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Title: ATM Working Post by: Peter Lee on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Just a note to tell you that the getting an ATM card for my fiance and sending it too her, works great. I am a little puzzled that there are no charges on the account. I was told $2 dollars each time it is used in a different ATM than the banks. Also I was told that a transaction fee of $3.50 for the exchange would be charged. My fiancee also has checked how much was in the account serveral times, I have not seen any charges for that either. No charges at all, what gives? This if it continious is unbelievable. The ATM in the PI that she uses must be affiliated with my bank somehow? She did tell me that she tried another ATM and it didn't let her withdraw any money. You guys have saved me tons of money with this! I had sent money using Western Union before. Thanks!
Title: Don't send a Dime Post by: greg on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to ATM Working, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 15, 2003
Anyway..there is no divorce in RP, only annulment of marriage. Not sure if You can divorce a Pinay in America that you married in the Philippines. Peter Lee you have courted this child for less than two weeks in person..Slow down man..Food for your thoughts, just becuz a Pinay is good to you in RP, doesn't mean she would be good here. Btw, I agree with Bro Bear's post, Grrrrrrrrr Title: Re: Don't send a Dime Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Don't send a Dime, posted by greg on Mar 16, 2003
I hear ya Greg The risk is all mine! Thanks for the input. I am looking for the red flags and I am not married yet. It was 20 days of courtship not less than 2 weeks. It has been 3 months of phone calls and yahoo chats that seem productive. So far so good. My personal opinion is a face to face meeting is better that a year of e mails. What does slow down mean to you please give me details. I could meet in June and instead of marrying visit for 2 months go home and apply for a fiancé visa? But that would be faster! Another way to slow it down would be to meet again at Christmas and hold hands in the Mall again LOL. I never seen her as being good to me. We just seemed to click, if that means anything. Title: Why? Post by: Dave H on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Don't send a Dime, posted by greg on Mar 16, 2003
Hi Greg, You can divorce a Pinay in America that you married in the Philippines. Peter met his lady and is still courting her. As I recall, there are several members of P-L who courted their fiancees only by Internet, mail, and phone without having met in person. They married shortly after meeting in person and now have very happy and successful marriages. I would say Peter is taking more time than that, after having already met his fiancee in person. Money in and of itself is not evil. It depends on how and why it was given and how it was used. I wouldn't consider college tuition, wedding arrangements, Visa expenses, medical expenses, home repairs, or money to eat, an unwise or gold digging use of money, especially if that was the intent it was given. Or even an occasional meal at Jollybee's and a movie. Most of us living here in luxury would like and can provide our fiancees or wives and their families a better life before they arrive here, at very little cost to us. I am not saying to send huge sums of money...it doesn't take much. It is important to remember that all Filipinas who receive and accept assistance shouldn't be lumped in with "gold diggers." In general, I would stay clear of women who ask for money. Dave H. Title: Re: Why? Post by: Esiang on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Why?, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003
In general, I would stay clear of women who ask for money. that's right ...... Title: Hi Dave Post by: greg on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Why?, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003
my Post is based on Her age a 19 yrs old brat while he's in his 50's. High Risk marriage, especially since Pete only socialized with this child for less than 2 weeks. He needs more time courting her in Person. A Guy can almost marry any Pinay in RP, that doesn't mean that she loves nor want Him. Best for him to run her thur tests instead of showering her with money and gifts. Setting himself up for a fall with her and her family. Their eyes are now filled with $$$$$$$$$$ signs(we hit the jackpot with a rich Kano, later we can all quit our jobs and live off Him). In their eyes we are all rich, Not Joking Title: how many days kano courted a pinay Post by: Esiang on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Hi Dave, posted by greg on Mar 16, 2003
Let Peter decide if his 19 year old fiancee is a brat...or is he showering her with lots of gold? If I may ask all of you guys here on the board, How many months and days do you guys courted a filipina in person? we hit the jackpot with a rich Kano, later we can all quit our jobs and live off Him). In their eyes we are all rich, Not Joking That is just so oa.... Title: Re: how many days kano courted a pinay Post by: SteveG on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003
Esiang, I started writing Melly in Dec 92 and went to visit in Nov 93. Went back in late July 94 and we got married on that trip. We only spent 8 days together the first trip and about 5 or 6 days in person on the 2nd trip before getting married. It must have been enough because that was a long time ago and we are still happy! SteveG Title: Re: how many days kano courted a pinay Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003
Hi Esiang, I was a little confused with you last statement. I would safely say she is not a brat. I've seen her work for her Aunt doing so many chores I hardly had time to see her. She never complained, and kept on working. I can also say that this family is better off than most. The Uncle is a chief engineer on a ship and take home pay is more that what some of us take home here in the US. About the ladies I emailed for months, they did not look the same as there pictures and we just didn't click together. The mind for true romance needs more input that a phone call and written email. Face to face is the only way I can relate to someone. Sure the rest were nice but if they brought a friend along who I never emailed they would look just as attractive. I can't explain it this one seemed like this is the one. I didn't even know what I was looking for till I met her. I am not showering her with gold. The ATM card has $200 in it, I did it to see what would happen. She itemized what she spent it on and took out 1000 pesos per month for email, transportation, expenses while she was still going to school. I felt for a fiancé who I will marry in the near future that would be appropriate. She offered to go to work in Manila if there ever was a money problem. I thought that was testing me but her cousin was there from Manila that said she could come and work in the same company than he does. She will be going back to Lanao in Mindanao after her graduation. We plan on her coming back to Cebu in late April and planning the wedding with her Mom. You know it is hard for me to see any red flags coz I am in love. That is why I am on this board so I can make informed decisions later. I have not sensed what everyone has warned me about, family looking for a hand out. It seems so far that most of the family members are all in good paying positions. It was not easy to get them to accept me in the beginning. The message I got from the whole family was that they wanted her to have a good husband that would not mistreat her and take good care of her. Once they got to know me they liked me. Aunty has two new jeepnees in the front yard with the two drivers sleeping in a separate quarters. All the kids have a cell phone, except her, I got her one before I left. That didn’t seem to unusual when I read the other letters from this forum. So lets see what I can do to do more tests or spot red flags. Title: Re: Re: how many days kano courted a pinay Post by: Esiang on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 18, 2003
Good, I knew it's only you who would knew if she's a brat or not, co'z I just hate greg's statement:" a 19 year old brat and the guy is in his 50's" as if greg knew her already... Title: Not Many! Post by: Dave H on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003
Hi Esiang, Wrote and called for for 3 months, went to visit for just over 2 weeks and became engaged in less than a week, seperated 10 months before receiving Visa, together 1 month before wedding. I knew she was the one, before I ever stepped off the plane and met in person! Married 1.5 years and no regrets! Dave H. Title: Re: Not Many! Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Not Many!, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003
Hey Dave,
I should go and make it an April wedding LOL Title: Re: Not Many! Post by: Esiang on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Not Many!, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003
My Kano wrote and called for 7 months before we meet,come February he started courting sending flowers from Us to phils..he..he...Then we meet finally in person by may(after my graduation in College) for only 2 weeks,less than a week my Kano proposed, at first I did not say yes but gosh when he's leaving on a jet plane... Anyway I didn't really wanna rush into marriage not until I'm sure it's him....My Man.... Months passed and I couldn't take it anymore....finally we got married on a nice simple chapel that I always liked since I was in High School.It's been 1 1/2 years since worltrade tragedy, our marriage is truly very alive and Osama Bin laden is still nowhere to be found. Now My Kano and I have known each other for almost 3 years... Title: Re: Re: Not Many! Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Re: Re: Not Many! Post by: Ray on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Not Many!, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003
Hey cousin, did you get married in Surigao? Ray Title: Re: Re: Re: Not Many! Post by: Esiang on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Not Many!, posted by Ray on Mar 17, 2003
Cousin, Did u get married in Surigao Cathedral or in Dinagat Island? I've been to Dinagat once, my Brother and his Bride just walk going to church, did you do that? Title: Re: Re: Re: Re: Not Many! Post by: Ray on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Re: Not Many!, posted by Esiang on Mar 17, 2003
No, I rode to the church in an air-conditioned "limo" (LOL). The wedding was in San Nicholas Cathedral in Surigao City and the reception was at the Gateway. I had a great time! Surigao Ken got married in the same church. Do any of your relatives in Dinagat belong to PBMA? I know about 90% of the people in San Jose are followers of PBMA. That's where they had the big shootout last year between Ecleo's boys and the Philippine army. I think around 25 died that day. Ecleo is a crazy whacko if you ask me... Ray
Title: Ecleo Post by: Esiang on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Not Many!, posted by Ray on Mar 17, 2003
No way....Ecleo should go to hell.....he..he... I dont have any relatives in Dinagat except for my sister in-law. I knew it Ken's wedding is in Surigao Cathedral,I've seen their wedding picture.And I think I'm familiar with his wife,maybe one of my mother's pupils before,not really sure. Title: Re: Ecleo Post by: Ray on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Ecleo, posted by Esiang on Mar 17, 2003
Actually, I didn't realize until just recently that my wife was at Ken & Nancy's wedding. She didn't know them at the time, but just happened to wander into the church during the ceremony. Maybe they could spot her in the video, hiding in the back? LOL No Abus in Surigao yet. If you do get a chance to go back to Surigao, be sure to eat in the Gateway's restaurant. I highly recommend the Escabeche and the Crab & Corn Chowder. Just DO NOT try their "Fillet Mignon"! Ray Title: Re: Re: Ecleo Post by: Esiang on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Re: Re: Re: Not Many! Post by: Esiang on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: About 3 years... Post by: Dave H on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Not Many!, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003
Hi Esiang, You two began writing and married about the same time as us. Dave H. Title: Re: About 3 years... Post by: Esiang on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to About 3 years..., posted by Dave H on Mar 17, 2003
Yeah, Did u get married in Sept. too? Title: Close... Post by: Dave H on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: About 3 years..., posted by Esiang on Mar 17, 2003
Hi Esiang, Visa delivered on 9/10, a day of extreme joy...followed by a day of extreme sorrow and anger. My wife caught one of the first flights out of Manila about a week later. Married mid-October in the US. Dave H. Title: You're out of line bozo! n/t Post by: Ray on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: HEY Ray Post by: greg on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: I'm curious? Post by: Bear on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to ATM Working, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 15, 2003
Why are you sending money to a fiancee' on a regular basis? Did you know that a good Filipina would never except it? Even in the case of an emergency!! I sure hope you are not setting yourself up for a long hard, fall because sending money usually is a BIG RED FLAG!!! I had to beg mine to let me buy her a cell phone to save me $5-600/month on long distance collect calls. She only agreed after I said she was buying it for me and she could use it till I got there. Even after that she bought the cheapest she could find. Once married she rarely used all the money I put in her bank account and twice used none of it. All the guys on this board who have been successful all brag about how little their wives spent where as the ones who failed all have a start similar to yours. Bear and Honey Title: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
Hi Bear and Honey, To answer your questions I did promise her Dad I would pay for her school 3500 pesos per month. Her graduation was more expensive with the special clothes and new shoes. She itemized everything without me telling her to do that. I put $200 in the account to see what would happen. Not much, it sat there for quite a while and an extra 1000 peso was withdrawn per month while in school. E mail, Jeepnee to school, some snacks, I probably couldn’t do better myself for a 1000 pesos a month. I'm sure she would not be as frugal as Honey but I hope close. It is early yet and she has had money in the ATM available but did not use it so far. There is a 1300 peso expense for a passport. The time will come when she will have to budget her wedding and use the card for that. I am building a trust relationship, so far so good. Title: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Febtember on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
If the guy wants to send the money on his idea thats fine,its like a gift to her why not accept it.She see's it as a present.If the filipina ask money for her that's a RED FLAG. Oh no I realize how bad I am because I accept the money my husband send me before we got married.Yah I spend some of it too processing my papers and travel expenses. Raquel Title: Re: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I'm curious?, posted by Febtember on Mar 15, 2003
So you think it is ok what i am doing so far febtember? Title: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Esiang on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
Wow, that's good for her, she never spent any penny. Mine I used it whenever I need to buy a necessary thing(like snacks) at the store but I'm not that crazy to spent all the money in it.For what? And I also used it to send money for an emergency of my beloved sister's and jollibee for my ever cute niece and nephews. Up to now living here in the states I always want to buy things very cheap, good thing Walmart gives me discount. back then in the Phils.I was responsible to pay for the apartment rent with the expense of my husband and also for our phone bills and last but not the least I spent the money for our never ending processing immigration,doing all the requirements. Title: Re: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Bear on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I'm curious?, posted by Esiang on Mar 15, 2003
Buying things agreed upoun is okay, I am just preparing him for the possiblity that he could get hurt if the amount he sends is excessive (more than $100/mo) or that many trying to get here abuse Kanos due to our generosity. If the money is being used for college and wedding preparation its great - I did the same, but Honey insisted she earn it not me just me give it to her. So I hired her to make somethings for our home once she was here. I am not saying that things are going bad for him just to be aware. I guess I just got a great girl who felt that she should do as much as possible to be a help and not a burden. Bear Title: Re: Re: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Esiang on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
Well, too much is too much....there is always a limitation in everything..... If filipina abused money from da kano,pinay should be kicked out he..he... Good thing right now I am not a burden anymore, me and my husband are totally equal and in the future we hope to achieve our goals. Title: Re: Re: salvation army Post by: Febtember on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I'm curious?, posted by Esiang on Mar 15, 2003
Hey Esiang, Yah,wallmart is cheap compare to some store but theres much cheaper than wallmart, salvation army and goodwill store.I always love to go shopping in salvation army,flea market cheap too.We bought some of our baby stuff in flea market and consignment shop like kids closet.Oh I love to go shopping there.And sometimes you have luck in auction sale too I got my ladies bike for 5 bucks on amish auction(I wonder why amish people never bid on it,its a nice bike,we have hide in couch 120 bucks bought last fall during auction here and we bid diamond earings for 50 bucks (original price 250.)And guess what one time we went to auction sale we bid holland baler for 5 bucks too.Of course nobody bid it because its all rusty but works pretty good on baling hay.We been using the baler last fall and probably use it again this july till wheat ready to harvest. raquel Title: Re: Re: Re: salvation army Post by: Esiang on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: salvation army, posted by Febtember on Mar 15, 2003
Ive been to Goodwill store, i got our curtains there, and we love going to Amish place, they have nice foods and nice people. I only shop during on sale on Walmart + my discount, i dont really like to shop during regular prices he..he.. Title: I win! Post by: Dave H on March 16, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Re: salvation army, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003
I dumpster dive behind K-mart and Walmart! ;o))) Dave H. Title: Nope, I do! Post by: SteveG on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I win! , posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003
[This message has been edited by SteveG] I thought you saw myself and Melly digging thru YOUR garbage this morning, Dave! :P SteveG Title: Dang It! You Win! Post by: Dave H on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Nope, I do!, posted by SteveG on Mar 17, 2003
Hey Steve, I thought it was the rats! Did you have to chew a hole through the bottom of the can? Do you know hard it is to get the garbage men to take an old trash can? ;o))) Dave H. Title: Re: Dang It! You Win! Post by: SteveG on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Dang It! You Win!, posted by Dave H on Mar 17, 2003
Dave, Yeah, just how do you throw away a trash can?? Well, sorry for the hole. Melly did that....she thought she saw some Balut and got hungry. LOL SteveG Title: Re: Nope, I do! Post by: Ray on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Nope, I do!, posted by SteveG on Mar 17, 2003
But now you know who broke into the trunk of your car and stole that crap you took from Dave's garbage (I confess...) :-) Ray Title: Keep It! Post by: Dave H on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Nope, I do!, posted by Ray on Mar 17, 2003
Hi Ray, Hang on to the Purple G-string. It will save me shipping costs when Hum screws up and loses a bet! ;o))) Hey, maybe we should send it around to different guys to get photographed in. Then see if Jeff will dedicate a webpage to photos of us guys wearing the infamous purple G-string. On second thought, page or no page...I say we send the photos to Jeff anyway! ROFLMAOTNTSIMMFP!!! Dave H. Title: I think I'll block that site on my Computer! Post by: SteveG on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Keep It!, posted by Dave H on Mar 17, 2003
That could cause nightmares that could warp a guy for life! Title: I think I'll block that site on my Computer! Post by: SteveG on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Keep It!, posted by Dave H on Mar 17, 2003
That could cause nightmares that could warp a guy for life! Title: Well, I wondered about that.. Post by: SteveG on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Nope, I do!, posted by Ray on Mar 17, 2003
My cars are so old and rough it's hard to tell if they have been vandalized but I thought some of the stuff was missing....except for this Purple looking string with a small rag on it. You don't suppose that is the infamous G-string, do ya?? SteveG Title: Could Be... Post by: Dave H on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Well, I wondered about that.., posted by SteveG on Mar 17, 2003
Hey Steve, Sounds like a hemorrhoid pad or a fart muffler. Say...who was wearing my purple G-string. Did it have skid marks on it? ;o))) Dave H. Title: Naw, I don't think so... Post by: Ray on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Well, I wondered about that.., posted by SteveG on Mar 17, 2003
It looked like a used tampon to me, so I left it there... Title: Re: Nope, I do! Post by: Esiang on March 17, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Re: I'm curious? Post by: Esiang on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
Wow, that's good for her, she never spent any penny. Mine I used it whenever I need to buy a necessary thing(like snacks) at the store but I'm not that crazy to spent all the money in it.For what? And I also used it to send money for an emergency of my beloved sister's and jollibee for my ever cute niece and nephews. Up to now living here in the states I always want to buy things very cheap, good thing Walmart gives me discount. back then in the Phils.I was responsible to pay for the apartment rent with the expense of my husband and also for our phone bills and last but not the least I spent the money for our never ending processing immigration,doing all the requirements. Title: Not all of us Post by: Ray on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
"All the guys on this board who have been successful all brag about how little their wives spent..." For the record, I never bragged about it... :-) Ray Title: I stand (hmmm..sit) corrected.....nt Post by: Bear on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM Title: Hey Bear... Post by: Kreeger on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I'm curious?, posted by Bear on Mar 15, 2003
I think his fiance is coordinating their wedding at this time and he is sending her money for that... Title: Re: Hey Bear... Post by: Esiang on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Hey Bear..., posted by Kreeger on Mar 15, 2003
It's true....his fiancee needs money for the preparation of the wedding, he has to send her that money for the wedding or else no wedding lol..... I've been myself a wedding planner of my own in order to avoid another payments for a wedding planner and it was a tight budget including all our paperworks,fedex,gowns,reception,fare for my sister in law and her kids from surigao(which my Mother get mad for doing her request he..he...)etc...etc.... Someday I plan to ask my husband to marry me with my own expense (as it is traditional here for the girl's family expense)but a definitely real simple romantic wedding. Title: Re: Re: Hey Bear... Post by: Peter Lee on March 18, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Hey Bear..., posted by Esiang on Mar 15, 2003
So may i know jus how much you would expect me to pay for a modest wedding in Cebu city. Title: Also... Post by: Dave H on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Hey Bear..., posted by Kreeger on Mar 15, 2003
Hi Kreeger, As I recall, Peter had also agreed with her father to pay her college tuition, besides the wedding expenses. They have met in person and are engaged to be married. Dave H. Title: That's Great! Post by: Dave H on March 15, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to ATM Working, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 15, 2003
Hey Peter, I hope it stays free! :oD My friend at the bank felt sorry for me because of the out of network ATM fees. Then I told her how much Western Union charges. :o) Dave H. |