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Title: I find it sad.... Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM that an intelligent beautiful yet modest person like me can't get a man. What is it with me? I'm not a dragon b****, I'm not inflicted with PMS every day(only 23 times a month)I'm getting too old too go back into the dating scene. I'm thinking of different ways to meet nice decent men, any suggestions? I don't like niteclubs, I don't like personal ads and I don't like chatting on the net. For you guys it's easy, all you have to do is go overseas and find a wife.
Title: Ambi. Before you and I go any farther with... Post by: John on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
... our relationship, there are a couple questions I'd like to ask you. First, if I told you I would think it best if we abstain from sexual intercourse until we became married, would you have a problem with this? Second, explain to me in moderate detail what an ideal week would be for YOU, given the situation that you and I are married. John xo Title: Re: Ambi. Before you and I go any farther with... Post by: Ambi on February 19, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Ambi. Before you and I go any farther wi..., posted by John on Feb 17, 2001
Hmmm, I love a man with confidence!!!A week in my presence will force you to have cold showers every 6 mins. Why? because I believe in abstaining from sex for life and I'm so incredibly sexy , will drive you crazy! Title: Re: I find it sad.... Post by: Windmill Boy on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Suggestions ... 1.) Offer to cook a somewhat Gourmand meal for any guy who will go grocery shopping with you and pay for the ingredients that is bound to weed out 75% of the undisirables ha ha ha. 2.) All the usual Dear Abbey / Ann Landers outdated suggestions like attend churches, synagogues, temples, book burning rallies etc. or get involved with Charities, Start your own Charity for that matter (Ie the human fund --thank you george costanza from sienfeld) who ever contibutes to it at least shows you that they have some charector. 3.)Offer to buy a pint / case / keg of beer to any guy at the pub who can recite the 10 commandments backwards, or who can tell you 5 dirty limericks without swearing. or can will read 3 stanza's of the corneyist romantic poetry you hand him in front of his mates. then you might have a keeper.
Windmill Boy Title: Re: I find it sad....AsianGirl Post by: greg on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Hehehehe, this you...Mr. Peabody Title: Uhhh no Post by: AsianGirl on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I find it sad....AsianGirl, posted by greg on Feb 17, 2001
Check the ISP...it's from Australia :-) Title: Re: I find it sad.... Post by: humabdos on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Hey Ambi can you send me your pic ? I'll send you mine if you like. Who knows ? Title: Re: Re: I find it sad.... Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I find it sad...., posted by humabdos on Feb 16, 2001
Did I mention I also want a guy that's NOT superficial? Although I am attractive (many drunks tell me so)I don't like the idea that people judge me for my looks. Title: Re: Re: Re: I find it sad.... Post by: humabdos on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Wait a min! Who said I was judging you by your looks! Are you telling me that if I were butt ugly you would still be interested in me? You already said you were attractive so whats to hide? I have a feeling your just like all the rest of the Kano women ! stuck up! Title: Yes, it's sad.... Post by: Jimbo on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
But, IMO, many Western women set themselves up for this disappointment. Many times I've seen a personal ad that reads like: "SWF seeks sincere, caring, honest, romantic, athletic, upwardly mobile, never-married SWM; 6'0" - 6'2", 190 - 205 lbs., 28 - 33 years old, Masters degree or higher; should be at ease in jeans or three piece suit, down-to-earth but knows how to enjoy the finer things in life, and appreciates a strong woman as his equal but knows when to pamper her as a lady." When this woman is asked why she limits her search so as to eliminate 99.7% of the available male population, the response sounds something like "Because I refuse to lower my standards!" (Asiangirl comes to mind). Later in life, say the mid-to-late thirties, the "standards" come down. But by then she has aquired enough baggage, both mental and physical, to ensure that her odds of finding a "decent" guy are similar to her chances of dying from a bee sting. Jim Title: Nah..... Post by: AsianGirl on February 19, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Yes, it's sad...., posted by Jimbo on Feb 16, 2001
We just want to be able to provide our future children with a very decent life, such as send them to a religious school that isn't in the inner city, and have the right connections to the right families. Don't forget that this has been going on for generations. There are just more people who have money now. Title: Don't Forget "Full Head of Hair"...n/t Post by: yorktr on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM Title: Re: Yes, it's sad.... Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Yes, it's sad...., posted by Jimbo on Feb 16, 2001
If I had to take out a personal ad, it would be something like this " Beautiful women seeks emotionally unstable man with no prospect. Likes watching sport all day and drinks beer. Must have an iq of 75+ and must want an uncommitted relationship". Who knows, reverse psychology may work. You never get what you want so why not ask for something you don't want. There's a scientific term for that, its called the OPPOSITE continumum affect. *can anyone tell I'm BSing*?? Title: Re: Re: Yes, it's sad.... Post by: humabdos on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Yes, it's sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Which part are you joking about ? The beautiful women part ;0) Title: Re: Yes, it's sad.... Post by: FL on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Yes, it's sad...., posted by Jimbo on Feb 16, 2001
And you'll never meet these ladies anywhere. Their either "walking on the beach", "at the gym" or "snuggled in front of the fireplace"(things they love to do). The last line usually reads " outer looks count, but not as important as inner beauty, don't bother to respond without a photo" The "intro" letter(e-mail, photo not included) I used to send, to AW's, I received two replies out of maybe 100 sent. When I sent the same letter to filipinas, it was about 70 responses out of some 100 sent, all this over a two year period and some 3-400 letters sent world wide. Success, for me, didn't come with the increase in replies, it came from the one reply I was hoping for and knew would come. I was casually writing to 6-7 ladies when "she" wrote in response to my letter..."love at first write", now 100 days into the "Nebraska crawl" Title: Re: Re: Yes, it's sad.... Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Yes, it's sad...., posted by FL on Feb 16, 2001
That ain't surprising, lets say if I were to write to 10 men in australia, (no naked pic of me included of course)I'll get only 1 or 2 responses, but if I write to a poor country overseas I'll garantee you that I will get 10/10 responses. At the end of the day, it's not the quantity of the response, it's the person and their motivations for reponding. Title: Re: Re: Re: Yes, it's sad.... Post by: humabdos on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Yes, it's sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Just give up then Ambi why try? Maybe you should get some gold fish and a vibrater! lol Title: Hey Humabdos... Post by: Dave H on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Re: Yes, it's sad...., posted by humabdos on Feb 17, 2001
It is time to update your profile and throw out that bitter part. LOL Don't forget to buy the judge a nice Christmas present this year. :o)) It is nice to see that you have Ambi's presents all picked out. Dave H. Title: Re: Hey Humabdos... Post by: humabdos on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Hey Humabdos..., posted by Dave H on Feb 17, 2001
Good idea! I'm going to do that now! I am no longer bitter and ready to move on. What I need is a good dive trip! muff diving that is LOL ;-0~ Title: Nice Update! Post by: Dave H on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Hey Humabdos..., posted by humabdos on Feb 17, 2001
Humabdos, Don't forget your snorkel. :o) Sure...now you're going to change your name, just when I learned how to spell it. How about Kuya? Big Brother...(is watching you). Dave H. Title: Maybe... Post by: Dave H on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Re: Re: Yes, it's sad...., posted by humabdos on Feb 17, 2001
Hey Humabdos, What about a gold vibrator that smells like a fish? :o)) Sorry ladies, I just couldn't resist. "Rotten" Dave H. Title: Re: Yes, it's sad....Jim Post by: greg on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Yes, it's sad...., posted by Jimbo on Feb 16, 2001
hehehehe, very good Post, right on the money hehehe. Peabody Title: Re: I find it sad.... Post by: Lori on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
have you ever thought of going oversea's to find a husband? This route is not for men only, and it definatly is not easy either. It takes alot of hard work and committment. Title: Re: Re: I find it sad.... Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: I find it sad...., posted by Lori on Feb 16, 2001
No, never thought about it. plus don't know the way to do it either. There are many problems I can forsee. 1. Communication I'm 100% asian, but was born in australia, I don't speak any asian language therefor communication is a big problem. The quality of the relationship will be lessen if I can't speak to my future hubby. Besides so many problems involved I think I'll rather remain single for another 2 centuries, perhaps then I may get lucky. Title: No, it's not easy for men either Post by: jon on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
I've been at this for 2 years, have written to about 35 women, and even went to the Philippines. Nothing has worked out for me. I would not call it easy for men. Jon Title: Re: No, it's not easy for men either Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to No, it's not easy for men either, posted by jon on Feb 16, 2001
I think its more easy for men because they look for different things then women. Men just want someone who is good looking, whereas women want someone who is intelligent, emotionally well adjusted,committed AND good looking. Thus its harder for women to find all of those things. For me personally, I can get over the goodlooking part only if I know what they're like inside. If they have a GREAT personality then looks don't matter to me. But on the other hand if they're great looking and have the personality of a peacock, no thanks. Title: I've been set straight Post by: jon on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: No, it's not easy for men either, posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Ambi, Thanks for lumping me into your assessment of all men and telling me what I really want. It's all clear to me I believe the looks are highly over rated. Actually, what you described is what I am looking for with the addition Jon Title: Re: I've been set straight Post by: Ambi on February 19, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I've been set straight, posted by jon on Feb 16, 2001
Who's knows, one day you'll be as englightened as I am (hehehe)Although I do hope that there is at least ONE men out there that can overlook superficiality but the reality is, to my feeble mind, most and i said most, not all wants a good looking woman. Title: Re: No, it's not easy for men either Post by: Cecil on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to No, it's not easy for men either, posted by jon on Feb 16, 2001
Hi Jon, I just wanted to say to you to be encouraged. The Philippines reminds me of the story of scientists who showed a young boy two rooms. One was filled with all kinds of toys imaginable. The other room was filled with manure. The boy was asked to choose a room. Immediately the boy ran to the room filled with manure and he was overjoyed. Afterwards the researcher asked the boy why he choose the room filled with manure instead of the one filled with toys. The boy said I figured with all that manure there must be a pony in there. Well, I am still looking for that pony! Take care. Cecil Title: Ick, ponies?! That's sick! Post by: jon on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: No, it's not easy for men either, posted by Cecil on Feb 16, 2001
Besides, I already have a parot. :) Yes, I know what you mean. Eveything has it's own time and cannot be rushed. Why do I have to wait till I'm old and fat? Wait...I'm already old. hey, why are my pants tight... Jon Title: Is it easy? No... Post by: cc on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to I find it sad...., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
You can meet decent men! Participate in activites where you are likely to meet men - and yes, avoid the bars! A few words about "us" looking for Asian wifes: It's not, like every single guy here flies to the Philippines, finds a wife and lives happily thereafter! This website has had well over 3 million visitors during the past 3 years - I have been following it pretty much from the start and would say, there were about 10, maybe 20 "success stories" reported here. If you read the archives, you will find the same names over and over, the "regulars" as we call them ;-) I am certain there are several more "unreported" success stories but I also personally know a number of Filipina-American couples whose marriage is not happy... Is it easy? No! Can it be done? Yes! Good luck to you! Title: Re: Is it easy? No... Post by: Ambi on February 16, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Is it easy? No..., posted by cc on Feb 16, 2001
er..um, I'm not thinking about marrying a flipino lady EVER so I don't have to worry about that. I don't know, is interracial marriage such a good thing? Title: Interraccial Marriage? Post by: Dave H on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Is it easy? No..., posted by Ambi on Feb 16, 2001
Ambi, What do you find wrong with interracial marriage? Many people are not 100% pure, like you. What race would you have them marry? I can tell you from personal experience, that everyone looks very much the same on the inside, with the exception of the differences between male and female. All of the organs are in the same places and the blood is red. Many things that we perceive as racial, are actually cultural or regional differences. There is no more than a 0.03% difference in the DNA of all human beings. The differences in DNA between Europeans and Asians is less than 0.02%. In other words...we are all related. Dave H. Title: Re: Interraccial Marriage? Post by: Jimbo on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Interraccial Marriage?, posted by Dave H on Feb 17, 2001
Hi Dave, That's a good point about races - when people make reference to race, most people are actually referring to nationality. There are only three human races: Negroid, Caucasoid, and Mongoloid (and in some systems, Australoid). These races are not pure in any meaningful sense, given that humans have been migrating and intermingling for hundreds of centuries. Jim Title: Inside looking out... Post by: Dave H on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Interraccial Marriage?, posted by Jimbo on Feb 17, 2001
Hi Jim, People are probably wondering how I know what people look like on the inside. =:o0 Should I tell them what the "H" stands for? Dave H. (Hannibal) Title: hannibal in a purple g-string........ Post by: Lori on February 18, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Inside looking out..., posted by Dave H on Feb 17, 2001
oh my goodness...now that's funny!!!!!!!!! Title: Maybe you should... Post by: Jimbo on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Inside looking out..., posted by Dave H on Feb 17, 2001
...because they already know about the golden axe, and if they try to put it together.........!?!???? LOL! Jim Title: Re: Re: Is it easy? No... Post by: Tom on February 17, 2001, 05:00:00 AM |