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Before I'll post, I'm not writing/posting this message with racial prejudice. I believe everyone is equal, regardless of their skincolor. These are just my observations. (Just to make sure we won't end up in a flame war about racism, because I don't intend/it's the last thing I want to happen.)

So far, (almost!) every single guy I know has prefered blonde (or Western for that matter) over Asian. However, they do tell me (I'm Asian, living in a Western country) that Asians are "very attractive, but just not my type".

How come so very few (Caucasian) men fall for Asian women? Is it because they are afraid of the culture? Because it's different and perhaps new to them? And also: how come there are so many Asian men who fall for Western women? Is it because of the media? Are there too little Asian models/movie stars compared to Western models/movie stars?

Why?

Tjien :(

It is my impression that it's pretty much in America, and probably the rest of the New World (especially Latin America) where mixing is generally acceptable by society.  I may be mistaken, but it's my impression that in Europe that the sentiment in each nation is to preserve the original identity of its stock.  Asians in the Netherlands or other European countries are probably regarded as outsiders, compared to the United States or Canada.  Such men, perhaps through social conditioning, are probably aprehensive about courtship with somebody outside their race, but perhaps true desires are repressed.

- Kevin

Whatever nationality, there will be a majority of us who will choose to marry someone of our own kind.  This is the more traditional and socially acceptble thing to do.  Maybe they don't want to bother with the cultural differences as well as the male-female differences couples always encounter.

Mita

There's not a lot of Asians in South Florida. The different nationalities maintain close knit social groups, making it difficult for outsiders to establish a relationship. It is not very common to see Asians involved with non-Asians. Even at the local high school, they tend to congregate together. To make matters more complicated, many Asians here are from the Caribbean and Latin America, adding another cultural twist. It's not unusual to hear Asians speaking Spanish. My brother loves big buxom blondes, but I have always preferred petite darker women...just a matter of taste.

Dave H.

At my school, there are a lot of Asians (almost 30%) and I see very few of them in a relationship with someone non-Asian. We sort of stick together, in a way, and it's true that it would be hard for an outsider to meet someone.

I guess that it scared off the rest of my school... "Oh! She's Asian! Maybe she belongs to that 30% that stick together, let's not approach her."

:(

Tjien

Speaking for myself, blondes may be nice to look at, but they don't smell nearly as good as Asian women do. Yes, even when they are eating dried squid, Asian women smell much better than those blondes :-)

Where are you from?

Ray

Hahaha, I guess I'll have to take your word on that one!

Tjien

Maybe you should ask our resident Dutchman, Windmill Boy, why he prefers Asian ladies :-)

Ray

Tjien

- Kevin

I can just imagine Anna Nicole Smith exploding! She looks like she has been holding it in for months. Poor Howard and purple-haired girl. ;o)))

Dave H.

What?!  What primitive sh!te-hole land are you living in where men would say such things?
Statistically, in America, the most common cross-racial relationships involve black men and white women.  But in California with its large Asian populations, it seemed to me that white men and Asian women couples far outnumbered them.  The only Asian women who remain dateless or eternally single are those whose families forbid them to date outside their ethnicity.
In Asian countries (I'm a Westerner living in an Asian country), it is common knowledge that Western expat women are often left for the most part dateless as their Western brothers pursue the native women. (That is not to say that the Western women aren't desired by the native men, but the native men are often shy and awkward leaving it to the women to be in the uncomfortable role of pursuers to get the ball rolling.)

"how come there are so many Asian men who fall for Western women?"

Hmm, for the most part, it's gotta be the boobs.  Few Asian women have the cleavage to even closely compare to the manga porn fantasy women. (-;

BTW, in the nearly 4 months I've been in Japan, the only Asian man - Western woman couple I've seen was at the Sumo tournament I went to yesterday.  There was a well dressed Japanese businessman with his gorgeous blonde Russian hostess-club (prostitute?) date.  How did I know she was Russian?  When he went to the can, I chatted her up. Dobre dien! Kak dela!  Oh Gawd, am I a glutton for punishment or what! 8-D

I'm from Holland. You'd think we'd be evolved along with the rest of the world, guess we got stuck in the ice-age or something :(

Tjien

When men say, "I prefer blondes," or "she has to be really slender to turn me on," or any other purely physical aspect of women, they're probably pretty immature. It's my contention that most men who are attracted to Asian women are attracted to their attitudes and presence rather than on a purely physical level. Don't get me wrong, Asian women's tendency to be attractive, demure, and slender is certainly a factor, but should be considered as just part of the whole package. After all, women aren't attracted to men's biceps or butts only, no matter what they may scream at Chippendales. To most on this board, and many men I've talked to who prefer Asian women do so because of factors like being feminine, less confrontational, more loyal, and other non-physical characteristics.

If a man tells you that you're not his type, it may be that he's speaking on an immature, purely physical level (in which case, why would you be interested in him in the fiirst place?) or he may be put off by somthing else, but it's certainly not because of a lack of Asian movie stars. I know few guys who don't drool all over Lucy Lieu, Tia Carrere, or Phoebe Cates.

You sound a bit young, and perhaps a bit lonely. The right guy will come along and I'd advise you to stick to your standards. Don't succumb to the level of typical young American women, trying lto act like they're men with hookups, tatoos, foul language, and an attitude that men and women are interchangable in everything (modern feminism.) The truth is they're just not - they're opposite and equal like day and night, hot and cold, yin and yang.

- Jeff S.

I suppose it has to do with how "blondes" act and how "asians" act. I don't mean this the wrong way, but in general, Asians are more reserved when it comes to flirting. (Of course, this is another one of my observations :) There are MANY exceptions of course!)

First impression is pretty much crucial, and I guess that men's expectations of a "fun girl" are easier met when they're more outgoing. It's not that Asians are not outgoing (I'm living proof!), but it's different, I guess... Still, I agree, it should be part of the whole package.

I think guys my age are just impatient when it comes to getting to know a girl :( When their mind is set on something (and in my case, that would be a some "blonde gal" who happened to hop into the picture...), unfortunately they stick to it, regardless of anything really :(

Tjien

When the opportunity arises, we can see that not only are they attractive but by and large they ARE our type (exception being those who have become too radically feminist).

I see from your profile that you are relatively young. I think men your age are attracted to what is exotic (even older men are, but by and large our reasons for interest in women are different). Women of a different race are definitely exotic.

There are as many Asian actors/actresses as western ones. However, few of them have the same promotional assets at their disposal as their western counterparts. There are some exceptions like Jackie Chan and Chow Yun Fat. As for Asian female actresses, I would pick Michelle Yeoh over Julia Roberts ANY day of the week. But that's just me, and everyone has their own personal preference. More importantly, western media tends to just ignore them, out of ignorance, and focus on the western superstars.

Just my opinions, your mileage may vary.

Regards, Tim

Maybe it's different for the men here, though I can't imagine. I mean, men will always be men! No matter where they're from :)

Jon

But everybody has different tastes.  Some in my family have it ingrained in their subconcious that "I have a problem" because of my preferences to southeast Asians (specifically Filipinas).  Some are convinced that if my preferences were for white westerners, then my love-life would be balanced.  On the other hand, I can't comprehend what some guys find attractive in choosing partners.  But I guess it's better that not everybody is attracted to all the same girls (or guys).  If somebody is attractive, there's enough competition anyway, but it is not all 100%.  What one guy may regard as very beautiful, I'd regard as a "plain Jane".

- Kevin

Could that be one of the (main) reasons why Caucasian men do not want/try to get involved with Asian (or any other race than Caucasian) women?

Tjien
(curious)

   There are more Asians on the West coast than most areas of the USA. Perhaps that explains why in my experience Asian women are popular with white men it seems.
I am married to a filipina and I have yet to experience a negative reaction with my friends...usually it is very positive....envy perhaps...then, " Does she have any friends that are single?" I believe that Asian women married to white men is in fact a growing trend...I have heard some US asian men comment on it. There is a large Asian supermarket nearby in Oregon, and the number of Asian woman/white man couples is pretty striking.

My 2 cents worth....

Nathan

Jim

Nathan