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Hello all,
I found those questions rather compelling, alas they're kaput from the archives. I'd thought, with Patrick revamping the search, I would be able to find them. I would be very grateful, if someone could re-post them.

Thanks,

Vaughn

... in response to Might anyone still have the 50 questions..., posted by BURKE89 on Sep 8, 2002

14 Things To Talk About On A Date
by Rabbi Shraga Simmons

A big problem in finding the right person to marry is the inane way we
often date. First, we sit in a dark theatre to ensure we'll learn little
or nothing about each other. Then, as quickly as possible, we become
sexually involved - and any remnant of conversation ceases. After all
what more is there to talk about, "it might ruin things!"

There are many good ways to find out who someone is. The first and best
way is to talk to them. Ask: "who are you," "what do you care about,"
"what are your goals and priorities," "do you want to have children,"
"how do you think you'd raise them?"

These questions are a lot more revealing than "what's your favorite
restaurant," or "do you like Woody Allen?"

Here's our A-list of things to talk about on a date. Of course, don't
pull out an index card and start reading off the list. It has to
naturally flow into the conversation. And relax, one question per date
might just be plenty.

1. Who do you most admire? How do they inspire you?

2. What has been the most satisfying achievement of your life?

3. Tell me about your family. How it was growing up in your house? How
would you have changed the way you were raised?

4. How do you envision your home to look?

5. Tell me about a really great marriage that you've seen.

6. Is there something you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why
haven't you done it?

7. What is your most treasured possession?

8. Where do you see yourself in 10 years from now?

9. What do you think is your greatest strength? Greatest weakness?

10. What do you think you really need to work on before you can achieve
your full potential?

11. What kinds of things get you angry or depressed?

12. How do you like being Jewish?

13. Why do you want to get married?

14. Do you think O.J. did it?

Here's the 50 questions before marriage:

Helpful Marriage Similarities

1. socio-economic background of family
2. Intelligence
3. formal Education
4. verbal skills
5. expected roles for both persons within the marriage
6. views about power distribution within the family
7. desired number of children
8. when a family should be started
9. child-rearing views
10. political philosophy
11. views about smoking, alcohol and drugs
12. amount of involvement with in-laws
13. sense of humor
14. punctuality
15. dependability
16. desire for verbal intimacy and ability to be intimate
17. the role of conflict and how to resolve it
18. the way to handle anger
19. how friendships with the opposite sex should be handled
20. expected amount of privacy and rules for its use
21. level of ambition
22. life goals
23. attitudes about weight
24. faith and spiritual beliefs and preferences
25. amount of church involvement
26. family spiritual involvement
27. hobbies and interests
28. type of music enjoyed
29. energy level for physical activities
30. sexual drive and sexual interests
31. amount of income to be spent and saved
32. how money should be allocated - clothes, vacations, etc.
33. amount of money to be given away and to whom
34. degree of risks to be taken with investments
35. attitudes about cleanliness - house, clothes, body, etc.
36. ways of handling sickness
37. health standards - when to see a doctor
38. interpersonal and social skills
39. amount of and type of social involvement preferred
40. geographical area in which to live
41. size and style of house
42. type of furniture and decorations
43. amount and type of travel preferred
44. how to spend vacations
45. how to celebrate major holidays
46. how much time to spend together
47. when to go to sleep and get up
48. temperature of home during the day and night
49. activity during meals - talking, watching TV, etc.
50. television programs preferred

... in response to Re: Might anyone still have the 50 quest..., posted by mdb on Sep 8, 2002

I posted the complete list sent by the original poster.  Not all apply, obviously, but give a few different slants that can be modified.

... in response to Might anyone still have the 50 questions..., posted by BURKE89 on Sep 8, 2002

Helpful Marriage Similarities
(50 questions, marriage questions)
1. socio-economic background of family
2. Intelligence
3. formal Education
4. verbal skills
5. expected roles for both persons within the marriage
6. views about power distribution within the family
7. desired number of children
8. when a family should be started
9. child-rearing views
10. political philosophy
11. views about smoking, alcohol and drugs
12. amount of involvement with in-laws
13. sense of humor
14. punctuality
15. dependability
16. desire for verbal intimacy and ability to be intimate
17. the role of conflict and how to resolve it
18. the way to handle anger
19. how friendships with the opposite sex should be handled
20. expected amount of privacy and rules for its use
21. level of ambition
22. life goals
23. attitudes about weight
24. faith and spiritual beliefs and preferences
25. amount of church involvement
26. family spiritual involvement
27. hobbies and interests
28. type of music enjoyed
29. energy level for physical activities
30. sexual drive and sexual interests
31. amount of income to be spent and saved
32. how money should be allocated - clothes, vacations, etc.
33. amount of money to be given away and to whom
34. degree of risks to be taken with investments
35. attitudes about cleanliness - house, clothes, body, etc.
36. ways of handling sickness
37. health standards - when to see a doctor
38. interpersonal and social skills
39. amount of and type of social involvement preferred
40. geographical area in which to live
41. size and style of house
42. type of furniture and decorations
43. amount and type of travel preferred
44. how to spend vacations
45. how to celebrate major holidays
46. how much time to spend together
47. when to go to sleep and get up
48. temperature of home during the day and night
49. activity during meals - talking, watching TV, etc.
50. television programs preferred

... in response to Here it is from my archives, posted by BubbaGump on Sep 8, 2002

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