Title: Formula for Success Post by: JimSimon on July 16, 2001, 04:00:00 AM A lot has been written on this board about how long is the proper time to know your fiancee (or better, how much is too little time), what cities have more atractive women etc. I would like to add my dos pesos worth here.
I met my fiancee in Cali in December and we will be married in about three weeks. I had gone to Costa Rica the past year two times and basically wasted the year but the lessons learned were worth the wasted time. Here is my list in essentially sequetial order. 1. Learn some Spanish ( lot is better) 2. Choose a location The owner suggested I contact his lead employee which was great advise. Colombian are much more loyal to acquaintences that we are in the US and if the girls at the agency like you and respect your sincerity, they will be happy to set up appointments with people. All the ladies will ask what you are like and they may be diplomatic but they won't lie to their friends. Also bring small gifts for the ladies at the agency (a $3 gift is all you need). 3. Take stock 4. Selection process 5. Interview 6. Time frame 7. Beware I am engaged to the most enchanting woman I have ever met. She lights up a room with her smile. We have a lot of challenges (and expenses) but I can tell you, I have met someone I will work everyday to make happy. Six months doesn't make a lifetime but I feel we've had a good starta nd I wish each of you the same success. Jim Title: Re: Formula for Success Post by: FenixRises on July 16, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Formula for Success, posted by JimSimon on Jul 16, 2001
Hi Jim, Good to see you on this forum. I like the info you contributed and can see that it makes good sense. Now some people may think I am splitting hairs here but I think this distinction is very important. You said "I have met someone I will work everyday to make happy." I think I know what you mean, however this is my argument with your statement. I cannot make someone else happy. The other person must basically be a happy person on their own. The best that I can do is "Not do something that I know will make her unhappy". Splitting hairs? Maybe to some but I think it is a very important difference. Some years ago there was a very popular movie called "Love Story". There was one line of dialog that was often quoted "Love means never having to say that you are sorry", what do you guys think it means? Fred Title: Re: Re: Formula for Success Post by: JimSimon on July 17, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Formula for Success, posted by FenixRises on Jul 16, 2001
Hi Fred, Absolutely correct about no being to make someone else happy. I was saying that I have found a person who I am willing to compromise with and want to see happy all the time. Glad you had a good time in Colombia. Jim |