Why do we go to LA?

[thunderbolt]

... in response to Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by Brassa on Dec 10, 2004

Well, you make an excellent point.  I don't know if most women like nice guys (definition of 'nice' varies anyway), but your point about women wanting to feel secure when with a man is definitely on target.

[slojas1]

... in response to Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by Brassa on Dec 10, 2004

I agree with you 100% on the wuss factor. I wrote on another forum on the need for the woman to feel protected and secure. If she thinks her man suffers from a bad case of wimpotence, he won't be around long. The latin woman is no different and if you are lacking cojones, she won't be around long or she will never accept going out with you. That is why bad boys will always find a girl. Simply because they make the woman feel a sense of security.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by slojas1 on Dec 11, 2004

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You're right. The bad boys, druggies, drunks, punks and anyone who treats them like crap will always know how to make a woman feel secure.

[thunderbolt]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 11, 2004

I don't think that the key is that they are 'bad' per se.  What you have to realize is that the attractive girls get attention ALL THE TIME, they always have 'nice guys' waiting in line to get with them.  However, if a guy comes along who does not act like he is needy of her or wants her especially or trying to do things to make her like him, THAT'S attractive to them, b/c it communicates to them that this guy gets with girls even more attractive than they are.  I don't know if I stated this succinctly enough, but that's my theory at least.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by thunderbolt on Dec 11, 2004

I agree that self-confidence without being obnoxious is very appealing to women.

[slojas1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by thunderbolt on Dec 11, 2004

Too often being nice is mistaken for being soft. By nature I am a caring person but when it comes to women I gave up the nice guy card a long time ago. If I feel a woman is attractive and I want to know more about her, I make sure that she realizes that it is special that I gave her my attention. It is more attitude than anything else or a deep sense of confidence and self pride. I don't mean coming across as obnoxious but being self confident and getting the message across that I will never do tricks or flips to take matters any further. The self confidence in a man is the trait that makes the woman feel secure. Bad boys have it in abundance and the women see it and feel it. On the other hand the nice guy wonders if he will see her again thus projecting an image of being unsure, softness or weakness. Which may or may not be true, but the fact is you are judged by the image you portray. I have the woman of my dreams by my side and she didn't give up her options to be with me because I project the image of being such a nice guy.
JSlo

[kented]

... in response to Re: Re: Why do we go to LA?, posted by Brassa on Dec 10, 2004

Your comments about passing the "test" with a Latina is probably correct but the difficulty with AW isn't that we don't pass the "test".  It is that there are so many tests (how much do you earn, size of house, car) and they expect so much and give so little.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Why do we go to LA?, posted by kented on Dec 9, 2004

My wife definitely considers me the head of the family. OK, the titular head of the family. She is a strong-willed woman with definite ideas and opinions of her own. She used to run 90-person shops in the textile plant and most of the workers were men. Sometimes I call her mi jefita - I guess gobernadora would be the Colombian equivalent. She can be feisty with her children but she is almost always sweet and good-natured with me. We usually discuss things between ourselves to come up with a common plan of action. In many things she defers to me because I am more familiar with American society but I usually explain why a certain action is preferable. She is an extremely intelligent woman and I would be crazy not to consult her or consider her opinion. Was I looking for a subservient woman? No, I like a woman with a little spunk who will walk beside me, not behind me.