more talent than in past trips. But in reference to your thoughts about the age difference and not seeing many couples that had it. I think part of the reason is the amount of available men that are 15-20 years older than these girls. I mean us 30-50+ year men go down to Cali and hang out in the bars, and clubs and malls where the young girls are. So therefore we are available in that environment. Rarely do you seeing our age guys at say Gallileo. Just ain't happening. If they are there let's say at chipi, they are with the wife. So who are they picking up. Second having been to many family functions like yourself you know all these guys seem to have at least 1 other family other than the one that they are with. It seems very common. My point is this guy has two families and young chick figures this out fairly quick and dumps his ass. She does not want to be the third family for this guy. I hope this wan't too confusing... Title: Age gaps Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps, posted by Throw on Feb 19, 2002
Damm I'm confused Throw....No I understand what you're saying, it may be somekind of combo between demographics and where we hang out. Things may be different at Gallileo than out in the barrio for instance. Taking your good explanation into account, what I'm seeing still doesn't make total sense to me (-: OK I mentioned the family thing with the three ex's but it doesn't end there, that's just the tip of the iceburg and I could go on and on. For instance, when I stayed with my friend in Bogota at XMAS a couple years back, we celebrated the customary Novena were you visit a different relatives house in the evening. This went on for nine evenings and we went to a new families house each and every time. I mean talk about a large family and yes the same was true, the wives and husbands were more or less the same age. OK I understand that it's possible that some of these men may have had other secret mistresses or even second families but familia numero uno was the wife of the same age. Glad you had a great trip..... El Diablo Title: It's probably a generational thing Post by: yc on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
El D, could the difference between what you were hearing and what you were seeing be generational. I am thinking that with the moms, dads, aunts and uncles things were more on equal grounds which probably accounted for less of an age difference for their generation. Just as things have changed socially in this country, maybe there has been a similar social change in Colombia... the widen of the age gap. In this country several years ago, an age difference of 5, 10 even 15 was more common than it is now. In modern westernized countries, social practices seem to be out of sync with the practices of non-westernized countries. This shooting a bit off on a tangent. But in present day American yc Title: It's probably a generational thing Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to It's probably a generational thing, posted by yc on Feb 19, 2002
You may be on to something YC. In the case of the family get togethers, the married couples have been generally 35 to 40 and up with a mean probably in the mid to late 40's. This is clearly at least one generation removed from the young chicas we are encountering and marrying in the agencies. The previous generations may have been more stable socially and so the reasons the new generation proclaim may not have been valid only a few years back. Now on the other hand, have you guys ever read the marriage announcements in a paper like El Pais. Maybe I'm dreaming but I think they show photos even. I'm going to start looking closer to see what age the guys are compared to the gals, no not gringos and Calenas, we all know that age gap there approaches 20 years (grin). El Diablo Title: Re: It's probably a generational thing Post by: Throw on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to It's probably a generational thing, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Ya know I was talking with Bib last night about this and she indicated that the older men go to different night spots. Not the Plaza norte's or brasilika, they are going to dinner club type settings. The young chics want to meet those guys but don't necessarily want to go to those boring types of clubs or older spots. Second point she made was every older guy has a least one child if not more plus a mistress. A young girl does not want to get involved with that. Yes they would like to have an older guy but the prospects are slim ie; older guy who is young spirited without strings. Tough to find in Colombia. Presto magic in comes the American who fills the bill. Makes perfect sense to me... Title: I'm curious... why do you care...? Post by: MarkInTx on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to It's probably a generational thing, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
Not to be as rude as that question sounds... But why do you care...? I don't know why your relationships ended... did the women dump you, and you think it is because you are too old? Or what...? Why this obsession? If a thousand couples have an age spread of twenty years, but your woman dumps you because she thought you were too old... what difference do those other marriages make? And... vice versa... My last girlfriend was 10 years my junior. She was an AW. I don't really care what my neighbor's age spread was. The girlfriend before that was 8 years younger. Before that was 12 years. And before that I was married to a was three months younger. (All of these were AWs) In each case, I made my decision based on the woman, not some normalized average... So, I am curious why you seem to be so caught up in this...? Title: Re: I'm curious... why do you care...? Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious... why do you care...?, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 19, 2002
Well why do we care about anything for that matter, I suppose it either interests us or perhaps we learn insight into something. I've always found human behavior interesting and demographics is one method among many for looking at. Anyway, I didn't think of my responses as an obsession but I noticed that you yourself gave an opinion at least several times on the thread. El Diablo Title: Yep... I admit it... I'm bored Post by: MarkInTx on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I'm curious... why do you care...?, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
I've been sending emails back and forth with my girl in Brazil, and in between emails, I jump on here to see what's new. I'll give you this, El D... you do keep posting... SO, I carried on a discussion with you while I was waiting for G-- to translate my letters, craft her reply, and send them back... Caught me :-) But I'm really not concerned about the age thing. And it appears that you are caught in a bit of Analysis Parlysis about all of this. You wouldn't happen to be an engineer by trade, would you...? Title: Yep... I admit it... I'm bored Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Yep... I admit it... I'm bored, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 19, 2002
Programmer but my education is in accounting or auditing... (-: Some guys like to talk about Visas and time-lines but my thing is human behavior and social issues. In keeping with my namesake, I may overplay the Devil's Advocate but I give my honest opinion. El Diablo Title: As Shakespeare said... Post by: MarkInTx on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Yep... I admit it... I'm bored, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
To paraphrase... There is more in heaven and earth, dear El Diablo, than is made up in your philosophies... Eventually, after all analysis is said and done, what we seek is love... and Love, by its very nature, can never be understood. It can be, and is, discussed... But never understood... What is age to love...? Title: I think you're right Post by: MarkInTx on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to It's probably a generational thing, posted by yc on Feb 19, 2002
I've noticed that on the profiles. You see a woman who is 31 and doesn't have kids, and she might be asking for a partner no more that 35. A 25 year old says she is looking for a guy up to 40? Find a woman who has had kids, and she will be seeking a partner 55 or so. I think it is a few things: One, as you said, it is a generational thing. Also, though, a child changes the equation. A 30 year old woman who has never had children will be wanting one RIGHT NOW. So, age is on her mind. A twenty five year old is still feeling "immortal" and so she is less concerned with ten years from now -- although, ironically, she should worry about it more Ten years from now, her husband will be 50, and she will really be wanting a baby... can he still perform? She may regret the impetuousness of her youth then... On the other hand, a woman with a child is drivne mainly by stability. Much mor eso, I think, than the 20 year old who has no kids, or even th e35 year old with no kids... I think all of these combine... But the women who married 25 years ago didn't have the advantage of being pursued by a Gringo from across the world... so, she married who she knew... IMHO Title: Re: Age gaps Post by: Pete E on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
ED, Maybe the women prefer younger guys to date and older men to marry.Or maybe its just that the younger guys won't marry them.Why get married when there is so much action around?This can also become the attitude of a gringo who spends enough time there.Maybe the guy has to get a little older to want to be married.And maybe the girl needs to get burned by some young Casanovas to decide she has had enough of them,particularly if they left her with a kid or 2 before moving on to their next conquest,splitting at the first clue that responsibility may be required. Pete Title: Age gaps Post by: El Diablo on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps, posted by Pete E on Feb 19, 2002
Pete, everything you said makes a certain amount of sense but I'm just not seeing among my friends and aquintances families in Cali, large age gaps between married men and women. I can't explain why this is so if older more mature men are preferred by the women and younger women are preferred by the men. Maybe there is a demographic reason to explain my observation or perhaps I'm just wrong. El Diablo Title: Re: Age gaps Post by: Pete E on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
ED, Let me speculate why the two points of view here are not necesarily at odds.Perhaps many Colombians,like Americans,marry people they met in school and therefore are close to the same age.Perhaps it is also true that large age differences are acceptable and in some cases prefered.It might also be a function of social class within the country. Perhaps a woman who didn't happen to marry a young guy,or did to her displeasure,might be interested in an older,more established and responsible man,be he Colombian or gringo. A case in point.Did you know that Rubby Rios,the former director of latin love was 46 years younger than her first husband?Not 6,16,26,36,but 46 years younger?It didn't work but might have been OK for awhile.I think she was 16 and he 62 when they married.He might have been a still handsome guy. So I do believe large age differences are acceptable in Colombia,but they may not neccesarily be the normal situation. Perhaps Colombians just don't think of age like Americans do.My wifes best female friend is 31 years older than her.Rocio is younger than any of her 4 children,and they are fast friends.They have more in common and have more fun together than the lady does with her own kids.There is a little bit of a mother daughter type thing to it,but they have great respect for each other and treat each other like equals.They love to shop,even though this lady has alot more to spend than Rocio.It makes the lady feel younger but I don't think it makes Rocio feel older.This lady had a major health issue and I think Rocio was alot of comfort to her.They tell each other I love you and mean it I think.This lady happens to be a very wise person,and Rocio,who is pretty wise herself respects that. Anyway just guessing about the different impressions and stories on age differences.As you know my wife is 23 years younger than me.It doesn't seem to be a problem to her,yet.I joke that she is my old age care insurance. ED it sounds like you are shopped out on Cali and probably should try another place.Bogota would probably be a good place with a better chance of more serious women than the ones you have been finding in Cali.Many of these little honeys just want to have someone take them out to dinner,ect.I know its comfortable in a way there but I think you have been there,done that.There may be a little bit of its not that great going on with you because you have not really found the person you are looking for.Thats understandable.And of course, here I am,dumb and lucky thinking,hey,its easy. Pete Title: Age Gaps Post by: El Diablo on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps, posted by Pete E on Feb 20, 2002
Pete, Please don't say it's so...shopped out of Cali...could it be...is it even possible? NO...I don't think the problem is Cali but more likely me. Just maybe one of these days, possibly after going to one more of your San Jose parties single and alone, I'll finally make the decision to get serious and get married. I think it was Doug Y. who said it best, "your problem El D is not that you can't find a good woman but that you're looking for a cross between Shakira and Mother Theresa". Oh well I had fun looking.... El Diablo Title: Re: Age gaps Post by: Wayne on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Age gaps, posted by El Diablo on Feb 19, 2002
My wife also said there are many 28 up year old muhares with 16-17 yo guys. Now that is a new twist.... I met one older Los Angeles lady at the Bogota Embassy marrying this young Colombian Stud... It's not just us guys chasing Colombians. A agree, I don't see the age differences at the malls or around much either. But I keep hearing about it from the Chicas. Wayne Title: Re: Re: Age gaps Post by: Tai on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps, posted by Wayne on Feb 19, 2002
I have a friend in Barranquilla whose cousin(17) has a 36 year old girlfriend. While he says that the girls his age "no tiene la madurez", I suspect(based on all the information) that his older lady's financial stability is the real attraction for him. I mean really, the guy says he loves her, but he refuses to be publicly seen with her. -Tai ps - "don't have the maturity" Title: A Colombiana Sugar momma Post by: Pete E on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Age gaps, posted by Tai on Feb 19, 2002
I guess it can work both ways. Pete Title: Re: Re: Re: Age gaps Post by: Cali vet on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Age gaps, posted by Tai on Feb 19, 2002
Funny you mention that. I heard the same thing from friends I was staying with last week in B/quilla. Not at all uncommon there for younger guys in their early twenties to run with older women for as you say the "madurez". Title: Re: Re: Re: Re: Age gaps Post by: Tai on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Re: Age gaps, posted by Cali vet on Feb 20, 2002
It kind of seemed like there is a reverse may-december trend going on in Barranquilla. -Good to know it's not just my imagination. With all the older Colombian men chasing the young chicas...the older Colombianas have plenty of motivation to accept the "young studly" attention. Title: Maybe they're leaving their mature men at home Post by: MarkInTx on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Age gaps, posted by Wayne on Feb 19, 2002
...because they are afraid he'll get hit on by young hard-bodies?
Title: here is a local example... Post by: cedro on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Maybe they're leaving their mature men a..., posted by MarkInTx on Feb 19, 2002
Last weekend I was bored to death so i decided to go to americansingles and waste my time. Im in Dallas so I started responding to local latinas. americansingles.com is just like kiss.com and the rest of them. I got a few replys. 1 was ok,the other 2 shot me down hard. OUCH! Im 37 years old. The one latina I wrote sent me the following email tonight: Monica" She is 28 years old, by the way. Title: Nice girl though Post by: MarkInTx on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to here is a local example..., posted by cedro on Feb 19, 2002
Really... that was as nice of a "thanks but no thanks" that I ever heard... I think it shows some class. I always feel that if the lady is looking for someone younger... so be it. After all.. so am I... (smile) Title: Re: here is a local example... Post by: Pete E on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to here is a local example..., posted by cedro on Feb 19, 2002
28??If she was in Cali she would be almost over the hill.She would be lucky to find a 50 year old.You at 37 could have your pick of 18 year olds.Just goes to show that all latinas are not the same,not even close. And the power of a plane ticket for those guys creative enough to have discovered the difference.Go south,not so young man,go south. Pete Title: Re: Re: here is a local example... Post by: Cali vet on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM Title: But she's not Post by: MarkInTx on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: here is a local example..., posted by Pete E on Feb 20, 2002
She's not in Cali. Sheesh guys... You can't expect an AW to do Latin Math... I don't know what AmericanSingles is like... but I'm sure that she is getting a hundred guys a day writing to her. And the young studs are takig her to dinners... flashing their credit cards... Looking cool in their designer clothes... When she's 38, she'll look back and wonder where all the good guys are... but now, she seems to be doing the right thing. If you had attractive 25 year olds askiong you out, and attractive 35 year olds... who would YOU be going with? It's simply supply and demand... But, a GOOD reason for heading To THE SOURCE... Title: Re:She's not in Cali,but you should be! Post by: Pete E on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to But she's not, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 20, 2002
Don't fight the losing battle here.Switch hunting grounds! It is too bad we can't send her there for a wake up call though.Just like I would like to send our welfare cases to a poor Mexican Village for a different perspective. Pete Title: she is from colombia Post by: cedro on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re:She's not in Cali,but you should be!, posted by Pete E on Feb 20, 2002
She is from Colombia according to her profile, but since she understans english, Im sure she has been here awhile. Also I recieved one more simular blow off letter from a another latina. These girls are in Dallas. I dont like that americansingles site. It really bummed me out. The worst part is I had to pay $19.99 for this non-sense! Its time for new hunting grounds! Im not going to let these 'ding-a-lings' bring down my confidence. I just thought maybe I could get lucky and find someone here. But now I know for sure what I go to do. Title: $19.95 is cheap Post by: MarkInTx on February 21, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to she is from colombia, posted by cedro on Feb 20, 2002
I paid $19.95 for matchmaker.com Then a few hundred dollars on dates with women who really weren't worth the effort... Count yourself lucky if you learned this in $19.95! It took me hundreds of dollars to wise up! Title: Re: she is from colombia Post by: Pete E on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to she is from colombia, posted by cedro on Feb 20, 2002
Alot of guys think "I don't have to go that far".Believe me its worth it.The bigger issue other than distance is language.My wife spoke some english when we met and much more now.We have always coommunicated in english.If you speak spanish you are way ahead in the search but it will hold your wife back learnung english. I guess the worst of all worlds would be a latina with a US attitude that doesn't speak english. So when are you going?Lets let this AW story be a prelude to a success story.Viva la difference. Maybe we could make a credit card advertisement out of this.Plane ticket,$500.Agency with room and board,$400.Food and intertainment,$400.Beautifull Colombiana,priceless. Pete Title: Ditto......n/t Post by: Hoda on February 21, 2002, 05:00:00 AM Title: You're 37.... Post by: Hoda on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to here is a local example..., posted by cedro on Feb 19, 2002
and you got shot down by a 28yr old? Ain't that some shyt! Get yourself a citibank debit card, so you can rack up on the miles. That will get you outta here much faster...(lol). Monica gets an "A" for honesty, but an "N.I." for math! N.I. = Needs Improvement Title: Re: here is a local example... Post by: Cali vet on February 19, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to here is a local example..., posted by cedro on Feb 19, 2002
It's time to get out of Dodge. The nerve of that little hussy! Yep, get thee to an airliner and fly over the border whatever it takes. Title: I guess 30 is old to her....lol n/t Post by: Hoda on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM Title: Re: I guess 30 is old to her....lol n/t Post by: Cali vet on February 20, 2002, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I guess 30 is old to her....lol ..., posted by Hoda on Feb 20, 2002
Yeah she got her dating experience watching MTV (or HTV). |