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What has been the experience of everyone about the age requirements posted on the different web sites. If the womans biodata states a max. of 35 or 40 years old is that usually written in stone. What about a 2-3-4 years difference. I agree that everyone is not the same but I am asking for general experience.I am back to square one getting list of possible woman to write and then go to see May.It will be to St. Petersburg and  Volgograd.  

Thanks

... in response to Experience of posted age requirements., posted by Watcher on Feb 14, 2003

That are lookin for a guy under 40!

Dream on.

... in response to I love some of these 33 to 35 year olds...., posted by ChrisNJ on Feb 15, 2003

How about the American girls.  When you go to Match.com or Yahoo Personal, you see girls at their mid to high 30s looking for guys of high 20's to low 30's.  I am surprised at guys to even reply to these girls!  But at the same time it sounds kind of sad the what a lot of guys in this country are going through!

... in response to Re: I love some of these 33 to 35 year o..., posted by Max on Feb 16, 2003

Ofcourse they never found me to be very "solete" to begin with.

... in response to Experience of posted age requirements., posted by Watcher on Feb 14, 2003

My opinion is you should NOT ignore the woman's stated preferences re age or anything else.  Sure, you may see it as some sort of a challenge and she may even go for it when you apply the charm.  You and she may even marry.  But, she will always have in the back of her mind that she settled for something that she did not initially wish to accept.

Sooner or later those feelings will come out.  During the first big blow out argument, you are certain to hear about it, and it will always be lingering there in the background from that time on.

Same goes from your side when you accept something you really didn't want.  You will always be thinking . . . God I wish I had just waited a little longer for the gal who had quality X or did not have quality Y.

JR

... in response to Do NOT ignore, posted by juio99 on Feb 15, 2003

......just waited a little longer for the gal who had quality X or did not have quality Y."

They all make it sound as if it's chisled in stone. As if marrying a particular R/W means 100% it'll be the last marriage you'll ever had. As if thy're stuck with her for life, it'll be a fairy tale, never end, better be 500% sure she's "the one".

Just the way they felt about their first wife the day they married her huh? You'd think guys with at least one divorce would know better. Or at least understand life doesn't always do what you want and thats how most of them ended up here in the first place.

Only allowed one marriage ya know, gotta be Miss Perfect the first time, yada, yada...ad nauseum. I swear, you folks just kill me sometimes....

... in response to "God I wish I had..., posted by LP on Feb 17, 2003

Hi LP

You might be just a little to subtle for me here, but let me clarify.  I was referring to 'qualitative' aspects like age, height, etc. in my post.

And, if you are referring to me, I don't have a divorce in my history.

JR

... in response to Re: "God I wish I had..., posted by juio99 on Feb 18, 2003

Sorry, I meant to type 'quantitative.'

... in response to Re: Re: "God I wish I had..., posted by juio99 on Feb 18, 2003

....is it? You seem confused now. ;-)

My point was that most of these young guys think no matter what they do, no matter what steps they take, their first marriage will be their last. Or their next marriage will be their last. The odds are it ain't so and an FSU womam won't change that. They're living in the fantasyland of youth. Everyone feels it'll last the day they take the vows, who hasen't? But not many do last, and I ain't talkin about a few years. It's best just to accept you'll be put through the mill more than once in your life, to deny this flies in the face of common sense. lol, as if they're here because they were innocent in the last one that exploded on them.

... in response to Do NOT ignore, posted by juio99 on Feb 15, 2003

four years and a great many arguments later, I'm still waiting to hear about it.

... in response to Experience of posted age requirements., posted by Watcher on Feb 14, 2003

I will say this based on my conversations with many RW.  While there are some notable exceptions, in general they are becoming more sophisticated about their options, and IN GENERAL are less willing to consider a man more than 10 years older, no matter what they write in their profile.  However, that being said, I agree with the posts below that if you see someone you like, go for it.  You will find out very quickly if for this particular woman your age is a factor.  Whatever you do, don't lie about your age.  She will find out eventually, and that could be painful for you.

... in response to Re: Experience of posted age requirement..., posted by Charles on Feb 15, 2003

less than 10 years older than the 18-25 year old women? Not so many on this board that's for sure!

Those men are still chasing the available women in their own countries, and generally are not available to these women, and these women know this well enough, they understand that usualy they will have to accept an age difference of at least ten years if they want to marry a foriegn man.

The first question your GF will be asked when she tells her family and friends shes dating a foriegn man is; How old is he?

... in response to Where are the men?, posted by Pordzhik on Feb 15, 2003

If this board (and some of the other boards) are any indication, there are very few guys under the age of 35 involved in this. At least from America.  

I think that money is probably a factor in this.  I know when I was younger I certainly could not have afforded this unless I had given up something.  I had student loans to pay off,  down payments for a house to come up, had to buy that first new car, etc..  Not to mention the fact that I did not make near the money I do now.

By the way I think I might be the oddball.  I am 44 and the woman I am going to see this trip is 42 :-)

... in response to I have to agree..., posted by Philb on Feb 15, 2003

No, Phil, don't forget me.  I'm 50 and my girl is 45.  For my dough, this works for me, although many have broken the "age rules" and come out smiling.

... in response to I have to agree..., posted by Philb on Feb 15, 2003

There's plenty of smokin hot FSU ladies in their forties!

For example:  http://www.antonsintro.net/ladies/ys8311.shtml

She may be 47 but her butts not a day over 22.  At least from that angle.

... in response to Experience of posted age requirements., posted by Watcher on Feb 14, 2003

I just got off the phone, was talking to a lovely girl from Belarus for 2.5 hours, Saturday special rates :) That girl is 25.On the form she submitted to the agency, she said that she stated the maximum age of her prospective partner as 100, she said she did that as a joke of some kind. Well, on the website I got her address from the maximum age was changed to 45.
  I visited a girl in Russia last November, the website that I got her address from stated that she was looking for a man up to 45 years old. When I asked her about it, she shook her head and said: nah.. (I take it she meant that 45 was too old for her). That girl was 26.
  Well, go figure...
id

... in response to Experience of posted age requirements., posted by Watcher on Feb 14, 2003

why let them stop you?

I was three years over my wifes stated age range and two inches taller than her spec. But I've never been a man to allow little details to stand in my way, and introduced myself as such when I first wrote.

It's the same in all areas of life.

I've had successful job applications when I didn't meet the spec, just pointed out some of my other qualities.

... in response to Details, little details, posted by Pordzhik on Feb 15, 2003

100% right.  Point out the positives and take it from there.  As long as it is really close with no show stoppers you are fine.  A show stopper is something that you do not have that is a must for her - or vice-versa.  An example is a guy who wants a girl without kids.  If she has kids she is out - period.

... in response to Right Attitude, posted by Bobby Orr on Feb 15, 2003

Now that would make an interesting topic for discussion.

What are/were your show stoppers BEFORE you decided to write a lady?

Mine were; children, english skills, race, exotic religions, weight, ease of travel.

Others would no doubt list things like eye/hair colour, education, beauty etc.

Had I been a single parent, I think I would've looked for a lady with a child also.

... in response to Show Stoppers, posted by Pordzhik on Feb 15, 2003

Mine were the same as yours, but I would add height because some of them are too tall for me.

... in response to Experience of posted age requirements., posted by Watcher on Feb 14, 2003

I have not ever initiated correspondance with a woman who's stated age requirement I did not meet.  But,I have had a lot of women who were younger then the age range stated in my personal ads write to me.  Most of them I ignored, a few I responded to with a thanks no thanks, one was persistant and I am still corresponding with her. Although, at this point she would be a back up in case things don't work out with the woman I am going to see.  I think if a lot of things other then age seem to mesh in a profile why not give it a shot?