Why it's easier to marry a foreign woman-long

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Pretty boys need love, too, posted by DallasSteve2 on Sep 9, 2004

Sounds high.I payed about $690 for my ex 2 years ago out of San Francisco.But it is constantly changing.Seasonal and all kinds of airline business competition parameters at work.Plus higher fuel costs now.Call the travel agent I listed in my post.

Pete

[Karl]

... in response to Yo, Troy!, posted by burbuja2 on Sep 9, 2004

Sorry, real pretty boys don't resent antagonism toward pretty boys.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Yo, Troy!, posted by Karl on Sep 9, 2004

We don't have any pretty boys here.They don't need us are too busy to find us.
Maybe a somewhat faded pretty boy or two,which I sort of lump myself in too.

Pete

[Locii]

... in response to Yeah but, posted by Pete E on Sep 9, 2004

Ha well I've been called pretty before, and I suppose at one time I easily fit in that category; less so today.

As a former-retiring pretty boy, I am not offended by Troy's resentment, but I find his blame set on Don Johnson to be silly.  Does this mean I should shave, by the way?

Blaming Don Johnson (or that whole image) for setting trends would be like blaming the show Friends for the current day partner-swapping.  The media (hopelessly) lags and reflects reality, it does not determine it.

Pretty boys merely have an asset that is of higher value now.  With women working and having wealthy families, they select mates for different reasons than they used to.  Not so long ago, wise men selected a woman for her ability to breed and hold weight (for birth), now we tend towards the opposite.  Women are doing the same.  You can resent it all you want, but its best to just let them have their way and play the field where you have value still.

Also, your theory that pretty boys hurt women (emotionally) more than anyone else is your own fantasy, unless you have some kind of "pretty boy study" to back it up.

In general, I agree with your sentiment...dating, even knowing american women is so boring and tedious...I think you left out the idea that they all seem (to me) neurotic, also.

Ciao

PS: I really don't want to shave.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Yeah but, posted by Locii on Sep 9, 2004

Actually I thought Don Johnson more whimp than pretty boy.In some scenes they  would have him throwing guys against buildings that looked like they could break him in two.Immage over substance here.And his so cool partner was not believably tough either.And when did the department last issue you a Ferrari Daytona? Real ones were one million then.

Pete

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Why it's easier to marry a foreign woman..., posted by Troy on Sep 8, 2004

You make some interesting points. There is one thing you said that I totally agree with you about - your comments about the posturing and dating rituals. In her profile on amigos my wife clearly stated that she was interested in finding a husband. If a man responded to her but he was not interested in marriage, that was it for him. So this eliminated a lot of guys who wanted nothing more than to play around. With her the basis for our interactions was seeing if we found each other attractive enough and compatible enough to form a lasting relationship. As a result everything about our relationship was very open and honest. Before my initial trip to see her in San Andres, we both knew that the whole point of the trip was to see if the personal chemistry, including the sexual chemistry, was there as it had been via email, on the telephone and seeing each other on the web cams. No coy little games or trying to read each other's minds etc. All upfront ahead of time - we even discussed birth control. Dealing with her was a breath of fresh air compared to all the nonsense you have to go through with an American woman. And I have to agree with you, Troy, I don't blame American women for this - it's in the culture.

[Troy]

... in response to Re: Why it's easier to marry a foreign w..., posted by utopiacowboy on Sep 9, 2004

Someone once told me that the best thing about being married is being out of the dating scene.  Now, I'm starting to fully understand that.