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Title: The slow train.... Post by: Hoda on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM Morning folks,
During my last visit, me & Stivalis decided on a day for our wedding. Even though the day is a year away, the pre-marital excitement/jitters have already begun. Many of you are aware that my adventure started in July of 99, when I first saw my fiancee on the Latin Internet site. I lucked-up in a chance meeting, during my first visit to Cali in Sept. of 99. No need for me to re-type my story here, in regards to all the people, places & events that have lead up to this point. It's all in my adventures to Caliland report in the archives. Our decision to take the "Slow Train" to marriage was based on a mutual decision. We talked at length & in depth about our past relationships, and hopes for this one. We needed & wanted time to learn about each other. We didn't want to repeat our mistakes of the past. PATIENCE, or the lack there of, was one of the primary culprits that marked our past disappointments. The time between my visits to Cali & the long distance between us believe it or not, was not as big an issue, as we (or others) thought it would be. The bottom line was, we "knew" we had something very special. We were brought together by fate & slapped by the "THUNDERBOLT" ...*grin! We were engaged in March of 2000. We agreed to atleast a year to a year & a half of engagemet. During this time, we shared personal personal trials & triumphs which only solidified our love for each other. Some of you are aware of trials of life that I am speaking of. Without going into detail, they are things that we "All" experience in our personal & professional lives at one point or another. Could we have moved faster down the path toward marriage, probaly? It probaly would have placed more emotional pressure on our marriage. Stivalis & I are both happy that patience played a major part in "our" relationship. At a different time, these "trials" would have torn apart our relationships of the past. Not this time, not now. The path Stivalis & I have choosen for ourselves, is what "WE NEEDED & WANTED", to give our love its best chance to grow & last. The time & distance betweeen us didn't diminish our confidence & love in each other. This path is not for all. But who knows of only "One" path towards happiness? Whatever path you take, however long it takes you to get there. Just get there..... Peace....Howard Title: I'm right behind ya man..... Post by: JunFan68 on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Congratulations. I have learned alot from your posts and hope you continue to be active after she gets here...that's when we will need you most. I am about 4-6 mos. behind you I would say...It will be one year since I first contacted Beatriz in a few weeks so it will be more or less 15-18 mos. before we are married....maybe that is the medium train.....la paz....Mike Title: choo...choo....choo. woooo....wooooo. choo. goes my slow train..... Post by: Larry in Dallas on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Dear Hoda: It will be a year when Nidyan and I tie the knot. I am thankful that I did not rush either because self-reflection and patience are two very important keys to a successful relationship. LOOK OUT! IT'S A RUNAWAY TRAIN!!!!!!!!!!! WHHHOOOOOOOO.....WHHHHHHHHOOOOOOO...... Larry in Dallas Title: Re: The slow train.... Post by: Houndog on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Mi Amigo, Once again you set a Good Example for the countless 'wonderers". All those who have'nt been able to make the first steps in their journey 'yet'. You and Stivalis are showing so many negative 'nay sayers' that WE really can find Wonderful, Commited Women and True Love in this venue. You prove with your slow approach that most of the women are willing to commit more to loving us, than simply getting here in a hurry. While myself and LE are moving much faster than you and Stivalis, it has still been at this point, over a year since I first corresponded with her. And I will add that the love and trust her and I have has grown stronger with time also. I commend you on your patience and strenght to endure your time line...and Stivalis.........but truly it helps to show that many of the men and women are in this for forever. Best Wishes to Both of You in Life and Love. Regards, Houndog Title: How true, how true.... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: The slow train...., posted by Houndog on Apr 26, 2001
With the current postings of engagements & weddings in the near future. This should KILL THE NOISE of those who preach that all these ladies desire, is to leave country to the first man to come along. Peace...Hoda Title: Good luck for you! Post by: Georgina on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Dear Hoda, My husband and I got married after 3 years and two visits. Once, he went to visit me to Peru and then I was able to get a tourist visa and visited him for one month. In the meanwhile we exchange pictures, gifts, emails, letters, phonecalls and fights. We have been married for more than a year now and we love each other very much and are very happy. All these three years helped us to determine how strong was our love and if we were able to fight the problems that arised on our way. We always though that if we could get over the problems that showed up when we were living apart from each other, we could resolved easily the problems when we live together as a married couple. And we can! I should tell you. It was not easy. But it depends of you and Stivalis how much time are you guys able to stand separated. I should confess I always had a fear. I feared that my husband would find someone here and forget about me and even if you know how much you love each other. The fear was always there. This was the worst of being separated for so long. Well, it also depends on how creative are you guys! I always was looking for new things to tell him in my e-mails, new original gift, etc. Good luck for both of you. Georgina Title: If you only knew..... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Good luck for you!, posted by Georgina on Apr 26, 2001
How creative me & Stivalis were!!! I KNOW it wouldn't get pass Patrick's "Language filter". Hey wait a minute, maybe he doesn't have it fine tuned to catch certain Spanish words......Only kidding Patrick!!! Peace...Hoda Title: Re: The slow train.... Post by: Pete Eiguren on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Howard, It makes good sense to really get to know each other before you marry,but almost 3 years?You must be a man of extreme patience.You speak of the possible pressure on the relationship of moving too fast,but isn't there alot of pressure of moving slow?It would drive me nuts.(yup,I am not patient). I just jumped in and got married fast which I admit was not wise and for a time appeared a mistake,but now our marriage is very good.I have been told I got lucky,which I think is true. Actually I am not critisizing and think you are wise in this path.Congratualations to you and Stivalis on your decision. Your posts are very intertaining and informative,but man you are making us wait along time for the final chapter! Good luck and God bless, Pete Title: No final chapter......Pete. Post by: hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: The slow train...., posted by Pete Eiguren on Apr 26, 2001
With a little luck & patience....only a continuing story! Peace....Hoda Title: Re: No final chapter......Pete. Post by: Pete Eiguren on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to No final chapter......Pete., posted by hodajr on Apr 26, 2001
Howard, I thought that might be bad wording.How about the chapter that ends with you Married and Stivalis here?That might be the end of the boy meets girl and gets married part.Of course the story continues after that.I am still posting. Pete Title: Re: The slow train.... Post by: Villa in Cali on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
It's nice to have watched your relationship grow from the beginning. I am very happy for both of you. Although we have traveled different paths in the last 2 years, I have always considered you a frined. If you marry in Cali next year, I would love to see it. Pacino Title: Re: Re: The slow train.... Post by: Traveller on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: The slow train...., posted by Villa in Cali on Apr 26, 2001
First, CONGRATULATIONS. I still think she is too good for you though. LOL! Second, I can't wait to see how she deals with New York weather when it gets below 30 degrees. LOL! I'd love to be around to see that. Well, take care and I'll see you at the wedding. =) Keith Title: That's the only thing.... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: The slow train...., posted by Traveller on Apr 26, 2001
that makes here nervous. THE WEATHER!!! She's well aware that we have REAL SEASONS! Stivalis has been talking to family & friends who have made the adjustment to REAL WEATHER. You can best believe, I'll do my part to keep her nice & warm.....Boo-yaah! Peace...Hoda Title: Your reservation.... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: The slow train...., posted by Villa in Cali on Apr 26, 2001
Has been received & accepted! Since you & Keith have a presence in Cali, your attendence is MANDATORY!!!!! Peace...Hoda Title: Good thinking... Post by: Jeff S on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
My wife and I spent almost one and a half years and three trips together totalling nearly 12 weeks after getting engaged, and that was after an additional year and two more trips for 8 weeks together dating, before we were married. It was still tough, but we just celebrated our 15th anniversary and can say without reservation that we're soulmates. Best of luck to you. -- Jeff S. Title: Thanks Jeff... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Good thinking..., posted by Jeff S on Apr 26, 2001
I'm looking forward to celebrating my 15th with Stivalis myself. Thanks again. Peace...Hoda Title: Re: The slow train.... Post by: Doug Y. on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Congratulations!!!!!!I'm soooooo happy for you guys. Yeah the slow train definitely has its advantages, and the fact that you two have hung together over the geographic distance shows your strong patience. Thanks for all the encouragement you've given all of us. You are indirectly responsible for alot of guys going south, and I for one won't ever forget your unselfishness and (mostly patient) LOL responses to each newbies "which is the best agency?" "where are the hottest chix?" questions. Much happiness and joy to you and yours! Regards, Title: No need for me..... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: The slow train...., posted by Doug Y. on Apr 26, 2001
To "De-Ex" my place....LOL!!!! We'll be moving to a brand NEW apartment, when she finally arrives. I'm crazy, not stupid! Once we get settled, we'll be making a "Tour Across America" to visit a number of board buddies. Your city is on the list... Peace...Hoda Title: Hoda's wedding..did someone say party?! Post by: H2-Oh on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to No need for me....., posted by Hodajr on Apr 26, 2001
Gosh, I'd sure like to attend the event of the year. Do you have room for me and my lady??? Best Wishes, H2-Oh Title: Party over here.... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Hoda's wedding..did someone say party?!, posted by H2-Oh on Apr 26, 2001
If you're in Cali on that day, YOU BETTER BE THERE!!!! The Roof, The Roof, The Roof is on fire! We don't need no water, let the mutha...oops! BURN..... Party over here....Hoda! Title: Re: No need for me..... Post by: Doug Y. on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to No need for me....., posted by Hodajr on Apr 26, 2001
Looking' forward to it!! The guests of honor at the PL re-union SJ edition! THAT will be a night to remember!! PS Don't forget to comb them old photo albums and storage boxes Davis. Wouldn't want any evidence makin' it to the new crib!! LOL! Doug Title: Re: No need for me..... Post by: jesse on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to No need for me....., posted by Hodajr on Apr 26, 2001
i hope your first stop is DC, if Stivalis brings pictures, and phone numbers of her single and looking female friends, i may be able to get her an honorary membership in FARM, i guess we need a new category for you and eddie, Married Farmers Title: Re: The slow train.... Post by: Tim on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to The slow train...., posted by Hoda on Apr 26, 2001
Hey, that slow train works just fine ! We rode it too. I can relate 100% to your feelings. Sometimes time and distance are a great test to see if two people should be together in marriage. However, things are better once that slow train finally pulls into the station, LOL. We just celebrated our 7 month anniversary, and things are going strong. I've been following your story over the years, and I'm convinced the final chapters will reveal you and Lady S. as another marital success. Good luck, and please keep us posted. Regards, Tim (and Wendy). Title: Time & distance... Post by: Hodajr on April 26, 2001, 04:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: The slow train...., posted by Tim on Apr 26, 2001
Helped more than it hurt. I've made a number of trips to Cali. I think the count is up to 7 or so since Sept of 99. The only thing I count now while I'm traveling, is the MILES. I'm definetly going to get a free trip very soon. Peace...Hoda |