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As everyone knows I am engaged to a beautiful women from Russia. The time difference betweeen her city and mine is 18 hours. Each morning when I get up there is an email from her when she goes to bed.

This morning's email was a disturbing letter about her being attack last night while walking home from her English class. Her classes are only 3 blocks from her flat and as she approached her building a man of college age attacked her from behind, knocked her to the ground and tried to steel her purse. After he knicked her down and sat on top of her he grabbed at the purse and tried to pull it out of her hands and in doing so broke one of the handle straps. She held on with all of her strength and started screaming for help. At this point he hit her 2 times giving her a bloody nose and lip. No one was insight to help and I am not sure that anyone would have helped her anyway. Luckily a car turned into the parking area and he ran off without her purse.

When I read this heart crashing letter I called her immediately and tried to offer as much love and support as I could. Can you imagine how difficult it is to only be able to help over the phone or through email letters. To know that you are 5000 miles away and she is hurt physically and emotionally. Do you know how difficult it is to hear the love of your life cry uncontrolably. I have never felt so helpless in all of my life. The only saving grace is that she has her own computer so I can write as many times as I can. I can't imagine what it would be like if she was without a computer and I could only correspond with her ocassionally at the Internet cafe.

We are scheduled to meet in St. Pete in 2 weeks. The best I can do is write several times a day, call her when are time tables match and hope that she can hang on until I get there in 2 weeks.

Dalton

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

I was listening to the police scanner the other day and someone was robbed.  The robbers were hiding under their car and when they got close they grabbed the ladys feet and slashed her lower legs with carpet/box cutter knifes.

Can you imagine that!  No doubt, you'd give those robbers everything you had....just so you could get to the hospital!

Bunch of sicko' out there.

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

I'm sorry about your girlfriend, but this brings up another question.  

If we send a RW/UW money, should she keep very quiet about it or risk becoming a crime victim?  If they move to the US and you send her parents money, should they also keep quiet?  In other words, have them always keep a low profile.

... in response to This brings up a relevant concern I have, posted by BubbaGump on Dec 7, 2001

My wife is very afraid to travel to Moscow and her home town with her daughter.  When visiting, she makes sure that babushka NEVER leaves the grand daughter alone since she is worried that some of the 'mafia' may decide to kidnap the daughter to extort money from her American husband.

Same thing goes for sending money to babushka.  Once someone knows a woman is married to a foreigner, family and friends can become a target.

Remember, $1000 is no big deal for us, but can mean life or death in the FSU, so things like kidnapping become much more of a temptation there.  After all, what AM wouldn't send $1000 to ransom his fiancee, wife or child?  So, from the kidnappers perpective, it is easy pickings with virtually no risk.

Stevo

... in response to This brings up a relevant concern I have, posted by BubbaGump on Dec 7, 2001

To surrender that purse.  Since it is winter time out, she should have a smaller purse which she can put under her coat and out of sight.

A purse can be replaced...

Where are you going to get her over here?

... in response to Re: It would have been easier, posted by wsbill on Dec 7, 2001

I ended the last relationship because the girl seemed to be scamming me.  I just about have enough vacation to take another trip in a few months.  I expect to start writing girls again soon and take a couple of 1 week trips in the spring and summer. Vacation time is the limiting factor but if my company keeps having financial problems maybe we'll have a couple of forced vacations again next year.

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

... I like her spirit Dalton.  The girls got spunk.  I think you got yourself a great girl there and I wish you both the best,  ya' know most good women know the quality of their man, by how he performs in the bad times,  not the good times,  I am sure you will do well,  Tim

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

Ever see it?
Set her up for some Tai Chi classes.
This non-sence happens everywhere.
Keep posting......
Good Luck & Happy Holidays
Karl

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

Thanks everybody for all the kind words and support. I have already emailed the local florist and order 13 red roses and a very large Polar Bear. Luckily I have used the florist before and have the name of the owner to send the money to via Western Union.

I know that things could have been alot worse than they were. She was not killed, raped, severely beaten and she still has her purse with her passport.

It was late in the evening when it happened and she was so shaken that she didn't call the police. she will do so today, not that it will do any good. I have met the authorities in her city when i registered my passport. I would not want to meet up with them in a dark alley. They should've had a big sign on thier forehead saying "MAFIA, I WILL TAKE ANY BRIBE OFFERED".

I'm quit sure that she will get over this in time and as I said things could have been alot worse.

Thanks for the kind words and heart felt support.

Dalton

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001


I worked in the Hammer center (it is center of Moscow) and I left work at about 6.30 p.m. (not late). I walked to the metro when somebody knocked me in my back and I fell down. When I recovered I saw two boys running across the road and one of this boys carried my purse. I had to return to the office because I had no money for a transport as well as my face was broken and I needed at least to wash it.

So I came back to the office. My boss was in shock, he gave me money for a taxi and called a police. They came at once and I had a talk to them. The officer said that the boys were 11 y.o., they knew them very well but couldn't do anything with them (according to the law they cannot be responsible for anything), only to tell them each time "Hey, boy, it's wrong what you are doing, don't do it again!". Parents of boys were alcoholics, so it was useless to talk to them.

The funny thing was that on that day my boyfriend called me and said he would like to come to me. I told him I was tired and didn't look good for a date. But he insisted and I agreed. When I came home and he opened the door to me the first words he said were: "Yeah, my dear, you really don't look very good" and we both laughed.

The worse thing about this accident was that I hit my teeth. Next day I went to the dentist, he made the necessary tests and the results were not good. He said we would have to repeat the tests in two weeks and if nothing would improve I would probably loose those teeth. Fortunately everything went o'kay but waiting for 2 weeks was not very pleasant...

I know you don't feel good now but life is life and what happened to your girlfriend was not the worse what could happen. She will recover emotionally and physically soon and in some time you both just forget this episode. I wish that what happened to her was the worst thing in the life of you both.

Take care,

Tootsie

... in response to Similar story happened to me a few years..., posted by Tootsie on Dec 7, 2001

Are you still in Moscow?
Please update your profile.
Thanks always for posting.
Happy holidays...........Karl

... in response to Tootsie..., posted by tfcrew on Dec 7, 2001

Yes, I'm still in Moscow :( or :). Very cold here. Brrrr....

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

My Friend in Lugansk was on the bus coming home from college.  The bus was packed.  A person cut her purse with a knife and ran off with her wallet, passport and college test book.  No she was not hurt but the crime is just getting way out of hand.  People just have no way of protection.  Maybe they can get some mace or stun gun or something I don't know..

Ryan

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

That is terrible.   I hope she is ok.   What town does she live in?

Robert D.

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

There is always a strong instinct to protect ones woman and family. Most certainly the feeling of helplessness would have to plague you at this time. I can appreciate what you are going through.

I know that what I am going to say does not erase this event but, there is nothing much you can do other than what you are planning. You need to consider focusing on being thankful that things were not worse. It could have been much worse.  However, with her directly you need to just focus on your support for her as you are. You are fortunate that it will not be long that you will be with her.

I agree with sending her flowers at this time.

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

fff

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

right now she probably needs your email and phone support and to know you care,  more than anything else in this world.  Yeah!  Helpless---but it could have been worse for her.  And for you....so hang in there Dalton,  Best,  Tim

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

Dalton,

I'm not good with words, but I'm terribly sorry to hear this :(.

It must have been horrible news for you to get in your e-mail box, and I'm sure everyone feels for both of you.

No doubt write her as often as you can, call her as often as possible, gosh, maybe have someone bring her flowers for you, anything!

Looking on the brighter side for the moment, you have to admire her strength and resolve to hang onto that purse, considering that's what the man wanted bad enough to attack her. Let us at least be thankful the man didn't use something worse than hands, i.e. a weapon.

Dalton, best wishes to you and your fiance, and hope you have a good visit in 2 weeks.

-Deckard

... in response to The worst day of my Life, posted by Dalton Brooks on Dec 7, 2001

Dalton,

Be strong and keep doing what you are doing.

How about sending her some flowers?  Maybe a little teddy bear along with it.  There are some sites on the internet that will do it.  Give it a shot.  Something from you to her!

By the way....Here is my phone number when I will be in St.Pete.  314-5852.  I will be there on Sunday the 23rd.  Call and we will hook up.

Still lurking
BrianC

... in response to Re: The worst day of my Life, posted by BrianC on Dec 7, 2001

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