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It seems I only come here lately to give you guys bad news.  If some of you are thinking that, think how I feel!

Life just got a little tougher for me.  On Sunday morning, my mother died suddenly.  I take great comfort in the fact that I was with her and she knew I was trying to take care of her when she passed, but this makes things that I thought were tragic look like good times.

Things have been crazy all week and I have wanted to come on here and tell you guys what's going on, but you know me :)

I'm okay.  Each day gets a little easier, but I am on my way to the funeral right now.  I had a few minutes for the first time in a long time, so I thought I spread a little Sunshine the way only I can :)

My mother was the happiest, sweetest person I have ever known.  She had three joys in life.  From the time she was a little girl, she wanted to be a nurse.  When asked why, she would say in the most innocent way, "Because I want to help people".  Her second great joy, against his constant protest :), was her only son whom she named after the father she cherished.  Her goals for me--yes, I am talking about me!  I have no biological brothers :)--were far more simple than the ones I set for myself.  She always promised she'd love me no matter what--a promise she found a way to keep no matter how difficult I tried to make it :)--and she wanted me to live a good life and be happy.  Her third great joy had the best season they have had in eleven years this year!  I am glad she lived to see her Pistons make a remarkable turn around.  Some of us thought we'd never see that in our lifetime, no matter how LONG we were able to hold on :)

She will be missed by so many.  She touched so MANY lives!  But mostly she will be fondly remembered by those of us lucky enough to know her :)

Do me a favor.  For everyone who still can, slow down a second and give your mom a hug.  It will make you feel better and it will make mine smile while she keeps an eye on us from above :)

Sorry to constantly bring you sad news, but I knew that many of you would like to know :)

Keep the Faith!

I'll see you guys soon :)

H

Just be glad your mom was here as long as she was and know
that she will be smiling down and guiding you from heaven.
Friends and family are the most precious things we have and
we should all never take that for granted.
God bless you my friend.
Outwest

Thanks pal... very touching sentiments :)

I am looking at everything that way, the positive rather than negative.  It makes life easier to live and I KNOW that it's what she would tell me if she were sitting here jawing in my ear :)

Thanks for the thoughts man

H

Sorry to hear about your Mom. I did enjoy reading a bit about her though. My own Mom passed away in '94. I wasn't lucky enough to be here for her, though. Consider yourself fortunate in that respect.

Chin up, Bro,
Jay

I do consider myself fortunate that I was able to be with her, even if I could do anything to help her, beyond what I did.

Thanks so much for your condolences

H

Thanks Dennis :)

Yep... I KNOW you speak the truth :)

Give your mom a hug for me :)

H

Me and Mares are so sad.  We remember you mother well.  She has be one of the most gracious persons I've ever met.  Mares remembers the warmth that came from her the momemnt she met her on that visit and was looking forward to see her again.

We'll remember you and your mother in our prayers.

Dan and Ched

Mom really thought highly of you guys :)  She would always tell me how adorable she thought Ched is and how similar she thought you and I were in personality and sense of humor.  She was so looking forward to see your little treasure.  Mom just loved babies so much :)  Tell Mares that I have been able to be strong in dealing with this because Mom has been giving me strength :)  I have had my moments, but for the first time in my life, I didn't try to hide my emotion.  The worst is over and now I mostly smile when I think of her :)  Gracious is a good word :)  She had so much fun meeting you guys.  Know that she is watching over you guys too :)  There was always plenty of Mom's love to go around :)

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Keep the Faith

H

Thanks Bro :)

It means alot :)

H

Humabdos

Sounds like you and your Mother have a very similar relationship to the one I have with mine.  Hug her and all of us will feel a little better :)

H

When my father died I was so shocked.  He was 48 and 2 months (I'll be that in 9 weeks).  He only got to hold his granddaughter in his arms once.  All I could remember was the good die young and thinking, "I sure didn't think he was that good?" (I jest!).  I do remember feeling happy that his pain was over though because he was eaten up with cancer - seven differtent kinds - the pain was unbearable and near impossible to stop.

We wish you could hug your Gerlie now.

Bear and Honey

She knew you didn't see it as a bother, that's why she thought you were so special :)  While there are many here, few people you meet in life will go the slightest distance out of their way for a relative stranger, she was one who devoted her life to it :)  That's why this board has always been so special to me :)

My mother's name is Elizabeth Joyce.  She was just one month past her 62nd birthday.  She moved in with me in July of last year and I will treasure the last ten months that we were able to spend so closely together :)  So many blessings in disguise :)

Thank you, I wish I could hug Gerlie in person now too :)  She's pretty worried about me and sad that she won't get to meet mom in person now :(  It's very hard on her because she is so far away right now, but God willing, that won't always be the case :)

Mom was a great believer in the power of prayer.  She had a long list and many here are on it :)  I think that Mom loved and cared for so many, that she just needed a better view to keep up with all of our lives :)

Keep the Faith

H

But you know what,  nearly 5 years ago,  I lost my mother too and that was when I knew I really had an angel watching over me all the time.....so, you just got one!

My prayers and thoughts are with you, H.

Yeah... Gerlie has very similar feelings and I believe you both :)  I am blessed with friends and family that find ways to love me no matter how difficult I try to make it :)  LOL  You guys here are always in my heart, on my mind and in my prayers :)

Thank You so much :)

H

I feel the same way. Truly she is in a much better place and able to watch over you. Several years ago on All Saints Day, we went with almost 30 family members to pay our respects to Marife's father. When we were preparing to leave the cemetary, Marife's grandfather said that I should ask her father's permission to marry and the family left us so we could be alone. I had felt the same way and had strongly felt his presence as everyone prayed, thought, and talked of him. Though I didn't experience the grilling that I would have endured had he still been alive, I felt that he could now clearly see the truth. There was no hidding what was in my heart. *S*

Dave H.

I  am  sorry  to hear  about  your  mothers  passing  on.  you  are  blessed  that  you  were  able  to  be  present  and  give  her  solice  and comfort  when  it  occured.  my  whole  family  was  able  to  be  together from  around  the  country  the  night  that  my  father passed away years  ago.

Your  mother's  done  good.   Raising  you  to  be  the  the  good hearted  and  thoughtfull  bloke  that  you  are, that  we  all  cherish  around  here.  Your  grief  will pass  and  your  healing  has  already  started knowing  that  you  had  a  secure  and  strong  relationship  with  her.  That  you  are  able  to  express  yourself  so  well in  this  post  shows that you are  well  on your  way.  I  am  sure  that  your  mother  was  content  that  you  have  made it  though  your  previous  ordeal  and  are  on your  way  to a  happier  life.

I  called my  mother  5  minutes  before  I  had  to  run  off  to  work  yesterday  and I  encouraged  her  to  get  outside  to  enjoy  the  weather  even  though  she  is  ill  herself.

Don't  fret,  You  know  that  your  mother is  with  you  even  now  more  than  you  can  imagine.  As  you  will  make decisions  for  yourself in  the  near  future  you  will  ask  yourself subconciously --- well  how  would  mom  approached  this?  Don't  forget  your  friends  here  also,  if  something  is  irking  you  just  give  a  shout  off  to  the  peanut  gallery  and we  will  give  you  some  opinions.  You  can  take  what  you  like  and  laugh  at  the  others.

All the best to you and  ....

KEEP YOUR  FAITH

Windmill Boy

Thanks :)  Very touching post my friend :)

I know you not only speak the truth, but from your heart as always :)

Things will get better for me and I will post more, that a PROMISE :)

Deepest Thanks

H

- Kevin

The power of prayer is something my mother believed greatly in.  Know that we are keeping you in our thoughts as well brutha :)

H

Dave H.

Jim and Sally

We are so very sorry to hear this news. Our heartfelt condolences go out to you, your family, and friends. Thanks for sharring your grief with us. Be strong and cherish those wonderful memories of the most prescious woman you'll ever know...your mother. Who else but our mothers could still love us after all that we do? I lost mine 2 months after my 19th birthday...26 years ago...still miss her. I know that she still looks down upon me, keeps me out of big troubles, and laughs at all of my follies.

Dave and Marife H.

If I do the math right... uhhhhhhhhh... You're OLD!!!  LOL  Hahahaha

You know how fondly I think of you :)  I just wish we got a chance to joke in front of Mom when you guys FINALLY get up this way, I'm sure she would've had to go to the bathroom often with both of us cracking jokes--and other things :) LOL--in the same room :)  LOL  Now you are DEFINITELY coming to dinner with your lovely wife--and who ever else from your possee you bring :)--as my guest so she can see us from her new vantage point :)  She'll still LOVE it :)

BTW  If you're waiting for better weather up here... ummmmmm... HELLO!!!  Michigan... Remember?  LOL

The Faith is Strong :)

H

Hi H,

Thanks! :) It would have been an honor to have met your Mom. But, I'm sure she will still get a real kick out of our "misbehavior!" I'm trying to work out the logistics for a Michigan trip this year. Most of my family have been worried sick about me. They were relieved to find out I've remarried (single 6.5 years) and have someone special to keep me in line. ;o))) My Uncle and Aunt from Kalamazoo were here recently and took lots of photos to prove that I'm OK. :o) I never knew they cared so much... :o))

Dave H.

Thank you for your continued support!  You guys have always been very kind to me :)  Thanks for the cards you have been sending, they always make me smile :)

H

-- Jeff S.

If you have time on your trip, maybe you, me and the brothers "G" (Matt and Jay) can hook up. I've never met a Pediatric Echocardiographer before. But my echocardiographer and her trainee are HOT! 8oP Maybe you can give me a hug too. :o)) Email me if you want. Dhmltn@aol.com

Dave "Bastos" H.

Sorry about your uncle!  Please keep your promise :)  BOTH of our mothers would appreciate it :)

H

Love,
Raquel and Greg

Beautiful sentiments.  VERY touching :)  Your words are kind and wise :)  It's not only the way my mother would like me to look at it, it's the way I do as well :)

My deepest thanks :)

H

-Don and VICKY

Thanks Guys, She was :)

H