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Have any of men tried out GetMarriednow.com?

      If so what was thier service?  (Either good,fair or poor.)

      And Thanks?

... in response to Getmarriednow.com, posted by chefbee on Nov 1, 2003

.. an old fashioned girl who is happy to be a homemaker and take care of her man. If those are indeed your specs, 1) younger and 2) homemaker, you might want to reverse your order of country preference. It seems to me you find more professionals among FSU women who wouldn't be content to stay home and clean house, and they seem less apt to accept a wide age range. All I really know about it is what I read here and elsewhere, though - no personal experience. That said, though, there seem to be plenty of successful marriages between 40, 50, 60, and 70 something American men and 20 something Asian women who want to stay home and keep house. The age spread among successful marriages (those going strong after three or four years) seems to be a bit less with Latinas, and even less yet with FSU women. This coming from a guy who married an Asian women within three years of his own age. Of course, this is just my opinion, I could be wrong.

- Jeff

... in response to Getmarriednow.com, posted by chefbee on Nov 1, 2003

I used them in May-July 2002.  I found their service to be bad.  I didn't receive any responses to emails I sent out to perspective ladies, and I sent out many, for a month after I submitted them.  When I finally did receive responses and replied to several of the women, I immediately got email from their affiliated agencies in the Ukraine and Russia that I needed to send $50 a month to handle translation costs of the letters for the women I was interested in.  When I wrote back and said I was told all services were included in the flat fee, deluxe package I purchased from getmarriednow.com, they wrote back and gave me the sob story about how the women couldn't afford to pay the translations fees, blah, blah, blah.  I then wrote getmarriednow.com directly telling them, that while I understood that the women I was writing to might be econonically challenged, that wasn't my problem as getmarriednow.com had offered a package that was supposed to include translation fees and I shouldn't have to deal with that issue, that was getmarriednow's responsibility.  I then asked them to cancel my membership and not charge me the remaining 3 quarterly payments (they charge your membership to your credit card in four payments, one every three months).  They refused to cancel the membership, but on my credit card statement there was the phone number for the parent company of getmarriednow.com and I called them directly and then challenged their charges with my credit card company and I was not charged anymore quarterly payments, though I didn't get the first one refunded.

... in response to Getmarriednow.com, posted by chefbee on Nov 1, 2003

Maybe a talent agency here will find an actress who can play the part.  I think your best chance of finding June or Donna is on TV re-runs...maybe Nick At Night.  "Pleasantville"?

You are going to need to be a bit more practical in finding a wife.

... in response to June Cleaver & Donna Reed???, posted by tim360z on Nov 3, 2003

She was HOT!!!

... in response to Getmarriednow.com, posted by chefbee on Nov 1, 2003

like tfc -Going off your profile also -

but if the chief reason is to
"have a youger wife like the famous men before you"
and then hope this young hot babe is "traditional " in the june cleaver sense-
i do wish you luck!!  and a bit more luck than just a good agency could muster  ;)

my post wont be PC and perhaps ruffle a few feathers..
but
if you cannot pull a young beautiful wife in your own country and culture..
with plenty of contacts, time, and common language at your disposal -

then IMHO it is very VERY dangerous thing to go to the FSU and marry someone with a different culture, different first language, much younger than you , with very very limited time to actually spend and get to know them!!!

dont read sooooo much "into" the agency bather.

stick to looking for a woman *about* the same as you could date regularly *here* in looks and age range..

likely you will find many and they would be very special sincere women.

if you commonly date beautiful younger girls and have some that would marry you here , but it isnt *right* for you-or not the right one-

then you of course could there also if youd like, but just like here you would need to be more careful of certain aspects of this- and even more so *there* because of the cultural differences as well as economic ones.

does any of this make any sense?

I really dont want to rain on anyones parade :(
all things are possible in love-
but a lil skeptisism and  " if its too good to be true , you should think abiut it more closely"
beats the horror stories we see ?

... in response to Re: Getmarriednow.com, posted by AJ277 on Nov 2, 2003

"stick to looking for a woman *about* the same as you could date regularly *here* in looks and age range".

All I can say to that is WTF are you talking about?  Why would you go to another country if you could get the woman you want here?  Why go to the trouble and expense?

As a man married to a beautiful Colombian woman 16 years younger than me, I can say unequivocally that I couldn’t have gotten my wife if she had been an American.  But that doesn’t mean you can’t expect to find love and happiness with a woman from another country and culture, because the point is, other cultures have different standards about what to look for in a significant other and what constitutes a successful partner.

... in response to Re: Re: Getmarriednow.com, posted by lswote on Nov 3, 2003

[This message has been edited by AJ277]

"stick to looking for a woman *about* the same as you could date regularly *here* in looks and age range".

All I can say to that is WTF are you talking about? Why would you go to another country if you could get the woman you want here? Why go to the trouble and expense?

As a man married to a beautiful Colombian woman 16 years younger than me, I can say unequivocally that I couldn’t have gotten my wife if she had been an American. But that doesn’t mean you can’t expect to find love and happiness with a woman from another country and culture, because the point is, other cultures have different standards about what to look for in a significant other and what constitutes a successful partner.
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This seems a silly argument or discussion?

WTF am i talking about?
- my advice is to date the same general age range and looks you can date herer succesfully.
it seems fairly clear.

this doesnt  say to not date younger women, if you can here then fine.

if you CHOOSE to go to a foriegn land with the main purpose to be finding a younger woman than you could normally date here -
my opiniojn is that it isnt rational or good thinking and your criteria is a little messed up in looking for a wife.
or life partner.

I did NOT say you could get the woman you WANT here??
and i did not say exactly the sanme.
i said "about" the same  and of course ytou havnt found  asoul mate or you wouldnt be expending your serach.

So of course this is the reason to look elsewhere wether it be another city in your country or the world.
but the meaningful first critiria shouldnt be younger and looks far from what you would date "here" if you want to be successful long term.

you married successfully it seems and congrats!
and treally i dont find 16 year  extreem at all.
i would if you couldnt date that age range here or near it. say 10 years.

Tons of guys are successful with greater age gaps,, but most if successful could have pulled the same thing off with a woman of thier own culture.

you stated-"other cultures have different standards about what to look for in a significant other and what constitutes a successful partner"

sure!!  some do , some dont.

this being the Russki forum the statistic dont bear this out in the FSU.
they "generally" marry within 5 years age difference,, perhaos even closer in age than most Americans?

the exceptionms to this are common to most of us.
1.a man of wealth or power
2. a  man of unique character, fame,  or personality
3.a very intelligent man.

in the FSU you will see the wide age gaps in the above situations.
same as the good old USA.

a man with these traits will be able to date such women in any enviroment and country so of course he can a bit more successfully in the FSU as well.

if you go there and use the economic desparity to "pull" a much younger,more beautiful  woman than you could here, then you dance with the devil !!!
because you are on even playinmg ground when she is here.

To deny this or think  otherwise is ignoring basic human traits and emotions.
why do you find a younger woman attractive "in general"
you think women are truely wired so differently LOL

can it work long term ? of course it "can"

is it good to advise someone to use the economic disparity?
because that is CERTAINLY all you are doing with those critiria being "first"

Im not saytng you personally did this at all.
but you are defending a point of view that doesnt seenm that rational.

if you date "about " the same as you would here ,
whatever that mauy be-
your odds
of being successfull long tern are better.
I cant see how you could argue against that ,

why go to the trouble and expense?

are you infering the only reason to go to another country is to get a younger prettier wife?
then why not go to Canada? oh it wouldnt work? why?
Brazil? FSU ehh maybe huh?

if much  younger women  flirt with you here, of course they will over there.
if they run away here., then if you marry one there you will be a lucky SOB if things turn out and should play the lotto more often.

I think the reason to go is because you havnt found the right person for you yet so why not expand your search.
go to find a wife, a good person and match for you that destiny lucjk and fate have not had you meet yet.
the more people you meet -
you increase your odds of finding someone truely compatable.

Let me get this straight-
your advice is for me to go to the FSU of all places , where culture and language is strange and i have little face to face time in reality , ,
to get a wife much younger and prettier than i could here.
why? because i can, and why else spend the time money anbd expence!!

Hey! Sounds like a recipe for a long happy marriage.
Da!Kaneshna!
ya sebarYitz pravda c'chess!
 ;)

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Getmarriednow.com, posted by AJ277 on Nov 3, 2003

.. but yes, people can go find their soul mates overseas with a far bigger age gap than is possible here. What kind of woman do you suppose a 68 year old widowed, retired blue collar worker on a pension with a heart condition, living in suburban Tulsa OK can end up with in the US?

How about a 19 year old, very cute virgin? His name is Carl and he's a regular poster on the Asian board (he was, anyway, hasn't posted much lately) They've now been married over three years and couldn't be happier. Here's what he wrote about her a while back: http://planet-love.com/wwwboard/asian/archives/display.php?archive=000050&id=18823

If that's not what YOU want, fine. Hey, I'm one of the few guys on these boards to marry a woman OLDER than myself. Why?  Love, why else? But I have no trouble with guys like Carl finding their happiness with younger women.

- Jeff

... in response to Not sure I followed all of that, posted by Jeff S on Nov 4, 2003

Jeff?

I simply gave my own opinion and advice on
the mindset i think a guy should have when looking at a cross cultural relationship.

age would be of little concern unless it is far outside his usual dating range or ability.
Then it should be a concern.

seems a simple concept, sorry I dint seem to convey it well.

I'm happy for any that disagree or are successful in other ways..

and I suppose more power to a 68 yo guy who can marry and keep happy a 19 yo phillipino girl.

although i would hope he dint start his search LOOKING for a 19 yo. especially from the FSU.
as it would carry a very high probability of failure for him..;)

but if thats a guys thing,, so be it and good luck.

but no it certainly wouldnt be what i would want or look for.
at 68 i hope to have grandchildren that old - not a wife.
(BTW - i'm not looking, already married)

... in response to ???, posted by AJ277 on Nov 5, 2003

Hey I couldn't agree with you more about seeking a kindred spirit, maturity and life experience-wise. It just sounded like you were implying that you should establish a "baseline" of requirements (age, looks, personality, etc.) by what you were able to date here in the US, and then only seek out that "level" overseas. The reason so many AM head overseas is because the average American man, offering only sobriety, a life without domestic abuse, and middle class lifestyle, has a far bigger potential pool of "takers" there than here. I assume you fit into that category - I sure do. I wasn't satisfied with the quality of women I was dating here (not necessarily age and looks, but character and personality) so headed overseas and was able to find a beautiful, high class women, who was eager to be my partner rather than my personal drill instructor.

- Jeff

... in response to Getmarriednow.com, posted by chefbee on Nov 1, 2003

where you said that "you wanted a wife like June Cleaver,
Harriet Nelson, or Donna Reed".
This is interesting...however these ladies were from Hollywood sir, not Russia.
I don't know much about getmarriednow but if you see any
photos of a lady in an apron..well, there you go...
;) Karl