UPDATE--MY WIFE AND MY LIFE

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: Re: A different point of view, posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 6, 2004

There's always two sides to every story but I wouldn't recommend him taking her back.  Isn't she the gal who got him kicked out of his own house by claiming abuse.  I'd say avoid her like the plague and change your phone number.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to A different point of view, posted by Cali James on Aug 7, 2004

She is one and the same James

I am not a fool the second go around !

KB

James , when did you go to Bogota to first fill out your visa forms ?

I was there with my wife on december 16th, 2002. I want to say i saw you there , but not sure

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: A different point of view, posted by Kiltboy1 on Aug 7, 2004

Hey Kiltboy, I was there at about that time so it may very well have been me.  There were about 5 or 6 gringo couples that day.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: A different point of view, posted by Cali James on Aug 9, 2004

Hi James

yeh, that was all of us together.

there was the guy from Detroit with the wife and the daughter, the guy from Charlotte NC that had the cali wife as well and i was the tall guy from NC and my wife had the long kind of wavy hair.

I thought that was you. It rained like a dog that day while we were waiting as well.

It was a monday beciase we got married that sunday and flew to Bogota the next morning

Small world

KB

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: A different point of view, posted by Kiltboy1 on Aug 9, 2004

I was in Colombia through the end of January that trip so I went with my wife to the 2nd interviw too.  I remember seeing the same group of wives again but this time without their husbands.  To be honest, I can hardly remember what anyone looked like.....oh well.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: A different point of view, posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 6, 2004

I am not sure where you guys read that i am a bitter person, but if you have followed the situation and many on this board have met my wife in person, they will tell you as well as me that she is as decietful and underhanded as you will find. No bitterness here as i learned a lot from her as well as getting to know a new country and its people.
Bur that being said, she isnot a class act as far as a person and she is even a worse mother. The people in NY changed the way she thought and into some person that i have no idea who is. She could be on drugs for all i know.
I just do not want any part ofher and her problems any longer.

As far as my newgirl--read again--i said--and i quote "I AM NOT SURE IF SHE IS THE ONE, BUT SHE HAS SHOWN ME I DESERVE BETTER THEN MY WIFE GAVE ME ",So , that is pretty clear and there is nothing to read between the lines about , so please quit trying to analize it any longer as it is what it says it is, a wonderful person who is a good friend.

KB

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: A different point of view, posted by Kiltboy1 on Aug 6, 2004

I don't know you or your ex or your new friend so I can't say what the right move is for you in this case.  It may be that your ex is bad and you should avoid her.

What I do know is that in about 99% of the cases where men say their ex-wife is awful, they used to say she was wonderful.  In most cases she's really not as bad as they think, and may not be bad at all, just not compatible with them.  In some cases the man may even be the problem, rare though that is.

My message to you or others is that the reason the man thinks the woman is so awful is usually because she rejected him.  If she had never rejected him, he would probably still be praising her.  But the rejection hurt him and in some cases it warped his view of reality to see her as bad or worse than she really is.

Now your ex has opened the door on that rejection.  Perhaps she is really bad.  Perhaps it is just anger and fear that color the way you view her.  I think I hear anger and fear in your messages, but you and others may disagree.  Anger and fear are negative emotions that can cause us to make the wrong decisions.  I hope this in not the case.  Only you can decide.

My ex lied to me, decieved me, and cheated on me, but if I had not already found someone else I might have opened that door when she knocked because I know that no one is perfect and the separation might have changed her view of me.  And maybe not.

Steve

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: A different point of vie..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 6, 2004

Steve

she tried to get me to open the door with words of affection recently after 8 months of being a total head case

She is a prima donna as well. As i said , many men on this board have met her in person and all of them tell me that she is a real problem girl. there is no fear in my words. what you might be sencing is what is leftover of hurt feelings, but that has nothing to do with what i know her to be, which is a woman that is mentaly unstable, lies as if it were the truth, steals money as if it is not big deal, leaves her 5 year old son 2 times in cali while she "plays" in NY and then blames everyone else for her problems.

This is who she is and as i said, she taught me a lot and if i had not met her, i would still be wasting away maybe with AWs. I give her saludes for that but also i give her a rash of crap for the other stuff. I do not wish bad things, nor good things, nor anything for her ecept that i hope she turns her life around for her sons sake because he does not stand a chance with her the way she is now.

KB

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to A different point of view, posted by DallasSteve2 on Aug 6, 2004

Steve

i understand what you are saying here and as i stated in my post, only timw will tell if my friend and i will make something of a long term relationship. But my wife really is one of the most sick in the head , inmature and totaly iresposnable women you could ever want to meet. These people she has surrounded herself with in NY are slowly destroying her life. She does not even talk muchwith her 5 year old son anymore who is living with the grandparents now in cali and she has no concerete plan to know how to suppoert him if he was with her in NY.

I would not give her the time of day if she were the last woman standing. She has an attitude that she is a frigen QUEEN OF THE WORLD , and i do not need that in my life.

My friend only shows me that my life is better in a different direction. If not with her, with someone other then my wife. If my wife was a different type of person, i would tend to agree with you as i do not take marriage lightly, but in her case, SHE IS A LOST CAUSE

KB

[colgre]

... in response to UPDATE--MY WIFE AND MY LIFE, posted by Kiltboy1 on Aug 6, 2004

Congratulations! I hope it works out for you.