meeting the primas, have you had this problem?

[jediknight]

ok, so my friend attended a wedding and had a picture taken with her cousins, upon seeing it i froze,all i could think was man... i'm in trouble, they are all hot and i'll be meeting them soon.
now i know what and who i want and i haven't lost site of my friend but... how do you guys do it, i mean the ones that goto meet o have even married a latina, isn't it tempting to look? i don't mean misbehaving and becoming a mujeriego, exactly what latinas don't want but do you find yourself just looking at the other gorgeous women?

[valleydude]

... in response to meeting the primas, have you had this pr..., posted by jediknight on Dec 14, 2004

While in Venezuela, there was a baby shower. My girl at the time, was mad at me for talking to her cousin. I reassured her that I was there for her and she said it was too late. (God that was a nightmare trying to re-assure this girl) (Will post an update later)

Anyway, I told her that I was there for her and if the situation came up again then she would see that I was there for her. Well wouldn't you know it... It was getting late and it was my last night there, two of her cousins came up to me and said "We were wondering, how would a nice looking Gringo like to go out with two single, lonely latinas on his last night in Venezuela?" Wow that was nice, but I put my hand on my girl's leg and told her cousins, "No thanks, I am with her." Well wouldn't you know it, I was in trouble for that too. Why? Because I looked at her cousins belt. The girl I was with is a psychologist and said that her cousin touched her belt to get my attention and it worked. (another nightmare)

I should have stayed in a hotel, said "Adios!" and then went with the cousins.

V-Dude

[Scott]

... in response to Re: meeting the primas, have you had thi..., posted by valleydude on Dec 15, 2004

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What are you doing going out with a psychologist?  Are you crazy?  They are the same EVERYWHERE.  Nunerouno rule.  No dating of headshrinkers.  Too much analysis going on.  Good luck.

[valleydude]

... in response to Re: Re: meeting the primas, have you had..., posted by Scott on Dec 15, 2004

Dude! I think everyone knew this but me.
Out of 100 people serveyed there were 99 "No's!" You can guess who the remaining one was. Haha!

Flip! I had nothing to hide and am an honest guy, I didn't think I would be put under the microscope but sure was.
I won't be doing that again.

V-Dude

[kented]

... in response to meeting the primas, have you had this pr..., posted by jediknight on Dec 14, 2004

My wife gives me permission to notice other beautiful women but I always say something like, "Ocho.  Dos menos que tu".

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: meeting the primas, have you had thi..., posted by kented on Dec 14, 2004

A variation on my standard line, Kented: "Muy atractiva pero menos que tu."

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: meeting the primas, have you had thi..., posted by kented on Dec 14, 2004

that's a good one, i have to remember that.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to meeting the primas, have you had this pr..., posted by jediknight on Dec 14, 2004

Of course you look. Just because you're married doesn't mean you've suddenly become blind. My wife would think something was wrong with me if I wasn't looking. Heck, when we visit her sister in Bogota, I usually ride in the front seat next to her sister who is driving. Invariably her sister is wearing a short skirt that rides up displaying a pair of incredible legs (she is a former model and Miss Colombia contestant). I have to look! It's too much to ask not to look. On the other hand, I love my wife dearly and I know that I will never see anyone I would trade her for. As I always remind her, to me she is the hottest chick on the planet!

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: meeting the primas, have you had thi..., posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 14, 2004

So, tell me more about your wife's sister. Is she single?  Is she available?  If so, do you have any pictures?  Just curious.   Just to let you know, I have a big problem with possessive, jealous natured women! I did not cheat on either one of my american wives.  However, they both were jealous concerning me; and my first wife was the one that was doing the cheating!  If I should marry a latina, I would not cheat on her eiter.  I would always try to love and honor her.  I hope this jealously crap is not rampant with all latinas, or that will get old very quickly.  I enjoyed your story anyhow.  What guy does not enjoy looking at a beautiful woman?
     
                               OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: meeting the primas, have you had..., posted by OkieMan on Dec 15, 2004

My wife's sister is a absolute doll - intelligent, beautiful, fantastic body, sweet-natured. She is a lawyer in Bogota. If I had a twin I'd get him to marry her. The problem is she has a 2 year old son and she cannot take her child with her out of Colombia without the father's consent. Many times this is not a problem but the father is a very good father, very involved and supportive. I'd hate to be the one to take the kid so far away from him. So I think this is going to be the thing that keeps her in Colombia. Since she is 40 with a child, she is never going to get married in Colombia and it's kind of a shame. She's one of the most attractive women I have ever met. Menos que su hermana, por supuesto!

About the jealousy factor. My wife and I are both kind of possessive about each other but we are don't seem to suffer from jealousy. We both treasure our relationship and we lavish a lot of affection and attention on each other so we feel pretty secure. I think that's the key.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: meeting the primas, have you..., posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 15, 2004

Just as a followup on the subject of your sister-in-law; do you mean that she is basically resigned to never getting married?  If she is beautiful and nice as you have said, that is a real shame.  But, that also brings up another question, whether it is about her and her kid, or someone else; how much trouble is it to get a lady with a child or children to move to the US?  I am sure it can vary, but just in general terms?  By the way, if this dad is so nice and involved, and she is so nice, etc; why are they not still married?  Or where they ever married?  I am not trying to be nosy, but just curious.  I figure that someday, I could be facing a very similar situation, and I need to educate myself about this sort of thing.  Besides, a single, beautiful 40 years old latina sounds pretty hot to me.  I'm 51, as I have already stated, so I like a more mature lady.  Not that the young ones aren't attractive, but I prefer a mature, intelligent, and beautiful woman.  For me, that's a deadly combination!  Oh, well, back to the salt mines.  Later.
                            OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: meeting the primas, have..., posted by OkieMan on Dec 16, 2004

No, she was never married to the child's father. I've met him - he's a nice guy but as with many Colombianos he is committment-phobic. Usually it is not a lot of trouble to get a woman with children to move to the US because the fathers are either dead (as in my case) or have abandoned the family. She's extremely hot! Like I said, if I could clone myself, I'd get my twin to marry her! As for marriage, a woman her age in Colombia with a child is never going to be able to marry. That's reality.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: meeting the primas, ..., posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 16, 2004

Okay Utopia,
I am going to say something, and please don't think that I am being silly or presumptuous. I realize that you were simply trying to make some comments concerning a certain situation.  But, all that to say this; how likely or feasible would it be if you told this lady that you know of an american guy who might be interested in her?  If you wanted to, you can look up my email address through this message board.  I am not trying to say or do anything that would not be proper.  It's just that you have done an excellent job of describing this lady.  I would be willing to tell you more about myself in a private email.  I could even attach some photos of myself.  I realize that this is probably a little "off the wall"; but as the old saying goes, nothing ventured, nothing gained.  Also, I can't remember if you said what part of the country you live in?
I live in the Tulsa, Oklahoma area.  So, for now, I've said enough.  If you would rather not, I totally understand.  However, I am still early in "the hunt" for a latin wife, so I do not have any commitments to any woman or city, or agency.  Basically, I am still trying to educate myself, and get going with this process, where ever that might lead.
At the very least, thanks for your prospective.  Take care.

                              OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: meeting the prim..., posted by OkieMan on Dec 16, 2004

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It's not off the wall at all. I would send you an email with further details but your email address is not on the site. Send me an email so I can reply.

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: meeting the primas, have you had thi..., posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 14, 2004

[This message has been edited by jediknight]

considering how jealous colombianas are, a guy needs to be careful how he looks, openly, discreetly, with or without comments.